Usually when I cuddle with a girl we have sex, but I just dont think my transition is smooth enough. Usually I talk her into kissing me and from there its all good. But I feel like there are some obivous flaws in my game and some girls may not be down for that. Any tips?
Best way to transition from cuddling to sex?
First, his belongs in the newbie forum, assuming it's not a troll.
Second, yes I concur that there are flaws in your game. If you're using cuddling as a way to escalate then you need to work on verbalising sexually, the "sex eyes", your body language, taking charge and being dominant.
Tell me an example of you meeting her to getting her into bed and "cuddling".
Second, yes I concur that there are flaws in your game. If you're using cuddling as a way to escalate then you need to work on verbalising sexually, the "sex eyes", your body language, taking charge and being dominant.
Tell me an example of you meeting her to getting her into bed and "cuddling".
just start dry humping her leg and keep going. keep the talk to a minimum, but you can tell her you can't help yourself cause she's turning you on so much.
after 5 minutes start the makeout and gradually undress.
after 5 minutes start the makeout and gradually undress.
Quote: (04-05-2013 09:46 PM)MattC Wrote:
First, his belongs in the newbie forum, assuming it's not a troll.
Second, yes I concur that there are flaws in your game. If you're using cuddling as a way to escalate then you need to work on verbalising sexually, the "sex eyes", your body language, taking charge and being dominant.
Tell me an example of you meeting her to getting her into bed and "cuddling".
we are on my bed/ or couch and her head is on my chest and im holding her and we are just watching tv. Then i say something like "so you are in my bed and u havent even kissed me yet". We kiss and from there it leads to sex. What I would like to do is get more physical while we are just watching tv and then we slowly transition into kissing and further escalation
grab her upper torso and slide her so that her butt is on your crotch. tell her that its more comfortable for you.
wait 10 minutes, then start the dry hump progression.
wait 10 minutes, then start the dry hump progression.
Don't talk a girl into kissing you
Just kiss her
Just kiss her
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Quote: (04-05-2013 09:58 PM)NYC13 Wrote:
Quote: (04-05-2013 09:46 PM)MattC Wrote:
First, his belongs in the newbie forum, assuming it's not a troll.
Second, yes I concur that there are flaws in your game. If you're using cuddling as a way to escalate then you need to work on verbalising sexually, the "sex eyes", your body language, taking charge and being dominant.
Tell me an example of you meeting her to getting her into bed and "cuddling".
we are on my bed/ or couch and her head is on my chest and im holding her and we are just watching tv. Then i say something like "so you are in my bed and u havent even kissed me yet". We kiss and from there it leads to sex. What I would like to do is get more physical while we are just watching tv and then we slowly transition into kissing and further escalation
Are you getting girls into your bed without having kissed them or something? If you've already kissed them, just start kissing them again when you want to initiate something.
If you haven't then why not? Kiss her during the first date.
Quote: (04-05-2013 10:07 PM)MattC Wrote:
Quote: (04-05-2013 09:58 PM)NYC13 Wrote:
Quote: (04-05-2013 09:46 PM)MattC Wrote:
First, his belongs in the newbie forum, assuming it's not a troll.
Second, yes I concur that there are flaws in your game. If you're using cuddling as a way to escalate then you need to work on verbalising sexually, the "sex eyes", your body language, taking charge and being dominant.
Tell me an example of you meeting her to getting her into bed and "cuddling".
we are on my bed/ or couch and her head is on my chest and im holding her and we are just watching tv. Then i say something like "so you are in my bed and u havent even kissed me yet". We kiss and from there it leads to sex. What I would like to do is get more physical while we are just watching tv and then we slowly transition into kissing and further escalation
Are you getting girls into your bed without having kissed them or something? If you've already kissed them, just start kissing them again when you want to initiate something.
If you haven't then why not? Kiss her during the first date.
its more like if they come over to hangout and watch a movie or whatnot
Man it sounds like such a drag.
You're cuddling with a presumably hot chick, watching some TV rubbing all on eachother. That's awesome!
Just have fun with it, talk shit, feel her up, show her a good time, maybe don't be so focused on sex, sex, sex, play with her a little bit, tease her, grab her nipples ask her if she likes it, tug on her hair, kiss her neck. Pin her legs down and have some fun. Then chill and watch TV. That's what I do, it makes it way more fun and the more you suspend sex the better it is. It won't work if you're all serious about it just be laid back and normal.
But you sound like you're desperate to stick your dick in when it's way better to take control and make HER wait, rather than elicit her permission. Put it in your mind that sex is a given, it's gonna happen, but your going to have as much fun possible until that point. It takes all the pressure off.
You're cuddling with a presumably hot chick, watching some TV rubbing all on eachother. That's awesome!
