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The "Pretty Girl" Paradox: A Friend Heuristic
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The "Pretty Girl" Paradox: A Friend Heuristic

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http://blog.summation.net/2012/11/the-pr...radox.html

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When looking for a mate, everyone wants that “pretty girl.” For some, that means good looks, for others it might mean wealth, and still for others, an Ivy League education. Most people looking for a mate are influenced by one overriding and particular trait over the rest. In fact, even if the other traits are negative, a person will likely go on at least one date with someone if that key trait is positive. And so, perhaps fairly or unfairly, these Pretty Girls have opportunities not available to the rest waiting behind the red velvet ropes.

But as experience dictates, not all “pretty girls” are created equal. Some beautiful people are ugly on the inside. Some rich people are vapid. Some erudites are emotionally stunted and Ivy League schools have their share of the lazy and entitled.
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The "Pretty Girl" Paradox: A Friend Heuristic

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Having diverse set of friends leads to out-of-the-box thinking and an ability to branch out of one's comfort zone.

This is something I have long concurred with. I have more admiration for people when I find out that they have a lot of friends that don't look like them and come from the same socioeconomic background and neighborhood. If you live in a place that's particularly diverse and all the people you are close to look just like you, it seems a bit uncanny.

Back when I was doing online dating for example, if I was messaging a girl that wasn't black, I'd be much more likely to hit her up if I saw that she had a wide array of friends in her photos. Even if she was black, I'd prefer to see one that had different types of friends.
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