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Going Direct - "That's such a nice thing to say"
03-17-2013, 02:48 AM
Tonight I was was going direct in my approaches. I was using variations of the standard, "I saw you and I just had to meet you." A few different girls responded with something like, "that's such nice thing to say." That reaction is totally making me think that I'm going in too soft. I kind of feel that this is something a girl would say to a guy that she wants to let down easy. If a girl wants to let me down easy then I'm thinking that she perceives me as weak.
Am I correct that this response means that the women I'm approaching are perceiving weakness?
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Going Direct - "That's such a nice thing to say"
03-17-2013, 03:20 AM
I'll bet you have bad body language or you look or carry yourself like a pussy.
If you are going to say something like "I had to meet you", you'd better be physically intimidating as fuck.
Contrast is king.
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Going Direct - "That's such a nice thing to say"
03-17-2013, 03:36 AM
Would have been better if you walked up to her and asked her "what the fuck is your problem?" or "do you wanna fight me or something?".
Why did you just HAVE to meet her? If you never said a word to her before saying something like this it is basically like walking up to her and saying "omg you are so hot" which is pure beta.
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Going Direct - "That's such a nice thing to say"
03-17-2013, 03:38 AM
"I had to meet you" sounds like something a gay guy or a woman would say.
As a man, you don't "have" to do shit.
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Going Direct - "That's such a nice thing to say"
03-17-2013, 07:24 AM
Whether the words "I just had to meet you" come across as "beta" depends more on how your saying it. I mean, are you saying something like this:
"o-oh..uum...e-excuse me m'miss...I just thought you looked very l-l-lovely today...and I, I mean..uh...I had to come meet you...please,"
...If said in a soft timid voice...then yeah, I can imagine it could come off as weak. The same words, if said with a different tone, facial expression and body language...would likely create a different response.
As to the words "that's such a nice thing to say": how are they saying this? Is it more in the manner in which she'd speak to a little boy or a cute puppy? How does the conversation go on after that? I don't think there's enough information in this thread to say anything specific.
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Going Direct - "That's such a nice thing to say"
03-17-2013, 07:30 AM
If "I just had to meet you" is part of your opener, don't get stuck on it waiting for a reaction like it's some big fucking moment.
Just my 2¢.
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Going Direct - "That's such a nice thing to say"
03-17-2013, 04:48 PM
Saying ANYTHING literally puts you ahead of the 99.99% of guys she passes in daily life who say NOTHING.
Just say anything and you're doing better than I am 99% of the time.
Then, once you're ahead of the 99.99%, if you additionally try to get some kind of compliance (give me your phone etc) you are ahead of 99.999% of the guys.
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Going Direct - "That's such a nice thing to say"
03-18-2013, 07:18 AM
IMO it depends on how she said it. but only you know that.
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Going Direct - "That's such a nice thing to say"
03-18-2013, 12:48 PM
1. You said SOMETHING.
2. You mad it known you were interested from the start.
As far as openers go, you're good. It's the other things that really matter, like: body language, tonality, intent, etc. Once the opener opens, it's a thing of the past. How you handle the rest of the interaction will determine how weak/strong you come off.
Pussies don't go direct...Pussies don't say or do ANYTHING AT ALL. Keep using your opener, just don't sound and look like a needy panzy when you say it.
"What's the difference between us.
We can start at the penis.
Or scream I just don't give a fuck and see who really means it."
- Marshall Bruce Mathers III