[polymath]

Reading a book isn't going to make you anything but more well-read.

Here's my list of man-making activity:
- Take risks.
- When you work, work hard and earnestly. When you play, play for your own satisfaction.
- Learn to swim against the current. There are times when your heart tells you one thing, and the world tells you another. Trust yourself despite your past failures.
- Follow no maxim that you yourself do not accept as wisdom.

[AlphaEnchantment]

Being non reactive to dumb shit girls do and say and keeping your cool in stressful situations are also alpha. Think of Alpha dudes such as james bond or a bouncer at a nightclub if someone talks shit to them they always keep their cool and most of the time just laugh

[Hades]

There's two routes. You could either do what OgnorCal wrote or just talk a really big game on the internet.

OK, but seriously. Lifting heavy weights will help out a lot, so will approaching girls.

[Don]

Read
- The Blueprint Decoded
- The Book of Pook

It will change your view on things and you won't make this thread ever again, trust me. You'll understand that confidence comes from within, and not by fitting a mold called 'alpha' on an internet forum.

[GenJx]

i agree that reading is important. like roosh said ina post

"Read one new book every two weeks. My old recommendation was to read only one book per month, but I no longer consider that to be enough. Reading is important because it sends a waterfall of words through your brain that want to come out during conversation. The biggest problem beginners have is maintaining interesting chats, a gap that book reading will help narrow. "

[renaissanceman87]

(05-06-2013 04:52 PM)polymath Wrote:  

Reading a book isn't going to make you anything but more well-read.

Here's my list of man-making activity:
- Take risks.
- When you work, work hard and earnestly. When you play, play for your own satisfaction.
- Learn to swim against the current. There are times when your heart tells you one thing, and the world tells you another. Trust yourself despite your past failures.
- Follow no maxim that you yourself do not accept as wisdom.

This mean speaks the truth. All these things on how to become alpha are signs of alphas, not necessarily plans of action you can take so that your behavior eventually develops Alpha.

[cardguy]

(05-06-2013 12:37 PM)CarCrashKid Wrote:  

"IF you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or being lied about, don't deal in lies,
Or being hated, don't give way to hating,
And yet don't look too good, nor talk too wise:
If you can dream - and not make dreams your master;
If you can think - and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you've spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build 'em up with worn-out tools:

If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breathe a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: 'Hold on!'

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
' Or walk with Kings - nor lose the common touch,
if neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds' worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that's in it,
And - which is more - you'll be a Man, my son!"
-Rudyard Kipling

Great poem!

[Stun]

(05-06-2013 02:52 PM)Game Keeper Wrote:  

I read what you wrote about making eye contact, OGnorCal707. I have always made eye contact with people I am talking too, but there are some peope who never let your eyes go either. And when this happens awkward moments appear. This guy who I am living with ( would not say he is alpha) never takes his eyes off when I am talking to him. I find it really annoying because it becomes unnatural. And now I find myself taking eye contact away from people to quick because I think of him. How do you deal with this?

During conversation, make eye contact 90% of the time when you are talking, and 50% of the time while you are listening.

[rivelino]

if you have a lot of beta tendencies, that probably means you have a lot of nice guy tendencies. for example:

-putting the needs of others before your own needs
-not being assertive in asking for what you want
-not being aggressive in just *taking* what you want
-not being confident in how you deal with women, and people in general
-not being confident enough in asking other people to help you accomplish your goals
-being ashamed of your sexual needs

an amazing book written especially to understand and get rid of your nice guy tendencies is no more mr. nice guy by robert glover.

getting rid of these nice guy tendencies will immediately make you more calm assertive, more confident, and thus more alpha.

i used to the ultimate nice guy, the ultimate sucker. i have a kind, giving nature, plus so does my dad. i learned a lot of it from him. plus i was raised catholic. plus i was naturally shy and introverted. i didn't get laid until i was 21, and i had a lot of sexual shame.

"no more mr. nice guy" really, really helped me. for me, it belongs in the game 101: introduction to game syllabus.

my game 101 syllabus:

1. roissy's 16 commandments
2. no more mr. nice guy
3. the way of the superior man
4. lovedrop's 13 audio cd series
5. the misandry bubble essay
6. the best posts from danger & play
7. "The Only Piece of Advice You Will Ever Need to Pick Up and Attract Women and Keep Them Vying For Your Love, Attention and Affection" by victor pride

those are my top 7 resources.

of course, there is other amazing stuff that has been written by mystery, roosh, roissy, yohami, krauser, rollo, dalrock, tyler from RSD, tom and jon and yad at daygame.com, danny, deti, xsplat, doug1, maverick traveler, badger --- so many amazing resources. even susan wrote a great, useful essay, an honest account of woman and their nasty need to shit test men.

but those are my top 7, encompassing different aspects of game.

good luck man. it's an amazing journey, that of becoming a real man.

