I had a friend, a lawyer, this guy would literally spend hours a day analyzing why something didn’t happen with some woman. It was usually after a date when it didn’t go as he had planned. He would post analyze the date and try to figure out why she did or didn’t do the things she did – drove me fucking nuts! Now, I know this is just part of human nature and our culture. We believe we can control our lives and what happens in it, but by and large, that’s just BS. We are just blowing in the wind.
Even if you knew the reason behind why a woman did or didn’t do something it doesn’t matter and the reason is: you can never know all the reasons and there is always more than one whether she understand this or not. Here’s the basic logic. Look at the following equation:
X + Y + Z * e^2 = result
X, Y, Z are environmental factors e.g. her car broke down, her mother got sick, she had to work late etc. but e = her emotional state at that time squared! So even if you knew ALL of the environmental factors you don’t know what her emotional state was at the time she made the decision because even she doesn’t know it. And this is a huge factor, the reason it’s squared. Society tells women it’s their birthright to be emotional it’s their prerogative. And when it comes to emotions they can change from minute to minute by just a thought. For example, she could have just started thinking about her boyfriend and suddenly felt guilty about seeing you, or the about the last guy that didn’t call her back, or what’s happening with her friend cat, etc. etc.
Besides, the emotional factor there are ALWAYS environmental factors you don’t know about or you can’t account for accurately. For example, you don’t know about her past, her current financial situation, her family, etc. All of this stuff affects any decision a woman/person makes. What this also means is that she could make one decision this minute and a completely different one five minutes from now. So how do you know what she is going to do? You know when she does it. In the end that’s all that matters – what she does. If she doesn’t do it when you want her to do then tough luck. Knowing all the reasons and spending hours second guessing yourself won’t change anything and it simply does not matter. Because even IF you could figure out ALL the factors for that particular result everything can change just 5 minutes later and yield a completely different outcome.
ALL of our game knowledge in the end comes down to probabilities and odds – same as with anything in life. The sooner we come to accept this reality the happier and more productive we will be. Just let the shit go and move on. If nothing else this also should tell you that when the shit works out, you have to be prepared to run with it and milk it for all it’s worth!
PS More than anything else this is reminder to myself as I am dealing with the shit again. It's certainly a lot worse in the US than Europe.
Even if you knew the reason behind why a woman did or didn’t do something it doesn’t matter and the reason is: you can never know all the reasons and there is always more than one whether she understand this or not. Here’s the basic logic. Look at the following equation:
X + Y + Z * e^2 = result
X, Y, Z are environmental factors e.g. her car broke down, her mother got sick, she had to work late etc. but e = her emotional state at that time squared! So even if you knew ALL of the environmental factors you don’t know what her emotional state was at the time she made the decision because even she doesn’t know it. And this is a huge factor, the reason it’s squared. Society tells women it’s their birthright to be emotional it’s their prerogative. And when it comes to emotions they can change from minute to minute by just a thought. For example, she could have just started thinking about her boyfriend and suddenly felt guilty about seeing you, or the about the last guy that didn’t call her back, or what’s happening with her friend cat, etc. etc.
Besides, the emotional factor there are ALWAYS environmental factors you don’t know about or you can’t account for accurately. For example, you don’t know about her past, her current financial situation, her family, etc. All of this stuff affects any decision a woman/person makes. What this also means is that she could make one decision this minute and a completely different one five minutes from now. So how do you know what she is going to do? You know when she does it. In the end that’s all that matters – what she does. If she doesn’t do it when you want her to do then tough luck. Knowing all the reasons and spending hours second guessing yourself won’t change anything and it simply does not matter. Because even IF you could figure out ALL the factors for that particular result everything can change just 5 minutes later and yield a completely different outcome.
ALL of our game knowledge in the end comes down to probabilities and odds – same as with anything in life. The sooner we come to accept this reality the happier and more productive we will be. Just let the shit go and move on. If nothing else this also should tell you that when the shit works out, you have to be prepared to run with it and milk it for all it’s worth!
PS More than anything else this is reminder to myself as I am dealing with the shit again. It's certainly a lot worse in the US than Europe.
