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Pinch's Revelations
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Pinch's Revelations

If you don't want to read this story I left a short list of things that helped me approach a shit ton of girls without giving a fuck at the bottom. Enjoy brother.


I'm writing a pretty long story because last night was a big deal for me. I approached girls, didn't really give a fuck and learned some shit that I find is wicked important. This is not advice, though I suppose someone could take it that way, it's more of things that went through my head last night as I was surging with good energy.

I started off the night with a close friend of mine that just got released from the hospital. This guy is kind of a natural, he's a very open dude and doesn't really care too much about what people think of him. We were on the train, going into Allston when he opened the first girl with "hey, would you like to chat". This girl, i'd say a 7, took her headphones off, kind of perked up and gladly accepted the invitation. Now since my friend opened her, I figured I'd just let him do his thing, which he did, talking about astrology (he's big on that), schooling her on various far out shit, and as far as I could tell, she was digging it while occasionally looking over at me and smiling.

This was the first shock to me. I always knew my friend was personable, warm and open, but I didn't think he would open so suddenly. It gave me a huge rush of inspiration (good energy), like that dude in your head just saying "fuck yeah" on repeat, kind of pumps you up. Out of nowhere this girl falls back onto me because she was fucking awful at balancing on the train, so now was my chance, I opened, said something funny, her and her friends laughed and I kind of continued playfully teasing this girl about how she should take a trust fall just so she can ease up before she eats shit on the train. She was pretty ugly BUT her friend was decently cute in a slutty way.
So this girl (the cute slutty one) comes up and asks if there's anyone sitting next to me (obviously it was completely empty) joking I said "I don't think so, but I'd watch out, I've heard the worlds smallest man rides on this train, he could be right there", kind of stupid BUT she laughed, smiled and that good stuff. I started feeling awkward, but I refused to accept that feeling, so I just started talking, simple questions just feeling things out. The conversation went absolutely nowhere, it was time for my friend to get off the train, but it didn't matter at all we were on our way somewhere else.



Walking up comm ave we were singing this song that I had wrote, clapping and just having some stupid fun. It was good to let go in that aspect, leave my guard down and begin that "I don't give a fuck" attitude that would benefit me 100 fold later in the night. I was singing pretty loudly, laughing, yelling and shit, doing whatever to get me in that mood. We saw a car stuck in the snow with a ton of people around it, my friend offered "man, you want to go help them?" I said " yeah sure man, fuck it lets be heroes tonight". We went over, played around with all the people, made them all just have fun with it instead of acting like a bunch of sour pussies.

Rejection and reflection

After a long walk, we arrived at the venue, targeted a cute girl outside, immediately opened with "hey", she wasn't having it, retreated to her iphone, I lit a cigarette and just said fuck it. Inside, we ordered some drinks, chilled out, my friend danced a bit and I felt kind of uneasy. Again, I had to keep telling myself just to be present, so I started focusing on the multicolered lights that were flying around on the floor. I slammed my whiskey sour (five fucking bucks) and went outside for another smoke with my friend and BOOM girl opens us for directions. My friend kind of takes over, tries to tell her where she's going, doesn't know, begins talking astrology. I just let him do his thing.