Just have fun with it, talk shit, feel her up, show her a good time, maybe don't be so focused on sex, sex, sex, play with her a little bit, tease her, grab her nipples ask her if she likes it, tug on her hair, kiss her neck. Pin her legs down and have some fun. Then chill and watch TV. That's what I do, it makes it way more fun and the more you suspend sex the better it is. It won't work if you're all serious about it just be laid back and normal.
But you sound like you're desperate to stick your dick in when it's way better to take control and make HER wait, rather than elicit her permission. Put it in your mind that sex is a given, it's gonna happen, but your going to have as much fun possible until that point. It takes all the pressure off.
If she knowingly comes over to your place, comes into your bedroom, and gets into your bed with you, she's down for the dick. She might put up some LMR, but there's a huge difference between laying on a guy's chest in his bed vs. sitting primly and properly next to him at a church picnic. Put your fingers under her chin, lift her head up so she's looking at you, and kiss her. No words necessary or desirable.
Then, start running your hands over her body, kissing turns into passionately making out, and escalate to sex. Don't "go slow," this just gives her hamster time to spin itself into a fury and suggest all sorts of reasons to her mind why maybe having sex, making out, or being in your bed isn't such a good idea. You want to boil the lobster before it even realizes it's in the hot water, rather than taking hours to slowly turn the heat up.
Then, start running your hands over her body, kissing turns into passionately making out, and escalate to sex. Don't "go slow," this just gives her hamster time to spin itself into a fury and suggest all sorts of reasons to her mind why maybe having sex, making out, or being in your bed isn't such a good idea. You want to boil the lobster before it even realizes it's in the hot water, rather than taking hours to slowly turn the heat up.
Kiss, grab hips, kiss neck. Kiss more, unbuckled pants as you open mouth kiss
Enforce a no-clothes-for-women policy in your bedroom.
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Tickling and wrestling is a good way to escalate into making out from a non-sexual position. First of all, it primes her for "higher order" physical contact. Secondly, she will get dominated (if not, you need to hit the gym) which will prime her for sex.
Here's how: Start tickling her. Neck, armpits, belly, hips, underside of kneecaps, and bottom of feet are the spots to hit. Keep tickling her, and she will eventually (or immediately) start wrestling with you to get to you to try to stop. If she's telling you to stop and laughing, don't stop. Once she starts wrestling with you, you can easily maneuver her into a position where you have her pinned, and you're both looking into each other's eyes. A good position is to hold both of her hands above her head. Make sure you've got her totally pinned. If you're feeling a little awkward at this point, break the hold on her hands and tickle her a little more for a few seconds, then re-pin her and then start making out.
Another tip is that she might try to run away from you when you're tickling her; try to get her to run into your bedroom or wherever you want to bang. (If you want...doesn't really matter though)
If you know she's not ticklish, the escalation to wrestling can be a bit harder.
One way is: if you know that you are ticklish, casually mention to her that you are ticklish (90% of the time chicks will try to tickle you right after you say that). Start squirming, and after she's been tickling for a bit, you can start to wrestle with her (don't say "stop" though, it's not dominant--you do it, you don't talk about it). Proceed from there in the same way, just gloat about it once you have her pinned, then go in for the kiss.
If you're not ticklish and she's not ticklish, you can try the "jungle cat" routine. Just act like a tiger, make animal noises, etc. and bite her playfully. She will try to resist, get her wrestling, keep biting her, proceed in the same way. This also works with blowing raspberries.
Hope this helps others, since that guy was banned.
Here's how: Start tickling her. Neck, armpits, belly, hips, underside of kneecaps, and bottom of feet are the spots to hit. Keep tickling her, and she will eventually (or immediately) start wrestling with you to get to you to try to stop. If she's telling you to stop and laughing, don't stop. Once she starts wrestling with you, you can easily maneuver her into a position where you have her pinned, and you're both looking into each other's eyes. A good position is to hold both of her hands above her head. Make sure you've got her totally pinned. If you're feeling a little awkward at this point, break the hold on her hands and tickle her a little more for a few seconds, then re-pin her and then start making out.
Another tip is that she might try to run away from you when you're tickling her; try to get her to run into your bedroom or wherever you want to bang. (If you want...doesn't really matter though)
If you know she's not ticklish, the escalation to wrestling can be a bit harder.
One way is: if you know that you are ticklish, casually mention to her that you are ticklish (90% of the time chicks will try to tickle you right after you say that). Start squirming, and after she's been tickling for a bit, you can start to wrestle with her (don't say "stop" though, it's not dominant--you do it, you don't talk about it). Proceed from there in the same way, just gloat about it once you have her pinned, then go in for the kiss.
