[Enigma]

The comedian Bill Burr is in town tomorrow night and I really want to go. I asked a couple male friends and they already have stuff going on so I invited one of my mLTR girls.

She texted me yesterday as she usually does and I told her to come and she responded with an enthusiastic yes. Today I texted her while stuck in traffic saying that I got out of work early but spent the extra time stuck in traffic. When she responded I planned to 1. confirm times/the plan for tomorrow as I had just purchased the tickets online 2. feel out possibly meeting up tonight. She also complained yesterday that I never text her first so I figured that'd kill a third bird. The problem is I texted her around 5 and she has not responded over 4 hours later.

She had mentioned possibly having plans tonight when I talked to her yesterday but she is always very good about texting me back quickly. Maybe she's fucking another guy, maybe my phone just missed the text as it occasionally does, whatever. The problem is I already dropped bread on this second ticket...I don't really expect her to bail but I don't want to be stuck looking for someone else to go last minute. At the same time I'm annoyed that she ignored me but I'm not sure if it'd be an overreaction to go ahead and invite someone else over one missed text that for all I know she could have a legit reason for.

Any advice?

[j r]

Invite someone else. Or go by yourself and talk to women while you're there.

[martaj]

(04-10-2013 08:54 PM)j r Wrote:  

Invite someone else. Or go by yourself and talk to women while you're there.

i second that

[StealthAlpha]

Invite a bro and game girls there. Or bro out. And have fun without poosy.

[kinjutsu]

Yeah see if you can swoop a fly girl there.
At any point a girl acts indignant to me through no fault of my own a simple soft next and "I'll talk to you later".
Radio silence for 7 days.

Never rely on a lizard to get back to you about anything.
Never let your plans for a night rest with a girl who isn't your wife/serious LTR.
Invite her along, anything but a strong yes and you say "this doesn't seem like your kinda thing/deal, I'll ask someone else"

[Enigma]

(04-10-2013 10:35 PM)kinjutsu Wrote:  

Yeah see if you can swoop a fly girl there.
At any point a girl acts indignant to me through no fault of my own a simple soft next and "I'll talk to you later".
Radio silence for 7 days.

Never rely on a lizard to get back to you about anything.
Never let your plans for a night rest with a girl who isn't your wife/serious LTR.
Invite her along, anything but a strong yes and you say "this doesn't seem like your kinda thing/deal, I'll ask someone else"

Well she did give me a strong yes last night. When I told her to come, she replied "okay!" and I responded with the venue's location, the start time, and told her I'd be getting the tickets soon. Then the conversation got sidetracked without me ever specifically saying "meet me here at x time". We talk often (she usually initiates) and had discussed getting up tonight so I texted her on my way home.

As far as I'm concerned we're on. She has flaked on soft plans once a few weeks ago but she apologized when I called her on it and is generally not too much trouble. Responds to texts quickly even when I take time to respond, pays for drinks, food, coffee, etc. often, does favors. I am not exclusive with this girl but she is a strong member of my rotation.

So I'm wondering whether if it's cause for concern and worth breaking off our plans because she missed one random text. The past couple times I have asked for advice on here people have said I was too harsh with the girls.

[Vitriol]

(04-11-2013 12:16 AM)Enigma Wrote:  

As far as I'm concerned we're on. She has flaked on soft plans once a few weeks ago but she apologized when I called her on it and is generally not too much trouble. Responds to texts quickly even when I take time to respond, pays for drinks, food, coffee, etc. often, does favors. I am not exclusive with this girl but she is a strong member of my rotation.

So I'm wondering whether if it's cause for concern and worth breaking off our plans because she missed one random text. The past couple times I have asked for advice on here people have said I was too harsh with the girls.

Bullshit, from what I can tell you're in the U.S. trust me this girl is probably a piece of shit and has all kinds of shit going either in her head or with other dudes that you don't even know about. Let it go and move on. I made those kinds of mistakes when I was younger and now I look back on how stupid it was.

[ChocolateCockOfZeus]

There's no such thing as a "strong yes" in phone game. A flake is gonna flake at random.

[CJ]

"Maybe she's fucking someone else"

Not necessarily that, but she probably has plans with some other dude. Girls will often flake with radio silence in these spots because they don't know exactly what to say, or are bad liars.

Don't worry, you said she's "one" of your regulars, and this is to be expected. She knows you're not committing to her, so she is going to keep looking for whats best for her. Just part of the game, she may pop back in from time to time, but depending on how her night went, you'll probably want to replace her in your rotation. Keeps things fresh anyway.

[Enigma]

(04-14-2013 03:24 PM)CJ Wrote:  

"Maybe she's fucking someone else"

Not necessarily that, but she probably has plans with some other dude. Girls will often flake with radio silence in these spots because they don't know exactly what to say, or are bad liars.

Don't worry, you said she's "one" of your regulars, and this is to be expected. She knows you're not committing to her, so she is going to keep looking for whats best for her. Just part of the game, she may pop back in from time to time, but depending on how her night went, you'll probably want to replace her in your rotation. Keeps things fresh anyway.

Well, long story short, I don't believe she actually got my text. Yeah, I know, this sounds like complete bullshit and I was skeptical at first but without going into too much detail I have fairly good reason to believe it to be true. Not to mention that it happens often with my mom and with other people I know which is why I briefly mentioned the possibility in my OP. Even if she ignored me, I'm not sweating it. I simply went with someone else. We are supposed to hang tomorrow though.

But definitely good advice as we've all had that happen.