[makaveli]

In Berlin, i went to the club matrix and all kinds of dance bars.
This place is difficult! I couldn't figure it out in one week. i was sure that i could get laid, but it was i dynamic that i couldn't see through.
so i say observe it as if you were a scientist. and then adapt. Look at the guys that are getting laid.
Ordnung muss sein.

[Amigoish]

I bombed spectarcularly at the club last night.

0/20

Went solo to a Sertanejo Country festival. Found a girl from my gym, gamed her, she had boyfriend, she said I should talk to her friend, a 6.5, things were all good, she was bitting my touching and went for the kiss, she said "I am cool tonight.", escalated some more physical touch and she kept saying that BS, then she walked away (WTF was that? She seemed really into it, even let me grab her ass). I ejected and approached 10 more girls, no success.

Went to another venue solo after bombing the first, EDM, All girls were 7.5+ and the guys were rich and good looking. I am average in both. I had no approach anxiety, but when I approached girls they either walked away, or "going to the bathroom" or the convo went silent. It seemed that all guys there were alpha, they approached like crazy and I just wanted to know what the fuck they were all talking to the girls because they were doing great and I sucked. Not sure what I should charge that bomb to, game , looks, money or whatever.

I woke up this morning thinking "WTF happened last night?"

Not the worst solo dolo case, though.

[gandt]

Based on your description it seems as though you felt a very heavy pressure to perform for the girls that night.

You "felt like a chump" because you took the responsibility of showing her a good time and burdened it on yourself.

Remember:

You cannot be responsible for anyone else's happiness other than your own!


The next time you feel like you need to "perform" to make sure the girl has a good time, try this:

Order a cold one, kick back against the bar, face your girl, and let our a smile while looking her in the eye. All without saying a word. Let her be the first to say something.

You are comfortable in silence. You don't have a be a performing monkey 24/7.

I do this all the time.