Confidence comes from having success. If you are repeatedly successful, you start to trust yourself and you know that you are good. There are no shortcuts to confidence. You have to try and fail, then practice, then
fail better, then practice more, then fail with style and grace, then practice more, then little by little you find ways to be successful, and little by little your confidence grows.
Quote: (11-16-2012 06:23 AM)Nomad77 Wrote:
That will do it but it's the long hard road that most people won't go down.
Yes, it is a long hard road. Just like college, just like career, nothing valuable in life comes easy.
Gaining confidence means literally changing the way your brain is wired. Changing the way you perceive yourself and the world. You are literally changing who you are!
Geting good at game is hard work. If you want to be a new man who get p*ssy, thats what it takes! Effort and dedication!
Real change is not easy!
Quote: (11-16-2012 12:22 PM)MattC Wrote:
I cannot emphasise enough how important going to the gym is.
Going to the gym is good for your body and self image but it doesn't do much to help your conversational confidence and social skills.
Gym confidence doesn't always translate into confidence with women.
I know bodybuilders with no social skills or conversational skills.
I know some skinny guys who never go to the gym but they are killers with chicks. They never workout. BUT, THEY SOCIALIZE WITH HOT CHICKS ALL NIGHT LONG!
Their are many different types of confidence. They are not all interchangeable. Some of us are confident on the dancef loor but not in the boardroom. Some of us are confident at work but not confident in a social setting.
MAKE SURE YOU ARE WORKING ON THE SPECIFIC SKILLS AND AREAS OF CONFIDENCE THAT YOU SPECIFICALLY NEED!
It makes no sense to become a big buffed guy who can't talk to chicks. And, on the other hand, if you are already competent and confident when talking to chicks, you might get higher quality girls by working on your looks.
Working on your looks and working on your confidence can be two different things.