[OGNorCal707]

I got No More Mr. Nice Guy, definitely plan on reading it soon, seems to come highly recommended by a bunch of people, may just reinforce stuff I've already learned, but often times you need to constantly reinforce and reaffirm this stuff, or you will backslide into old ("beta"/?) ways.

[el mechanico]

How do you feel when shit's wrong? Bad? Sad? Hurt?

When shit isn't going your way fuck up all the shit pissing you off without getting arrested. Learn how to walk that tightrope.

[Brob2234]

Good message by Rampage Jackson

[rivelino]

(05-26-2013 09:07 PM)OGNorCal707 Wrote:  

I got No More Mr. Nice Guy, definitely plan on reading it soon, seems to come highly recommended by a bunch of people, may just reinforce stuff I've already learned, but often times you need to constantly reinforce and reaffirm this stuff, or you will backslide into old ("beta"/?) ways.

exactly.

i have been working on getting rid of my beta tendencies for three solid years, and i still backslide sometimes. i make it a habit to read roissy's 16 commandments at least once a month -- i am even toying with the idea of making flash cards -- and i listen to lovedrop about once every other month. i should re-read no more mr. nice guy, now that i think about it.

the way i see it, i was raised to be a beta by my parents and my society from ages 5 to 35, that's about thirty years of programming. three years of counter-programming has helped a lot, but there is still a lot of work to be done!

[eradicator]

(05-26-2013 08:57 PM)rivelino Wrote:  

if you have a lot of beta tendencies, that probably means you have a lot of nice guy tendencies. for example:

-putting the needs of others before your own needs
-not being assertive in asking for what you want
-not being aggressive in just *taking* what you want
-not being confident in how you deal with women, and people in general
-not being confident enough in asking other people to help you accomplish your goals
-being ashamed of your sexual needs

an amazing book written especially to understand and get rid of your nice guy tendencies is no more mr. nice guy by robert glover.

getting rid of these nice guy tendencies will immediately make you more calm assertive, more confident, and thus more alpha.

i used to the ultimate nice guy, the ultimate sucker. i have a kind, giving nature, plus so does my dad. i learned a lot of it from him. plus i was raised catholic. plus i was naturally shy and introverted. i didn't get laid until i was 21, and i had a lot of sexual shame.

"no more mr. nice guy" really, really helped me. for me, it belongs in the game 101: introduction to game syllabus.

my game 101 syllabus:

1. roissy's 16 commandments
2. no more mr. nice guy
3. the way of the superior man
4. lovedrop's 13 audio cd series
5. the misandry bubble essay
6. the best posts from danger & play
7. "The Only Piece of Advice You Will Ever Need to Pick Up and Attract Women and Keep Them Vying For Your Love, Attention and Affection" by victor pride

those are my top 7 resources.

of course, there is other amazing stuff that has been written by mystery, roosh, roissy, yohami, krauser, rollo, dalrock, tyler from RSD, tom and jon and yad at daygame.com, danny, deti, xsplat, doug1, maverick traveler, badger --- so many amazing resources. even susan wrote a great, useful essay, an honest account of woman and their nasty need to shit test men.

but those are my top 7, encompassing different aspects of game.

good luck man. it's an amazing journey, that of becoming a real man.

I just read roissy's list and think #xiv should be #i.(fuck her good). If you can do that consistently and you are both happy with the hot sex, that will go a long ways. Granted, the fucking is only like 5% of the time with your woman, but it is an important 5%.

[Giovonny]

(04-16-2012 09:37 PM)Giovonny Wrote:  

(04-16-2012 02:20 PM)WesternCancer Wrote:  

Giovonny: how do you go about figuring out fears + eliminating them from your mind? Any resources or tips to share?

WesternCancer,

Here is a bunch of stuff that I wrote over the last few years. Alot of it will sound repetitive but I think you will find some techniques that you like.