If you're not ticklish and she's not ticklish, you can try the "jungle cat" routine. Just act like a tiger, make animal noises, etc. and bite her playfully. She will try to resist, get her wrestling, keep biting her, proceed in the same way. This also works with blowing raspberries.
Hope this helps others, since that guy was banned.
-Lampy
Take out your penis and put it in her vagina. Thats how you go from cuddling to sex.
There are times I don't want to kiss the girl. My current place also has no living room so if I have a girl over she has to go directly to my bedroom - sometimes I do have to cuddle first since she wasn't expecting to be on my bed so fast. This is what I do in a cuddling situation, its hard to type out but here is the gist:
Step 1: I slowly run the back of my hand up and down her body on top of her shirt, starting from the sides of her torso (or even the sides of her back, depending on position) and working my way to the middle of her stomach without touching her breasts. I will tease her and eventually put my hand down her pants on the top of her underwear by her leg (NOT by her pussy and not very deep into her pants) and bring my hand back up. I take this part really slow and sometimes I repeat it over a couple times until she starts breathing a lot heavier. 2nd/3rd time repeating step 1 I will switch to the palm/inside of my hand, do the same thing and this time put my hand underneath her underwear and put my hand a little further down her leg. 3rd time even deeper down her leg. Escalation.
Step 2: She is breathing heavy. Go under the shirt this time and start again. I start with the back of my hand but switch to the inside of my hand a lot quicker here. Hand up and down her sides of her bare skin, working my way to the middle of her stomach. Once my hand gets to the middle of her body I will very slowly bring my hand down towards her pussy. If you go too fast she might resist here, if you go really slow she will resist just before you touch it, which you aren't going to do yet anyway. I will just put my fingertips in her underwear (top of the pubes area, if she has any) and run my hand all the way across to her hips underneath her underwear. Pull back up, grab her breasts and start kissing her neck. I never have to repeat step 2/3 over, step 1 is the only feeling out process that you may have to do multiple times.
Step 3: At this point if you did things properly she is super wet and may already be begging you to fuck her but I still like to tease her a bit more - bringing my hand up and down the middle of her stomach with her shirt pulled up. Undo pants button, bring hand back up, hand back down, unzip pants, hand back up, sloooowly bring hand down and act as if I am finally going to touch her pussy but I kind of hover my hand over her pussy while its in her underwear (they usually gasp at this point) and bring my hand back up again without touching it. I whisper in her ear "I know how wet your pussy is" and then I go to town.
I don't know how much of this is necessary but its fun toying with a girl and getting her super horny before directly touching her pussy.
Step 1: I slowly run the back of my hand up and down her body on top of her shirt, starting from the sides of her torso (or even the sides of her back, depending on position) and working my way to the middle of her stomach without touching her breasts. I will tease her and eventually put my hand down her pants on the top of her underwear by her leg (NOT by her pussy and not very deep into her pants) and bring my hand back up. I take this part really slow and sometimes I repeat it over a couple times until she starts breathing a lot heavier. 2nd/3rd time repeating step 1 I will switch to the palm/inside of my hand, do the same thing and this time put my hand underneath her underwear and put my hand a little further down her leg. 3rd time even deeper down her leg. Escalation.
Step 2: She is breathing heavy. Go under the shirt this time and start again. I start with the back of my hand but switch to the inside of my hand a lot quicker here. Hand up and down her sides of her bare skin, working my way to the middle of her stomach. Once my hand gets to the middle of her body I will very slowly bring my hand down towards her pussy. If you go too fast she might resist here, if you go really slow she will resist just before you touch it, which you aren't going to do yet anyway. I will just put my fingertips in her underwear (top of the pubes area, if she has any) and run my hand all the way across to her hips underneath her underwear. Pull back up, grab her breasts and start kissing her neck. I never have to repeat step 2/3 over, step 1 is the only feeling out process that you may have to do multiple times.
Step 3: At this point if you did things properly she is super wet and may already be begging you to fuck her but I still like to tease her a bit more - bringing my hand up and down the middle of her stomach with her shirt pulled up. Undo pants button, bring hand back up, hand back down, unzip pants, hand back up, sloooowly bring hand down and act as if I am finally going to touch her pussy but I kind of hover my hand over her pussy while its in her underwear (they usually gasp at this point) and bring my hand back up again without touching it. I whisper in her ear "I know how wet your pussy is" and then I go to town.
I don't know how much of this is necessary but its fun toying with a girl and getting her super horny before directly touching her pussy.
Quote: (04-05-2013 10:45 PM)Lights Wrote:
Put it in your mind that sex is a given, it's gonna happen, but your going to have as much fun possible until that point. It takes all the pressure off.
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One of my favorite moves is giving a girl a shoulder rub while we're standing up and just walking in close so my boner is rubbing on her lower back / ass. It's usually game on after that.
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