[greensmycolor]

So i was talking to this cute chick at a party, we were laughing and all that good stuff but every now and then she would mention her boyfriend(he was not at the party). Not actually him but something like "im thinking of getting new rims on my car" she would be like "oh yea my boyfriend got these nice ones that are blah blah" Do you think shes hinting to me shes happily in a relationship? but why waste my time if you have a happy relationship

[Ziltoid]

(04-10-2013 04:45 AM)greensmycolor Wrote:  

Do you think shes hinting to me shes happily in a relationship? but why waste my time if you have a happy relationship

Because she doesn't care about your time, and being in a relationship doesn't mean that she no longer likes attention and validation from other guys.

It's up to you if you want to continue giving her that validation after she drops a line about having a boyfriend, based on if you think she may part ways with the guy soon or something, or (if it's within your morals) if you think she'll bang you anyway.

On the other hand... If you're new to game or social skills aren't your strongest suit there's nothing wrong with spending some time chatting it up with a chick you know you won't be getting with solely to build your conversational and flirting skills, as long as you aren't passing up better options in the process. I'm a pretty quiet and withdrawn guy by nature, and kind of had to force myself into doing this for a while to make much progress.

[Parlay44]

You gotta feel it out.

She's either:

1. Shit-testing you to see if you really want her. Seeing if you'll push through it.
2. Milking you for attention and dropping the boyfriend line to keep you at a distance.

I'd try some light friendly kino and see how she responds.

My favorites
...I like your hair. Reach over and feel it or run your fingers through.
Can I see your ring? She puts her hand in your palm and you rub the back of her
hand as you're holding it.

[Amigoish]

If she is not in my social circle, I'd just ignore what she said and go kino anyways.

(04-10-2013 05:46 AM)Parlay44 Wrote:  

You gotta feel it out.

I'd try some light friendly kino and see how she responds.

[greensmycolor]

appreciate the replys guys, im gonna just keep it friendly because she added me on facebook and i saw shes been with this guy for like forever. Usually i think if her boyfriend is not your friend or anything its fair game Also is kino a word used to describe being physical with the girl?

[4profit]

(04-10-2013 09:01 PM)greensmycolor Wrote:  

appreciate the replys guys, im gonna just keep it friendly because she added me on facebook and i saw shes been with this guy for like forever. Usually i think if her boyfriend is not your friend or anything its fair game Also is kino a word used to describe being physical with the girl?

I think the full term is "kino escalation".

[guerrilla]

on an interesting related note, how you guys divert from when a girl you're kinda seein brings up her exbf and talks about him...

i've had success saying something like, "hey that's cool about 'that guy' but I'd rather talk about us, whaddaya think?"

The times I've used it the girl always looks at me for a sec than goes "yeah, I'm sorry" then gives a kiss.

[scorpion]

There is only one response.

[XXL]

Actions speak louder than words.

If you really want to KNOW what's up in those type of BF situations then try to kiss the girl. A couple of times. She will either go for it or tell you to stop it.

[Amigoish]

(04-10-2013 09:01 PM)greensmycolor Wrote:  

Usually i think if her boyfriend is not your friend or anything its fair game

I once was in this new social circle and gamed a girl who had a boyfriend. The girl responded well but then flaked out of the blue. Then I felt I was kicked out that social circle because of that, never been called again to do any shit together. I don't care, though.

[Naridimo5]

Show as less interest as possible and move ahead with your own game. I've screwed several girls who flashed this card. It's a way some of them say "I'm not looking for commitments... I just want you to fuck me"
So if she keeps coming to u, do just that..

[Hades]

"A boyfriend's just a placeholder until you find a man."

[Timoteo]

Pretend like you didn't even hear it, and proceed like you would any girl you were trying to fuck. The fact that she passively dropped the boyfriend reference into conversation leaves you the opening. If at some point she throws up the stop sign, you'll know then. Then you give her a wink and a smile, and tell her it was nice meeting/talking to her...

[little wing]

"Oh so you have a boyfriend?"
"Yes bla bla"
"That's cool, I'm not the jealous type/Fine, then you have something to do when I'm not around"

[Gmac]

Sometimes chicks really do have a boyfriend and have no interest in pursuing anything with you. If she flirts and continues dialogue, she could be either of the following:

*Attention whoring with no intention to sleep with anyone
*Shit-testing by bringing up the boyfriend
*Wants the D
*Any combination of the above

Just because a girl carries on a conversation with you doesn't mean you're getting into her pants. Guys tend to forget that sometimes and see it as another obstacle to conquer. The only true way to know for sure is to keep upping the ante until she shuts you down and leaves or you shut her up with your penis.

[Noir]

(05-18-2013 07:42 PM)Gmac Wrote:  

Sometimes chicks really do have a boyfriend and have no interest in pursuing anything with you. If she flirts and continues dialogue, she could be either of the following:

*Attention whoring with no intention to sleep with anyone
*Shit-testing by bringing up the boyfriend
*Wants the D
*Any combination of the above

Just because a girl carries on a conversation with you doesn't mean you're getting into her pants. Guys tend to forget that sometimes and see it as another obstacle to conquer. The only true way to know for sure is to keep upping the ante until she shuts you down and leaves or you shut her up with your penis.

Agreed-

You gotta get a feel for it. Words mean nothing, the most important thing no matter what game she's playing is to be cool, congruent and not phased whatsoever. Either way invade her personal space (kino for you pooah linguists) and you will find out soon enough.

[AlbertoDelMuerto]

Try escalating, touching her more and everytime she brings up her boyfriend tell her you don't give a hoot about her boyfriend.