Quote: (02-10-2013 04:20 PM)Giovonny Wrote:
Quote: (02-07-2013 06:42 PM)Samseau Wrote:
I think the worst part of being a player is knowing that you'll never be able to have it all.
I like to think that players CAN have it all.
We can have a loving relationship with a woman if we want to. We can have children if we want to. We can move to another country if we want to. We can bang young hotties if we want to. We can do anything we want!
Its our player knowledge and training that allows us to take advantage of these options and craft a lifestyle that suits us best.
Isn't that what powerful men have done throughout history? Have a loving family but also bang hot pussy on the side!
I'm not recommending marriage, I'm just saying that if you want love, you can have it, you might have to go to another country to get it, but, its there if we want it.
We can focus our efforts on being a full time playboy, go out every night, approach like crazy, move to New York City, get buffed, dress well, etc.
We can go to easy places like SEA, South America, Dominican Republic, Philippines, etc.
We can integrate ourselves into other cultures like Roosh has done in Europe. We can literally identify the type of woman we want and then relocate to where that type of woman is in abundance.
We can get married. We can have kids.
We can do it all. If we want to.
Quote: (02-07-2013 04:32 PM)thedude3737 Wrote:
Gio and Mechanico-no one taught me these things about women, I think there was some inherent desire to have a deep, romantic relationship with a woman.
I don't entirely disagree with this. I think we ARE born with a certain need to connect with others.
That said, I will offer a different perspective just for the sake of healthy debate.
Quote: (02-07-2013 04:32 PM) Wrote:
that's not something that needs to be learned from a parent.
I sort of disagree here. I think we do learn loving, bonding, connecting, and socializing from our parents.
We are not born as loving people. We have to learn how to love.
Look at kids who do not grow up in a loving environment. They often grow up with issues in giving and receiving love. Kids who get abused by their parents often grow up to be abusers.
We learn from our parents/environment/upbringing.
Loving and connecting with women is not something we are automatically born with.
Quote: (02-07-2013 04:32 PM) Wrote:
no one taught me these things about women,
I don't know? I think someone had to teach you..?
You had to be influenced (taught) by your family. Just watching and observing them as a child certainly shaped your perspective. The culture influences us in many ways. All the movies, tv shows, videos, songs, etc.
School is another influence. Peers are another influence. Growing up around blue pill families and social groups is a big influence.
My opinion -- The blue pill media and culture taught you what "romance" and "love" is.
Look at North Korea:
"They will spend their entire lives being conditioned as beasts of burden, so brainwashed that they will turn in their own parents for trying to escape and feel they did the right thing while watching their mother get hung."
http://www.rooshvforum.network/thread-18628.html
Kids do not learn to love and value their mother. Parent-child relationships are different. "Love" is different. They are raised different. They are taught different.
My point -- Love, compassion, empathy, etc. are things that we have to teach children. We are not automatically born with these things
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Playboys have to create their own playboy-friendly mind-set. The culture/media will often brainwash you with blue pill beliefs. Your parents will often want you to settle down. Friends and peers will mostly do what the society expects them to do.
Playboys think different. You have to brainwash yourself so no one else does!
Late response, sorry Gio.
Quite interesting perspective on love you bring up. I'd refer you to "The Art of Loving" by Erich Fromm. I'm a huge fan of his, and I'd rather not paraphrase him or do him injustice by giving him a one-sentence summary. I did read this great paragraph on his wiki though:
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"Fromm considered love to be an interpersonal creative capacity rather than an emotion, and he distinguished this creative capacity from what he considered to be various forms of narcissistic neuroses and sado-masochistic tendencies that are commonly held out as proof of "true love." Indeed, Fromm viewed the experience of "falling in love" as evidence of one's failure to understand the true nature of love, which he believed always had the common elements of care, responsibility, respect, and knowledge."
I'd consider Fromm highly red-pill; he consistently extolls man's ability of reason and objective analysis over all else. To see him apply this sensibility to love and interpersonal relationships is pretty amazing. His other books are, IMO, required reading as well, especially "To Have, or To Be?" and "The Heart of Man".
Anyway, my reason for bringing up Erich Fromm is he defines several different kinds of love. Parental Love, Interpersonal Love, etc. By the end of the book you'll most likely come to the conclusion that 99% of the population knows absolutely nothing about Interpersonal Love. That it's mostly possessive and a projection of egocentric neuroses.
At it's deepest level; yes, I agree with you that true love must be learned. That it's knowledge that must be applied and practiced, like learning a language or an instrument. This goes completely counter to the western concept of love which states that love is some mystical emotion floating around in the ether and once you "get it", you "know it" and you "can't do anything about it".
If I really sit back and analyze things, I admit, I probably didn't know shit about love at 18. I barely do now. It was probably an IMMENSE amount of attachment, a type of incredibly strong attachment that went beyond my own attachment for life itself. It's funny that I would feel such a thing, it's even funnier to think about the culture that exists that would allow and encourage such things to happen.
I felt, for sure, the definition of western society's version of love. So I'll amend my statement: I still claim that no-one taught me how to love. But an even better and more accurate statement would be, "No one taught me how to love WELL".
Man, shit's getting all psycho-therapy in here