The big moment

Twenty minutes later, I'm leaving the bar with two Pabst tall boys, one for me and my boy. Now I'm looking around (I have terrible vision mind you, especially in dark places) and I cannot see him anywhere. I didn't want to just shuffle around the club, staring into crowds because I knew that would just make me self conscious, so I end up going to a table. I turned around and I saw this cute middle-eastern girl look right in my eyes. I held it, she smiled and looked down. Everything I had learned was immediately brought up from the data banks in my head, it all came flashing in, I could hear the voices of "players" saying "you make eye-contact and she smiles? that means you need to move your feet and go open your mouth!". I hesitated for a second, my inner bitch started talking to me, but NO I have the strength this time I'm NOT going to blow this . I moved my feet, and walked over like it was no big thing. Sat down right next to her, I was worried about my body language since I'm kind of big and I was so cramped but I just said FUCK IT. Started talking to her, couldn't hear or understand what she was saying, but it was all smiles. She eventually asked me if I was in a band, I replied yes and that I was here with the bass player. She thought it was cool, she started playing games after I told her that I thought she wasn't from around here since she'd never been to this club. She asked me to guess where she was from all that stuff. Anyways, her male friends show up, bunch of total beta nerds, I didn't give a shit, but they were nice at least. Anyways, continuing this impossible situation, I decided to close. Now, my phone has been lost so I had no way of getting a number, instead I told her to give me her phone, and I left my soundcloud in there with my name, it was pretty much the least I could do (later I remembered I could use my friends cell phone). Anyways, I told her I was off to find my friend and that was it but afterwards, having done that, I felt like a fucking champion, it was the smallest biggest victory that gave me a huge charge of positivity for the rest of the night.

After that it was like clockwork, girl - open , another girl - open, two girls - open, girl alone - open. I was on a roll, I didn't put any pressure on myself . For example in the past I could get really in my head worrying about doing things right like "okay make sure your body language is right, don't ask too many questions, okay maintain this dadada act aloof ". While these things are real, I think what's most important is allowing yourself to be somewhat vulnerable. If you're constantly in your head about game, it's gonna restrict you, at least for me it does and it's definitely a terrible feeling . You'll get misinterpreted, people will think you're a cold booring asshole (that's how I used to act) and I don't think it'll get you any further than that. Believe me, I know game is real, and I still "use" it in a sense, but now, I feel like with all this time passing, it's kind of fused with my soul, so now it isn't such a contrived and methodical experience, now it's more of just me being open, not giving a fuck and doing what I want that is my game. I'll learn more things as I start to fuck around with more girls but this was a huge deal.

So here's a list of tips that helped me that may help other dudes that are really in your head when you're around women, maybe nervous whatever it may be, just remember these things.

1.You cannot be outcome dependent. If you're in your head constantly worrying how the conversation or interaction with a chick is gonna go, you're not going to be present in your mind therefore, you won't have anything to compliment the conversation with.

2. Try and be present. I've always been very introverted, I'm a musician/artist so I can think a shit ton. Whenever you begin to project situations or what you think will happen, try and take a look around the room and focus on basic detail. For example, noticing the drums on stage, or the poster on the wall, anything that is there, focus on that instead of your thoughts.

3. You have to approach. Just approaching and not caring where it goes was huge for me. That gave me the ability to open a ton of girls without much fear. Once you start approaching and you have a few experiences, the rest is butter. Be amused, don't be condescending, but have fun with the whole thing.

4. Do something stupid before hand to stop giving a fuck. Scream like an idiot, dance in the street, high five a person, anything to get you out of caring. Basically, I think a girl would rather meet a guy who's having fun rather than a dude who takes everything so seriously.

5. Don't restrict yourself with guidelines. Do what you feel, you won't be wrong, that's the ultimate truth. Be mindful, of course you can't be aspergers, the world does operate on certain dynamics but those dynamics suck. You control the conversation and do things your way. Talk about whatever the fuck you want to talk about, that alone will set you ahead of all the other dudes out there still talking about "hey so , um, what school do you go to" bullshit.

6. Just have fun. I guess this is the one thing that I did last night that opened me up to taking risks. I just let that goodness flow through me and forgot about everything else.


Hey I hope this helped whoever, it's very basic shit but sometimes the most obvious shit is overlooked, I had one of the greatest nights I've had in a long time last night, it's only the beginning and I hope this could be for anyone out there still struggling with applying EVERYTHING they've learned from the comp-u-screen. Good luck.
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Pinch's Revelations

Keep going man! You've reached what I like to call the "zen" stage of game. Always nice to find out about someone "cracking the code" of game.

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Pinch's Revelations

Very helpful post my brother, cheers
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