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02-15-2013, 01:43 PM
As a Beta attempting to re-wire his circuitry to Alpha.. I'm curious to know what goes on in your head when you see a girl you know you want to approach?
The typical Beta mindset is to immediately pedastolize her and become nervous about approaching
but I want to know what goes on in the Alpha's head. Mystery says he becomes a little nervous because he
knows he's going to approach her.
He also says that even the best PUA's still have some approach anxiety. I have a goal for myself where I am completely numb to any type of nerves or anxiety when approaching. I see myself having such tight game that with any approach I make, doesn't matter what I use for the opener, I will be anxiously awaiting their reaction (however they react) because I'll know exactly how to respond.
Can any Beta to Alpha tell me how this works for them? Funny thing is I know that this sort of thing doesn't even concisely cross the mind of a natural Alpha..
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02-15-2013, 02:06 PM
I don't consider myself alpha or beta (more of a sigma wanderer), but the red pill rules cover this question.
1. Have outcome independence -- if girl #1 isn't interested, girl #2 or #7 or #15 will be. Why get one-itis for a woman you haven't even kissed yet?
2. Outcome independence is bred solely from confirmation of "having options". If you're dating one gal, banging a second, and have 2 or 3 active women wanting to bang or date you, the other women you approach are irrelevant. So always have 1 in the bed (at least), and 2 waiting in line.
3. The more sex you have, the less desperate you are not to screw up. Anxiety comes from desperation. Fix the desperation and you're set, for life.
4. Nuke as many of your friends lower status than you as possible. Low status friends will harm your confidence, cock block, or interest you in things that don't matter (video games, comic books, whatever the fuck).
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02-15-2013, 02:30 PM
Sometimes I approach just because I have to approach somebody, and she's the only one available. But I don't really like her looks, so I hope she'll reject immediately and we don't waste each others time. Then I can lurk in some corner with a peace of mind that I've done everything in my power, and wait for other girls to show up.
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02-15-2013, 02:41 PM
Having a bit of approach anxiety is normal even after years of practice. If you are a normal person, you will never manage to become "completely numb" and that's not a good goal anyway.Most successful actors, musicians, athletes, politicians, salesmen get nervous before they perform. As long as you keep it under control, it will help you.
The best way to "rewire your circuitry" is simply to do a lot of approaches. After a few hundred each new approach will seem a lot less significant and your nervous reaction will be dampened enough to not cause you to overreact.
You will always have times when you fuck up approaches or have them go wrong due to circumstances. So what? There's a reason it's called Game-you should be having fun and to some degree entertaining yourself.
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02-16-2013, 06:34 AM
Yeah don't think "i dont want to be afraid", think "I will show courage". The best way to approach girls is not to think about it "Just do it." as Nike says.
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02-16-2013, 11:34 PM
Spot on Gio.
I'd have to agree that nothing goes through my head when I see a girl. I feel it in my balls. Instead of working to eliminate approach anxiety try to reframe the feeling you get as motivation to approach.
When I see a girl I know I just have to meet ill get that urge, the anxiousness, but instead of my body trying to talk me out of approaching it is screaming at me to go talk to this chick. There's a reason why you feel anxiety around a beautiful woman. It's your balls telling your brain "go find out why you feel this way!"