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04-15-2013, 07:42 PM
hug or shake hands?
Im thinking hug to build some touching connection and make her feel comfortable but I dont want to push her away either by doing this.
I'm in a mid tier city in the usa
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04-15-2013, 08:04 PM
This was my first time on okcupid where we only had a brief conversation with each other yesterday and all I know about her is her first name. I feel like Hug is the definite answer but I dont want to have to recover if she reacts weirdly since we barely know each other.
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04-15-2013, 08:11 PM
Shake hands? You only do that to other dudes or some old woman you have no interest in.
Give her a hug and a kiss on both cheeks.
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04-15-2013, 08:17 PM
Never shake hands. Hug.
Also, there's already a thread on OKcupid that answers this exact question. Do a search next time.
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hug or shake hands on first date from okcupid?
04-15-2013, 08:31 PM
I depends a little on what culture you are dating in. In a western country you obviously hug, but if it is a conservative SE Asian girl I`d consider just shake her hand if I hadn`t talked to for a long time. This to make her feel "safe" with you and hide the fact that you are a player waiting to bend her over.
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04-15-2013, 08:31 PM
I don't do either. I touch her on the upper arm
If she initiates a shake or hug I return it I return it but only slightly
i want her to feel that she has to win me over
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04-15-2013, 09:07 PM
A huge hug. Pick her up and spin her around. Kiss on the cheek than try the lips. Go big son.
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04-15-2013, 10:10 PM
haha next time I will do hug. This girl looked like a cute little asian on her pictures but I think they must've been at least 3 or 4 years old. I should've taken the hint when she told me she had been in a car wreck recently and hasn't been able to work out in awhile.
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04-15-2013, 10:27 PM
if you're meeting a girl from okcupid I think a handshake is fine. a lot of times the girl will say, "no, let's hug" which is a good sign.
I'm usually escalating within 2 minutes anyway, using my hands to guide her to her seat, touching her when asking a question, etc. - so the physical contact (or lack thereof) I make in the first 5 seconds of meeting her doesn't matter much.
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04-16-2013, 01:07 AM
I always go for the hug and if she sticks her hand out I'll just say "come here, I'm a hugger" and I don't think I've ever been denied. Also what Plauge said. Start the kino immediately and don't let up.
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04-16-2013, 02:03 AM
You guys are rationalizing your fears. If you feel awkward about it's going to come out awkwar. Do it with the right energy and she will follow your lead.
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04-16-2013, 03:37 AM
two kisses sometimes, sometimes I just hold my hand out and say "hey, let's go" and pull her along and within a minute she'll have her arm around mine as we walk
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04-16-2013, 04:17 PM
A handshake is reserved for male friends, business partners or prospects, colleagues, or your elders. A hug is reserved for female friends and women you have known for a while and are comfortable with. When meeting a date, or just being introduced a new, casual, female aquaintance by someone else for the first time what I do is give them one or two kisses on the cheeks. Normally I always give two but it depends on whether or not I know or guess they are European or of European descent but I usually dont give it much thought since it's mostly a spontanious action on my part and Im not going to stop in the middle of going for the second kiss. As for your particular situation always kiss on the cheek. Simply doing that sets you apart from many other guys.
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04-17-2013, 02:15 PM
I think a Borat-style high five would charm the pants off her myself.