However, my philosophy and techniques are always evolving. At the end of this post I will write my most current and up-to-date plan for eliminating fear from your body and mind

(02-09-2012 01:14 PM)Giovonny Wrote:  

The short answer is to simply do more repititions of whatever it is that you're scared of. If your scared to talk to girls, talk to 100 girls, if your scared to give speeches, give 100 speeches.

Facing your fear head on is the alpha thing to do!

I also recommened doing things that are much scarier then talking to girls like:

skydiving
bungee jumping
handling large snakes
Public speaking
fighting (like live sparring for boxing/mma)
talking to a therapist about your deepest fears (this is a highly underrated inner game tactic)


And simultaneously,

Addresing your specific fears like:

heights
flying
the dark
etc.

When you eliminate your deep seeded childhood fears, all other little fears melt away. Fear and confidence are in a constant struggle to control your mind. Attack your fear and feed your confidence!

(02-10-2012 03:01 PM)Giovonny Wrote:  

This type of stuff has worked for me. I take fear elimination very serious.

Conquering my fear and feeding my confidence has been maybe the most important thing in my life the last few years. I realized that the less fear I have, the happier I am, the more free I am. That might be the most fundamental part of Game - having no fear. Its so liberating. You don't have to worry about people judging you, people liking you, or trying to fit in. You are free to just be yourself and have fun. You don't give a fuck! (when fear is gone)

I can't live with fear. I feel like a little pussy loser who is afraid to face the world. So I attack fear. I've talked to many sports psychologists and many colleagues in psychology to develop a strategy that works for my specific situation. I work hard on "inner game" because game begins in the mind.

Fear has infected many people. Everybody is so scared of everything. I can't live like that. I live for fearlessness.

(02-11-2012 03:29 PM)pitt Wrote:  

Giovonny just one more thing. You mentioned all important things apart from working out or lifting weights, dont you think that this can be a very effective tool in eliminating fear? Dont you think that this can help eliminating fear?

(02-12-2012 01:53 PM)Giovonny Wrote:  

Working on all aspects of your appearance is very important!

You want to look as good as possible, of course.

But I consider that "outer game". It doesn't fix the weaknesses is your mind. (though it may help them somewhat)

I think we have to work on both at the same time.

If lifting weights works for you then of course due it hard.

But, don't ignore those little fears that are in the back of your head when you go to bed at night. If you can conquer those, you will go to another level.

I'm trying to get to an almost spiritual level where its like I'm on ecstasy even though I'm not.

http://www.rooshvforum.network/thread-6994-page-3.html

(02-12-2012 03:33 PM)pitt Wrote:  

Do you mind if you breakdown how you go along with skydiving, bungee jumping, handling large snakes etc, i mean, do you do those activities on regular basis (for example twice a week) or you reccommend to do it for a one time life experience

(02-12-2012 04:18 PM)Giovonny Wrote:  

I didn't know about "game" when I did those things, but now when I look back, I think those things helped me. I've only done those things once in my life and would never do them again but I'm glad I did it once. With skydiving and bungee-jumping, once is enough to shake you up a little. I thought I was dead, so when I got back on the ground I was approaching like crazy.

You should do something extreme like this asap AND find a fear eliminating exercise that you can do on a regular basis. Maybe a boxing/mma gym or a rock climbing class or firing range where you can shoot guns or surfing or something that will force you to face some fear.

AND, You should identify the top 2 or 3 fears that are holding you back from being the man you want to be and aggressively attack them.

AND, you should consider talking to a professional therapist about any fear that you may have carried from your childhood. If you have any "issues", deal with them honestly and aggressively.

Design a fear elimination game plan and get to work.

So you are doing extreme once in a lifetime stuff, regular confidence boosting maintenance, and also working on root of the problem in your mind. AND, at the same time you are improving your "outer game" in terms of appearance, vibe, and conversation.

Thats what I would do. (Thats what worked for me)

Oh, and I must admit, these helped alot too..

http://www.rooshvforum.network/thread-6998.html

(09-29-2011 04:08 PM)Giovonny Wrote:  

Something related that I posted last year:

I learned this by accident but something that helped me was DOING THINGS THAT WERE MUCH SCARIER THEN APPROACHING GIRLS.

I went skydiving and nearly shit my pants, when i got back on the ground i couldn't wait to approach girls..i had just experienced a great deal of fear and i was laughing it off...approaching girls didn't seem that scary anymore.

