I'm picking up from Why do people compare game to sales?
RitchieP said "Value in game = the emotions/experience the girl gets by being around you."
That's a big part of it, but we can identify other elements. What I'm going to say here is not new, I know. I'm just hoping to clarify my thinking and I hope guys who've been on this trail longer than I have will chip in.
The central and obvious proposition: a girl will not interact with you unless she expects you to (continue to) add value to her life.
Value for her is multi-dimensional. Some of those dimensions (in no particular order):
1. Money - doesn't need explaining.
2. Status - you raise her status in the eyes of others by her being seen with you.
3. Sex - she likes quality dick and you are a piece of manly meat.
4. Entertainment/drama - you make her laugh, give her fun times, make her hamster run.
5. Connection - that warm, fuzzy feeling, oxytocin, love, call it what you will.
6. Dominance - (most) women like to be submissive, even if they won't admit it.
7. Utility - you do things for her. I think friendship is just one sub-category of this (e.g. the emotional tampon, bolstering her self-esteem).
I'm sure some of you can add a few dimensions I haven't thought of.
So, there's this multi-dimensional, largely unconscious matrix she has that defines your value to her. Every guy she knows is allotted a position in her matrix. You can consciously attempt to change your position by controlling the way you present yourself to her. That is the art of game.
A beta-orbiter could be scoring well on dimensions 7 and maybe 4, whereas an alpha will likely be high on 2, 3 and 6. A partner/baby-raiser will need to do well on 1, 5 and 7. Of course, the relative importance of the dimensions will differ and vary depending on the girl, her age, her mood and a hundred other factors.
Many of the dimensions are interlinked, such that a move higher in one dimension will affect your position in another (sometimes positively, sometimes negatively). Some dimensions would be expected to be highly correlated, and if you do not display that then she will feel that something is 'off', or incongruent.
How is this model useful? It helps me to think where I score well and where I fall down. I can choose to play to my strengths or work on my weaknesses. If creating an online dating profile, for example, I can choose exactly which dimensions I will put to the forefront and maybe exaggerate.
Some of you will no doubt say "To hell with her stupid, capricious, infathomable model, just be your own man." Well, you may have escaped The Matrix in your own life, but you cannot avoid having some position on the matrix in her mind. You'd best explore it and use it to your advantage:
"Probe for areas of disatisfaction with their lives and meet their needs" +BMDT+
RitchieP said "Value in game = the emotions/experience the girl gets by being around you."
That's a big part of it, but we can identify other elements. What I'm going to say here is not new, I know. I'm just hoping to clarify my thinking and I hope guys who've been on this trail longer than I have will chip in.
The central and obvious proposition: a girl will not interact with you unless she expects you to (continue to) add value to her life.
Value for her is multi-dimensional. Some of those dimensions (in no particular order):
1. Money - doesn't need explaining.
2. Status - you raise her status in the eyes of others by her being seen with you.
3. Sex - she likes quality dick and you are a piece of manly meat.
4. Entertainment/drama - you make her laugh, give her fun times, make her hamster run.
5. Connection - that warm, fuzzy feeling, oxytocin, love, call it what you will.
6. Dominance - (most) women like to be submissive, even if they won't admit it.
7. Utility - you do things for her. I think friendship is just one sub-category of this (e.g. the emotional tampon, bolstering her self-esteem).
I'm sure some of you can add a few dimensions I haven't thought of.
So, there's this multi-dimensional, largely unconscious matrix she has that defines your value to her. Every guy she knows is allotted a position in her matrix. You can consciously attempt to change your position by controlling the way you present yourself to her. That is the art of game.
A beta-orbiter could be scoring well on dimensions 7 and maybe 4, whereas an alpha will likely be high on 2, 3 and 6. A partner/baby-raiser will need to do well on 1, 5 and 7. Of course, the relative importance of the dimensions will differ and vary depending on the girl, her age, her mood and a hundred other factors.
Many of the dimensions are interlinked, such that a move higher in one dimension will affect your position in another (sometimes positively, sometimes negatively). Some dimensions would be expected to be highly correlated, and if you do not display that then she will feel that something is 'off', or incongruent.
How is this model useful? It helps me to think where I score well and where I fall down. I can choose to play to my strengths or work on my weaknesses. If creating an online dating profile, for example, I can choose exactly which dimensions I will put to the forefront and maybe exaggerate.
Some of you will no doubt say "To hell with her stupid, capricious, infathomable model, just be your own man." Well, you may have escaped The Matrix in your own life, but you cannot avoid having some position on the matrix in her mind. You'd best explore it and use it to your advantage:
"Probe for areas of disatisfaction with their lives and meet their needs" +BMDT+
