Well, since the thread is already underway...
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See what everyone does.
Does everyone drink shitfaced? Drink responsibly.
Does everyone drink responsibly? Drink more than is normal, but still be in control.
Does everyone dance? Get the girl to stop dancing as soon as possible.
Does everyone sit around? Approach a random table every 10-15 or so minutes.
Adjust yourself to be juuuuuuuuust different enough so you get noticed, but not so much that you look like an asshole - beta human brain cannot grasp the concept of low work-high reward easily.
While you'll undoubtedly get a lot more tingles, you'll soon figure out why they say "Misery loves company"; the goal says: "In the long run, sacrificing a few tingles will increase my notch count".
Adapt accordingly to the situation, don't have only one or two tactics; forget any labels (alpha, beta...).
Instead, think like this:
I am not alpha or a player; I do whatever I want, whenever I want, as long as it suits my goals.
I am not a metalhead; I listen to metal music.
I am not a computer technician; I fix computers.
When you do not associate any labels with yourself, then people cannot peg you down.
Instead, they will try to shame you and try to use your emotions since it is the only weapon left for them.
Be calm, listen, and strike. When people get emotional, they make mistakes; play your cards right, and they will be completely at your mercy.
The only use for labels should be to make teaching someone easier and simpler, so they get the gist.
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You should focus only on the goal; completely ignore the process, and instead, just enjoy it. It will make you a happy man.
P. S.
Your gut (Heart? Spirit? Premonition? See where I'm getting at? All these words are actually the same, but the label makes a huge difference) is the smartest organ.
It will always help you.
Just give yourself permission to listen to it.
The brain will always try to sabotage you in any way possible, and it will be so subtle you're not gonna notice it for some time - you make excuses that "make sense", and, before you know it, you become lazy.
Think about it a little bit: every time your gut said "Something's amiss", while your brain was convinced "Nothing can go wrong", the premonition was right.
Every. Single. Time.
Use it, abuse it, listen to it constantly. It would be a shame to waste such great power