Other things that helped were boxing in the Golden Gloves, talking to my mom about why she left my dad, bungee jumping, etc. The bottom line is the more you face your fears...the less fear you will have stored in your body/mind...when you eliminate all that fear, approaching girls is easy.

(07-06-2011 04:26 AM)Giovonny Wrote:  

Another way to increase confidence is to deal with any unresolved emotional issues that you might have. I think that stuff is deep Inner Game. Carrying around alot of emotional baggage can have a negative effect on your vibe. Sometimes you gotta just stay home alone for a few days and really think about stuff. If you have more internal peace, you might be more comfortable and have more confidence.

Talking to my parents about why they divorced helped me get over alot of anger and pain.

Which allowed me to be more relaxed and soften my vibe so that it was more attractive to females. My sense of humor picked up and my attitude was more playful and less intense. I started dressing with more swag because I was more comfortable with who I was.

Forgiving someone, forgiving yourself, having a heart to heart talk with a parent or sibling, these kinds of things can sometimes release weight off your chest and allow you to display more of your "best self".

As far as approaching girls to build confidence?

I think its the best way. Because you are killing 8 birds with one stone.

When you approach a cute girl, you are working on your:

confidence
vibe
body language
eye-ball language
conversational skills
social skills
quick wit/humor
quick thinking/problem solving

And it builds the right kind of confidence. Confidence in talking to cute girls.

Here is my most current answer:

If fear is controlling your life and you lack confidence..

Get professional help!

Yes, that is my answer. If your fear is paralyzing you and you can barely take action, that is what you need. You can figure it out on your own but that will take alot longer and wil have alot more ups and downs. A professional psychologist or therapist can help you identify your fears, their causes, and how to eliminate them. Those people do this everyday. This will kick start and accelerate your fear elimination process. Try different people and find one that you like. Once you get your fears identified and their roots, you can really get to work. I only did this for about a month when I was a teen but I wish I would have done it more.

I would compare it to getting into game. What would be better? Reading and studying on your own? Or, doing a bootcamp with Roosh?

The bootcamp with Roosh would probably be more helpful. Because he is A PROFESSIONAL!

Spend the money, take the time, get professional help!

Doctors, psychologists, psychiatrists, therapists, counselors, life coaches, puas, etc.

Find the people who are experts at your situation!

Also,

Here are some techniques that I didn't mention in the earlier posts..

1)Google "eliminating fear" and educate yourself

http://www.google.com/search?rlz=1C1CHNY...ating+fear

2)Read books on the subject

Here an author that I like:

http://www.oshoquotes.net/2009/12/osho-q...-of-death/

3) Traveling

For some reason experiencing another far away culture often helps eliminate some fear.

4) Meditation

This means different things to different people. For me, its just getting into a situation where I don't have to think, I can just react and play. I play soccer, basketball, and tennis. I do yoga. I dance. These things allow me to operate without thoughts or fears. These things come mostly from my muscle memory, I don't have to think. This break from fear and thought allows me to see who I really am. I am a guy who sees that there is no reason to be scared. If I am scared, then I am confused by my thoughts. Make sense?

http://www.rooshvforum.network/thread-12105-...#pid196488

[BarkChompson]

(05-28-2013 01:22 PM)Giovonny Wrote:  

(04-16-2012 09:37 PM)Giovonny Wrote:  

(04-16-2012 02:20 PM)WesternCancer Wrote:  

Giovonny: how do you go about figuring out fears + eliminating them from your mind? Any resources or tips to share?

WesternCancer,

Here is a bunch of stuff that I wrote over the last few years. Alot of it will sound repetitive but I think you will find some techniques that you like.

However, my philosophy and techniques are always evolving. At the end of this post I will write my most current and up-to-date plan for eliminating fear from your body and mind

(02-09-2012 01:14 PM)Giovonny Wrote:  

The short answer is to simply do more repititions of whatever it is that you're scared of. If your scared to talk to girls, talk to 100 girls, if your scared to give speeches, give 100 speeches.

Facing your fear head on is the alpha thing to do!

I also recommened doing things that are much scarier then talking to girls like:

skydiving
bungee jumping
handling large snakes
Public speaking
fighting (like live sparring for boxing/mma)
talking to a therapist about your deepest fears (this is a highly underrated inner game tactic)


And simultaneously,

Addresing your specific fears like:

heights
flying
the dark
etc.

