Specificly this one
"4. Attempt to kiss Bernie [the non responsive girl]. It’s more important that you attempt the kiss than actually get it. This is because you want to establish a sexual frame to make it clear that friendship is not on the table. You don’t want to realize on the first date that you’re in the friend zone when you hoped to be in the fuck zone. I must say that I’ve never been friend zoned so much as in Ukraine, basically because my sexual intent was too weak early in the interaction."
Is this a good general rule even in America?
A girl from my gym had been very friendly/flirty for a long time, asked her if she wanted to grab a bite after training next time. She shows up to training wearing something between a workout outfit and a negligee', along with enough make up to make a prostitute blush. This was especially innappropriate because it was a martial arts school - Things were looking up already!
After training, we head to the bar and things start to head south rapidly. She mentions that she has been involved in an extended cocktease relationship with another instructor, and that she regrets "leading him on" - must have been really bad if even the woman feels bad about it! The vibe is getting weak, but after what happened to my friend, I don't feel like being another friendzone victim, so I just go for the kiss anyway.
She backs away and angrily yells "This is NOT a date!". I give her a flabbergasted expression, and she says "You're not going to be one of THOSE guys....". This was blatantly manipulative...but fairly effective girl-game - props. She follows up with the soliphistic (and borderline sociopathic) - "I need guys that are going to just DO things for me and not expect anything sexual in return". I give her a ride back to her car and we part ways.
I still feel like I made the right move in the circumstances, what are your thoughts? Keep in mind I've got to see this girl on a regular basis at the gym, and we share the same social circle there.
"4. Attempt to kiss Bernie [the non responsive girl]. It’s more important that you attempt the kiss than actually get it. This is because you want to establish a sexual frame to make it clear that friendship is not on the table. You don’t want to realize on the first date that you’re in the friend zone when you hoped to be in the fuck zone. I must say that I’ve never been friend zoned so much as in Ukraine, basically because my sexual intent was too weak early in the interaction."
Is this a good general rule even in America?
A girl from my gym had been very friendly/flirty for a long time, asked her if she wanted to grab a bite after training next time. She shows up to training wearing something between a workout outfit and a negligee', along with enough make up to make a prostitute blush. This was especially innappropriate because it was a martial arts school - Things were looking up already!
After training, we head to the bar and things start to head south rapidly. She mentions that she has been involved in an extended cocktease relationship with another instructor, and that she regrets "leading him on" - must have been really bad if even the woman feels bad about it! The vibe is getting weak, but after what happened to my friend, I don't feel like being another friendzone victim, so I just go for the kiss anyway.
She backs away and angrily yells "This is NOT a date!". I give her a flabbergasted expression, and she says "You're not going to be one of THOSE guys....". This was blatantly manipulative...but fairly effective girl-game - props. She follows up with the soliphistic (and borderline sociopathic) - "I need guys that are going to just DO things for me and not expect anything sexual in return". I give her a ride back to her car and we part ways.
I still feel like I made the right move in the circumstances, what are your thoughts? Keep in mind I've got to see this girl on a regular basis at the gym, and we share the same social circle there.