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What did I do wrong with this girl?
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What did I do wrong with this girl?

This is a post-mortem. I'm fairly new to game, and I'm trying to analyze some of my past encounters to figure out where I went wrong.

This was a few years ago. I was dating this one girl from school, but I was also dating another girl on the side that I met on okcupid. I will start from the beginning.

I had an okcupid profile set up, but not having much success with sending messages, I tried to make my profile as interesting as possible so girls would message me instead (they are almost always interested in you in that case). So anyway, I had this profile up, and I a got a message from this girl. She has no pictures, but I had a hunch that she might actually be pretty hot but doesn't have her picture up because ASD or shame or something, so I talked to her, eventually got her facebook, checked out the profile pics, she was quite fuckable so I set up a face to face, at her apartment (so I figured high probability of getting laid).

Anyway, so I went over to her apartment, we chatted. She had me show her my "favorite music video" (??), I picked Walk by Foo Fighters because they are pretty manly and I had been listening to it recently. She picked something by the Avett Brothers (hipster). We each drank a beer or two. Anyway, it was getting let so I said I had to go, but then as I was putting on my shoes, she gave me a hug and then started making out with me and said something like "no...stay" (boner).

So, we got into her bed, and I'm escalating, and eventually I get to the point where I'm fingering her, and then she asks me to go down on her, and I do. She cums, and then..."I have to go to sleep". Bitch. Really? Bitch. I figured she might not want to hook up with me after just having met me off the internet (beta thought?), so I figured I could eventually fuck her if I put in some time.

So, I went on a few more dates with this girl. We went out to a high end pizza joint (she paid), one thing that really stuck out to me was that we were trading stories and she asked me to tell her a story about a moment that changed my life...I told her this story about how I did shrooms once (she was one of those hipster long distance running and rock climbing druggie types, so I figured it wasn't too out of bounds), and after that she keeps asking me to tell her stories about times that I didn't do drugs. I kind of dropped the ball there, because I did a lot of drugs in the past so almost all the stories I'm used to telling involved them, so that must not have looked good. After the date, went back to her place, same deal: I escalate, wound up giving her oral, and then no reciprocation.

I went on 2 more dates with her, thinking that I could bang her eventually. We went to see a movie (i paid), and then she wanted me to come over because she "found" some weed and smoke it with her. After the weed smoking, she wound up giving me a blowjob after I gave oral. So, I considered that progress. But then the next morning, she was showing me some furniture she was attempting to buy on craigslist and I noticed that the casual encounters section had been clicked on, so I decided I should probably bail, since I hadn't gotten laid yet and I already had another girl who I had been fucking for a while...keep in mind this was the first time I dated two girls at the same time, so I already felt like I was the shit. Anyway, the other girl ended up texting me wanting me to draw some picture for her (too much investment in my mind, so I just never replied) and then we haven't talked since.

Some other info about this girl: She said she had 3 boyfriends in the past, and those were the only guys she had slept with (very funny). Her most recent ex facebooked her a lot, but he seemed beta as fuck and looked like he lived in another state...she told me that he used to love it when she would stick her fingers up his ass...lol. She told me a story about this guy who "had a really big dick" (how would she know that if she never fucked him? hmm?) and one of his girlfriends swallowed the sim card from his phone because it was blowing up from all the girls texting him...funny story actually. She had some friends who were in this "polyamorous" relationship thing were it was basically the 4 of them (2 men, 2 women)...which I thought was pretty fucking weird, but she was a hipster. She was also a mechanical engineer, if that has anything to do with it.

Anyway, what do you think I did wrong with this girl? How could I have banged her faster?

Was I not leading enough? Was I coming off as beta for some reason, if so what? Should I have just stuck my dick inside her and asked questions later? Should I have started giving oral then refused to finish unless she fucked me...or I mean, use a smoother transition than outright demanding that she fuck me? Should I have invested a bit more time to get the bang? What should I do in the future if a girl says she doesn't want to have sex?

I'm a sponge, lay it on me.

-Lampy
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What did I do wrong with this girl?

giving a girl oral is a gift, and something you do here and there, not something you want to be giving a girl first up, what has she done to deserve it?
dick in vag bro, this has to be done sooner rather than later, women are less likely to form an emotional connection with you (and want to fcuk you again) unless you're banging 'em
if a girl is truly into you (unless she's relatively new to sex or inexperienced) she'll want to give you a bj, you won't have to go down on her first for her to 'return the favour'
sounds like she's not at that point yet
also, she sounds pretty slutty, so not the kind of girl you want to invest emotions in...
if you can get some action, that's great, but don't go falling for this girl, but as a FwB/FB for a little while, great, i wouldn't aim for more than that
just my two cents
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What did I do wrong with this girl?

Quote: (04-02-2013 06:33 AM)amity Wrote:  

giving a girl oral is a gift, and something you do here and there, not something you want to be giving a girl first up, what has she done to deserve it?
dick in vag bro, this has to be done sooner rather than later, women are less likely to form an emotional connection with you (and want to fcuk you again) unless you're banging 'em
if a girl is truly into you (unless she's relatively new to sex or inexperienced) she'll want to give you a bj, you won't have to go down on her first for her to 'return the favour'
sounds like she's not at that point yet
also, she sounds pretty slutty, so not the kind of girl you want to invest emotions in...
if you can get some action, that's great, but don't go falling for this girl, but as a FwB/FB for a little while, great, i wouldn't aim for more than that
just my two cents

Thanks for your opinion! I figured that something was up, since she was telling me things like she had only had sex with 3 dudes, but I was picking up on slut signs left and right. She had some hamster on her for sure.

This happened a few years ago, and I bailed because of the reasons you state above. Also, it seemed like I had invested too much and there was a terrible ROI. Just trying to figure out what I did wrong there.

-Lampy
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What did I do wrong with this girl?

I don't think I ever make a woman cum using my mouth. That's reserved for my dick. If my dick can't make them cum, then I'm sure as hell not going to go lockjaw trying to elicit the elusive O.
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What did I do wrong with this girl?

Quote: (04-02-2013 02:02 PM)augen sehen Wrote:  

I don't think I ever make a woman cum using my mouth. That's reserved for my dick. If my dick can't make them cum, then I'm sure as hell not going to go lockjaw trying to elicit the elusive O.

I was trying to use it as a lead-in to sex. I didn't expect her to cum, to be honest, I was just trying to get her horny for more. Of course, that backfired.

-Lampy
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