When you eliminate your deep seeded childhood fears, all other little fears melt away. Fear and confidence are in a constant struggle to control your mind. Attack your fear and feed your confidence!

(02-10-2012 03:01 PM)Giovonny Wrote:  

This type of stuff has worked for me. I take fear elimination very serious.

Conquering my fear and feeding my confidence has been maybe the most important thing in my life the last few years. I realized that the less fear I have, the happier I am, the more free I am. That might be the most fundamental part of Game - having no fear. Its so liberating. You don't have to worry about people judging you, people liking you, or trying to fit in. You are free to just be yourself and have fun. You don't give a fuck! (when fear is gone)

I can't live with fear. I feel like a little pussy loser who is afraid to face the world. So I attack fear. I've talked to many sports psychologists and many colleagues in psychology to develop a strategy that works for my specific situation. I work hard on "inner game" because game begins in the mind.

Fear has infected many people. Everybody is so scared of everything. I can't live like that. I live for fearlessness.

(02-11-2012 03:29 PM)pitt Wrote:  

Giovonny just one more thing. You mentioned all important things apart from working out or lifting weights, dont you think that this can be a very effective tool in eliminating fear? Dont you think that this can help eliminating fear?

(02-12-2012 01:53 PM)Giovonny Wrote:  

Working on all aspects of your appearance is very important!

You want to look as good as possible, of course.

But I consider that "outer game". It doesn't fix the weaknesses is your mind. (though it may help them somewhat)

I think we have to work on both at the same time.

If lifting weights works for you then of course due it hard.

But, don't ignore those little fears that are in the back of your head when you go to bed at night. If you can conquer those, you will go to another level.

I'm trying to get to an almost spiritual level where its like I'm on ecstasy even though I'm not.

http://www.rooshvforum.network/thread-6994-page-3.html

(02-12-2012 03:33 PM)pitt Wrote:  

Do you mind if you breakdown how you go along with skydiving, bungee jumping, handling large snakes etc, i mean, do you do those activities on regular basis (for example twice a week) or you reccommend to do it for a one time life experience

(02-12-2012 04:18 PM)Giovonny Wrote:  

I didn't know about "game" when I did those things, but now when I look back, I think those things helped me. I've only done those things once in my life and would never do them again but I'm glad I did it once. With skydiving and bungee-jumping, once is enough to shake you up a little. I thought I was dead, so when I got back on the ground I was approaching like crazy.

You should do something extreme like this asap AND find a fear eliminating exercise that you can do on a regular basis. Maybe a boxing/mma gym or a rock climbing class or firing range where you can shoot guns or surfing or something that will force you to face some fear.

AND, You should identify the top 2 or 3 fears that are holding you back from being the man you want to be and aggressively attack them.

AND, you should consider talking to a professional therapist about any fear that you may have carried from your childhood. If you have any "issues", deal with them honestly and aggressively.

Design a fear elimination game plan and get to work.

So you are doing extreme once in a lifetime stuff, regular confidence boosting maintenance, and also working on root of the problem in your mind. AND, at the same time you are improving your "outer game" in terms of appearance, vibe, and conversation.

Thats what I would do. (Thats what worked for me)

Oh, and I must admit, these helped alot too..

http://www.rooshvforum.network/thread-6998.html

(09-29-2011 04:08 PM)Giovonny Wrote:  

Something related that I posted last year:

I learned this by accident but something that helped me was DOING THINGS THAT WERE MUCH SCARIER THEN APPROACHING GIRLS.

I went skydiving and nearly shit my pants, when i got back on the ground i couldn't wait to approach girls..i had just experienced a great deal of fear and i was laughing it off...approaching girls didn't seem that scary anymore.

Other things that helped were boxing in the Golden Gloves, talking to my mom about why she left my dad, bungee jumping, etc. The bottom line is the more you face your fears...the less fear you will have stored in your body/mind...when you eliminate all that fear, approaching girls is easy.

(07-06-2011 04:26 AM)Giovonny Wrote:  

Another way to increase confidence is to deal with any unresolved emotional issues that you might have. I think that stuff is deep Inner Game. Carrying around alot of emotional baggage can have a negative effect on your vibe. Sometimes you gotta just stay home alone for a few days and really think about stuff. If you have more internal peace, you might be more comfortable and have more confidence.

Talking to my parents about why they divorced helped me get over alot of anger and pain.

