[pitt]

Law 16: Use Absence to Increase Respect and Honor

Too much circulation makes the price go down: The more you are seen and heard from, the more common you appear. If you are already established in a group, temporary withdrawal from it will make you more talked about, even more admired. You must learn when to leave. Create value through scarcity. – Robert Greene, The 48 Laws of Power

Any of you ever pulled this on one of your girls?

I just did this to one of my favourite girls. It got to a point where we were becoming too close and she started showing crazy feelings. I had to withdraw for a while (its been two weeks so far) and she is already wondering what happpened (by sending me emails and trying to call me - i have two numbers, she calls me on one number that i hardly use and its turned off). I had a feeling that if we kept on being too close for too long, one of us would get bored soon or later. I decided to give her a break, im thinking few months.

What do you guys think about the vanishing act? Is this a good strategy?

[Handsome Creepy Eel]

I think it's nice when a girl really needs asshole game. Cut off and ignore.

A few months, though? Someone once quoted a study that said that the sense of loneliness peaks after three weeks. After a few months, she will probably just move on. Dunno. Depends on the circumstance, but unless you broke up when she did something horrible and etc, it seems like too long for that magnitude of her "error".

[Moma]

Pitt, it's a great plan, lizards can't think you are too available. Absence is the same as mystery, it creates uncertainty in the lizards and this is what keeps them piqued.

Lizards love mystery and figuring shyt out. Does my man love me or..?
Is he after me for my body or is it..?
Once a lizard has you pegged and figured totally, that mystique she initially claimed will 'magically' vanish and she will try and play you.
It's her nature.

So yes, the vanishing act is a great ploy.

[Matt3B]

I think two months is a bit too long to be honest, mate. It'll be harder to re-initiate.

I think a better tactic would be to come into play again, and disappear almost immediately again for another couple of weeks.

[thegmanifesto]

(02-21-2013 08:41 AM)pitt Wrote:  

Law 16: Use Absence to Increase Respect and Honor

Too much circulation makes the price go down: The more you are seen and heard from, the more common you appear. If you are already established in a group, temporary withdrawal from it will make you more talked about, even more admired. You must learn when to leave. Create value through scarcity. – Robert Greene, The 48 Laws of Power

Any of you ever pulled this on one of your girls?

I just did this to one of my favourite girls. It got to a point where we were becoming too close and she started showing crazy feelings. I had to withdraw for a while (its been two weeks so far) and she is already wondering what happpened (by sending me emails and trying to call me - i have two numbers, she calls me on one number that i hardly use and its turned off). I had a feeling that if we kept on being too close for too long, one of us would get bored soon or later. I decided to give her a break, im thinking few months.

What do you guys think about the vanishing act? Is this a good strategy?

I do it all the time.

Excellent strategy. I wrote about it a while ago: http://www.thegmanifesto.com/2012/10/the...g-act.html

[augen sehen]

I tried something like this with my LTR a few years ago. I told her that we should take a week off and not see each other or talk to each other for that week.

For that week, I went out and did whatever, and she apparently spent every evening staring at the phone, willing herself to not press the Call button. She said she missed me a lot every night and knowing she couldn't contact me drove her up the wall, but knowing there was a definite end date helped her cope with it.

She called at 12:01AM the day it was supposed to end. It actually worked for me too - I missed her that week and treated her more lovingly for some time after that.

[Matt3B]

(02-21-2013 01:17 PM)augen sehen Wrote:  

I tried something like this with my LTR a few years ago. I told her that we should take a week off and not see each other or talk to each other for that week.

For that week, I went out and did whatever, and she apparently spent every evening staring at the phone, willing herself to not press the Call button. She said she missed me a lot every night and knowing she couldn't contact me drove her up the wall, but knowing there was a definite end date helped her cope with it.

She called at 12:01AM the day it was supposed to end. It actually worked for me too - I missed her that week and treated her more lovingly for some time after that.

Just curious mate. What reason did you give her when you told her about having a week off?

[Gemini]

I like this strategy, but it's something you need to thread carefully around. I think it could backfire if done the wrong way.

It can work great with a STR (been dating for few months) because it will keep them guessing. Not sure if will work great with an LTR if you say absolutely nothing and just vanish.