Which allowed me to be more relaxed and soften my vibe so that it was more attractive to females. My sense of humor picked up and my attitude was more playful and less intense. I started dressing with more swag because I was more comfortable with who I was.

Forgiving someone, forgiving yourself, having a heart to heart talk with a parent or sibling, these kinds of things can sometimes release weight off your chest and allow you to display more of your "best self".

As far as approaching girls to build confidence?

I think its the best way. Because you are killing 8 birds with one stone.

When you approach a cute girl, you are working on your:

confidence
vibe
body language
eye-ball language
conversational skills
social skills
quick wit/humor
quick thinking/problem solving

And it builds the right kind of confidence. Confidence in talking to cute girls.

Here is my most current answer:

If fear is controlling your life and you lack confidence..

Get professional help!

Yes, that is my answer. If your fear is paralyzing you and you can barely take action, that is what you need. You can figure it out on your own but that will take alot longer and wil have alot more ups and downs. A professional psychologist or therapist can help you identify your fears, their causes, and how to eliminate them. Those people do this everyday. This will kick start and accelerate your fear elimination process. Try different people and find one that you like. Once you get your fears identified and their roots, you can really get to work. I only did this for about a month when I was a teen but I wish I would have done it more.

I would compare it to getting into game. What would be better? Reading and studying on your own? Or, doing a bootcamp with Roosh?

The bootcamp with Roosh would probably be more helpful. Because he is A PROFESSIONAL!

Spend the money, take the time, get professional help!

Doctors, psychologists, psychiatrists, therapists, counselors, life coaches, puas, etc.

Find the people who are experts at your situation!

Also,

Here are some techniques that I didn't mention in the earlier posts..

1)Google "eliminating fear" and educate yourself

http://www.google.com/search?rlz=1C1CHNY...ating+fear

2)Read books on the subject

Here an author that I like:

http://www.oshoquotes.net/2009/12/osho-q...-of-death/

3) Traveling

For some reason experiencing another far away culture often helps eliminate some fear.

4) Meditation

This means different things to different people. For me, its just getting into a situation where I don't have to think, I can just react and play. I play soccer, basketball, and tennis. I do yoga. I dance. These things allow me to operate without thoughts or fears. These things come mostly from my muscle memory, I don't have to think. This break from fear and thought allows me to see who I really am. I am a guy who sees that there is no reason to be scared. If I am scared, then I am confused by my thoughts. Make sense?

http://www.rooshvforum.network/thread-12105-...#pid196488

I think I've liked this post like five times and have it favorited on two browsers.

[BarkChompson]

(05-05-2013 09:30 PM)OGNorCal707 Wrote:  

I'll add some more:

Push yourself outside of your comfort zones, try new things, don't fear the unknown

Travel the world (see and experience a new culture, new continent, new foods, languages, women, landscapes)

Read good books on important topics, topics that will enrich your life

Value your word, be honest, and fair in your dealings with people, you can be cunning and smart, but don't be conniving

Treat others with respect, just because you are an alpha and your shit is together, doesn't mean you shit on those less well off

Always be true to yourself, don't change who you are for a woman, your parents, your social group, or peer pressure

Trust your instincts and don't second guess yourself!

I like fear. It lets me know I'm encountering unknown territory. When that adrenaline hits, act. If you power through and don't let yourself freeze up, you made the right decision. Even if it doesn't turn out the way you wanted, it's better than inaction.

[dog24]

i liked all the responses ive read i did such things myself, but for me the two most importants things which im still working on are 1. be big 2. get in a lot of fights and win.... once you achieve those 2 things all that inner game crap falls into place, i had inner game issues because i was getting negative feedback from my peers once they realize you can beat them up (and in some cases you will have to) suddenly you dont feel like checking if what you said offended somebody, you dont give a shit about eye contact and all those amogtactics it is very important to realize that you cant have one without the other, if you are big (like 220+) and guys sense weakness in you theyll try to amog the shit out of you to make themselves look good, and if you get a rep for fighting but youre a skinny guy youll get challenged to a fight almost weekly. Also if youre not already considered and alpha within a group of people (because you werent there yet) dont bother trying to change the way they see or treat you, just find new friends, or get a different job. ive tried and it just ends bad, there are tons of "why do my friends wont accept the new me now that ive changed" threads in the manosphere. so to sum it up go to the gym take steroids if you have to, get in a lot of fights which of course im not advicing challenge random people on the street, do boxing or muay thai and get a bunch of amateur fights.