I've done it once with a Russian girl I was seeing casually for about 6 months, and we took 3 weeks off, came back to an even better relationship, I think we banged like 6 times the day we met up again after "breaking up for 3 weeks". But I guess I'm mixing up "vanishing act" with "taking a break". Another time, my few months old girlfriend at that time didn't buy it, she said if we take a week off (my idea), she will consider that the end of the relationship and that's it. Never did the week off but I would be completly silent for a 2-3 days here and there to keep her guessing. She was a bit of a nutcase though, I can't count how many times she would pack her bags at 2am in the morning after a small argument only to come back an hour later. lol

[augen sehen]

(02-21-2013 01:34 PM)MattC Wrote:  

Just curious mate. What reason did you give her when you told her about having a week off?

I told her that we were becoming too predictable and didn't have much to talk about, and it was making the relationship stale.

She later asked me if I read of the technique somewhere else. I hadn't heard of that exact technique anywhere, so I told her I thought of it. She said she was scared at how well it worked.

[Nomad77]

I do it all the time but in much smaller doses of a few days at time instead of one long one. How much is long also depends on the culture. In the US a week is a long time, in Estonia, wouldn't mean shit. Now, if I am punishing a girl for bad behavior then a week or more is ok.

[FretDancer]

(02-21-2013 09:14 AM)thegmanifesto Wrote:  

I do it all the time.

No kidding.


Don't over extend your 'vanishing period' or else you'll just be forgotten and they'll just move on. Keep it around 2 weeks tops, some girls will even move on with less time.

[pitt]

(02-21-2013 09:14 AM)thegmanifesto Wrote:  

(02-21-2013 08:41 AM)pitt Wrote:  

Law 16: Use Absence to Increase Respect and Honor

Too much circulation makes the price go down: The more you are seen and heard from, the more common you appear. If you are already established in a group, temporary withdrawal from it will make you more talked about, even more admired. You must learn when to leave. Create value through scarcity. – Robert Greene, The 48 Laws of Power

Any of you ever pulled this on one of your girls?

I just did this to one of my favourite girls. It got to a point where we were becoming too close and she started showing crazy feelings. I had to withdraw for a while (its been two weeks so far) and she is already wondering what happpened (by sending me emails and trying to call me - i have two numbers, she calls me on one number that i hardly use and its turned off). I had a feeling that if we kept on being too close for too long, one of us would get bored soon or later. I decided to give her a break, im thinking few months.

What do you guys think about the vanishing act? Is this a good strategy?

I do it all the time.

Excellent strategy. I wrote about it a while ago: http://www.thegmanifesto.com/2012/10/the...g-act.html

Have you ever tried to do this on any girl for few months? How did it work out?

[FretDancer]

Another funny and interesting thing,

When you emply the vanishing act, if you make it too long, it won't work. But if you make it even longer it adds a different effect to it when you casually meet again, there's like a novelty of seeing you again. Both recognize each other but didn't get to know each other well, its like a free restart approach where you get to start again and go for the bang.

[thegmanifesto]

(02-22-2013 05:39 AM)pitt Wrote:  

(02-21-2013 09:14 AM)thegmanifesto Wrote:  

(02-21-2013 08:41 AM)pitt Wrote:  

Law 16: Use Absence to Increase Respect and Honor

Too much circulation makes the price go down: The more you are seen and heard from, the more common you appear. If you are already established in a group, temporary withdrawal from it will make you more talked about, even more admired. You must learn when to leave. Create value through scarcity. – Robert Greene, The 48 Laws of Power

Any of you ever pulled this on one of your girls?

I just did this to one of my favourite girls. It got to a point where we were becoming too close and she started showing crazy feelings. I had to withdraw for a while (its been two weeks so far) and she is already wondering what happpened (by sending me emails and trying to call me - i have two numbers, she calls me on one number that i hardly use and its turned off). I had a feeling that if we kept on being too close for too long, one of us would get bored soon or later. I decided to give her a break, im thinking few months.

What do you guys think about the vanishing act? Is this a good strategy?

I do it all the time.

Excellent strategy. I wrote about it a while ago: http://www.thegmanifesto.com/2012/10/the...g-act.html

Have you ever tried to do this on any girl for few months? How did it work out?

Yes. All the time.

Good.

[pitt]

This is one the best moves in the game, so under-rated. I just did it again. My aim was to do it on one girl (I completely disappeared from whatsapp, no phone contact, no facebook) for few days but two other girls also missed me like crazy. When they started calling my house phone (I don't even know how one of them had my house number), I decided to come back to life so they won't call police or start turning up on my door step.

This is a good way to save a relationship or to make whoever you are seeing value you more.

Remember that it could backfire, don't do it for too long. This always works, it's incredible.

[heavy]

I learned this as a kid. Hell, Disney even addressed the fine line between fondness and forgetfulness.
   

I call it tension. It works for chicks you've just started seeing, or longer relationships. If you're together all the time, even when you're having regular sex, you lose tension. A prolonged break builds this tension back up, if used properly.

A few months ago I didn't see my chick for about a week and a half. When she came back to town, the sex was mind-blowing for both of us.

But yeah, too long and she'll forget you. A lot of factors go into what's too long.

[WestIndianArchie]

Best way to do this is to be legitimately busy...with other chicks.

WIA

[Balkan]

(06-23-2016 02:29 PM)heavy Wrote:  

I learned this as a kid. Hell, Disney even addressed the fine line between fondness and forgetfulness.


I call it tension. It works for chicks you've just started seeing, or longer relationships. If you're together all the time, even when you're having regular sex, you lose tension. A prolonged break builds this tension back up, if used properly.

A few months ago I didn't see my chick for about a week and a half. When she came back to town, the sex was mind-blowing for both of us.

But yeah, too long and she'll forget you. A lot of factors go into what's too long.

Finally, an opportunity to parrot one of my favorite La Rochefoucauld maxims (number 276). "Absence lessens moderate passions and intensifies great ones, as the wind blows out a candle but fans up a fire".

[heavy]

Wowzer...that's good --^

[Uhondo]

The use of strategic withdrawal is also mentioned in the Art of seduction;

Give them the space to fall - The pursuer is pursued

"If your targets become too used to you as the aggressor, they will give less of their own energy, and the tension will slacken. You need to wake them up, turn the tables. ONCE THEY ARE UNDER YOUR SPELL, take a step back and they will start to come after you. Hint that you are growing bored. SEEM INTERESTED IN SOMEONE ELSE. Soon they will want to possess you physically, and restraint will go out the window. Create the illusion that the seducer is being seduced.

BUT THERE IS A REVERSAL

Absence at a critical moment will make the target lose interest in you. It also leaves too much to chance-While you are away, they could find another person, who will distract their thoughts from you.

[XPQ22]

I did this to one of my plates about a month ago when she was starting to get bossy and pushy, and it worked fucking wonders. It didn't even take all that much, basically just texted her "Hey, I think we need to take the weekend off to think about what we want" then didn't respond to her whiny texts for three days, and didn't see her for a week and a half. When I saw her again I told her that she'd been acting like a brat.

If she'd sincerely apologized and said something like "Please, I'd really like to talk to you" I probably wouldn't have left her hanging, as that's just cruel. But she just hit me up with PMS style complaining, so I let her stew.

The makeup sex was great, and she's never acted that way since. It actually gave me the opportunity to discover that calling her a "little brat" in the sack is something that turns her on...

Women hold a lot of the cards, but the ability to either provide or withdraw your attention is a big one you'll always have.

[General Stalin]

TL;DR: Dread Game.

"Does he still like me?"

"Did I do something wrong?"

"Is he seeing other girls?"

Sad thing is, most men fall victim to this sort of game more than women these days. Problem is men find neediness/clinginess generally endearing in a female, where women are repulsed by it.

[treypound]

(06-23-2016 03:27 PM)WestIndianArchie Wrote:  

Best way to do this is to be legitimately busy...with other chicks.

WIA

I am trying to implement this myself. Having mixed results with vanishing act game, I have realized abundance is key now.

[wonderer1]

Confused, are we not doing this to some extent now anyway no matter what stage we're at with her? Not texting every day, letting her do the chasing every now and then? Just had 3 dates with a chick in 10 days, now pulling right back to let her chase me, no messages, unless I hear nothing by Monday. Repeat, but be unpredictable?

[DimeBait]

I just ghost bishes.
I guess if I actually liked a chick more than she liked me, this would be wise but that hasn't happened.
I need the following trifecta to stick around; (1) good looks, (2) good personality and (3) good pussy.
Anything short of that will result in a ghost and block. I'm a dick, lol.