[Christian McQueen]

(11-13-2012 09:22 PM)el mechanico Wrote:  

For some reason I think you think I was joking. I'm not.

Ah, so text her and say for example "This is bullshit suck my dick. You know I was drunk. I'm out". ?

[Avarence]

You had the police called on you, gave up $400 of your own money, dealt with her distrust and yelling at you, and still want her back?

And then you think you don't have oneitis?



A 150+ notch veteran wouldn't be trying to find ways to get a relationship out of that. He'd be running for the hills, and towards his next girl.

[el mechanico]

(11-13-2012 09:28 PM)McQueensPlayboyRules Wrote:  

(11-13-2012 09:22 PM)el mechanico Wrote:  

For some reason I think you think I was joking. I'm not.

Ah, so text her and say for example "This is bullshit suck my dick. You know I was drunk. I'm out". ?

You know I was drunk is an admission of guilt. Just " Done with you clowns all of you can suck me off" Then wait two days.

[Christian McQueen]

To clear up some confusion:

I don't have oneitis. I am already gaming new girls. BUT I do want to know the best play to get her hamster spinning and back on me. Call it ego whatever but I get off on a chick's hamster spinning especially AFTER she thinks she has the upper hand.

[Avarence]

(11-13-2012 09:34 PM)McQueensPlayboyRules Wrote:  

I don't have oneitis. I am already gaming new girls. BUT I do want to know the best play to get her hamster spinning and back on me. Call it ego whatever but I get off on a chick's hamster spinning especially AFTER she thinks she has the upper hand.

Assuming you're telling the truth, then just ignore her completely and focus on the new girls you're gaming. You said yourself she expressed interest and perhaps the hamster started to run faster once you held back contact for periods of time. Just do that to the extreme. And if that makes you uncomfortable, you have oneitis.

[Christian McQueen]

@IQVX makes sense. Especially since a while back she said "if we ever broke up it would make me beyond upset if you got back with an ex or dated other girls".

Bahaha

[HiFlo]

That family is fucked up. Are they italian?

[Christian McQueen]

(11-13-2012 09:43 PM)HiFlo Wrote:  

That family is fucked up. Are they italian?

Mexican. But very 'white' mexicans. Los Angeles. They aren't rich but not hurting. 3rd generation here. They don't even speak Spanish haha. I like latin girls, will bang other ethnicities, but only gf up latin girls. Just a preference.

[ABDada]

Maybe I'll get called out as being uncaring, but I don't believe men should ever play games like that.

Fade her NOW, and if she reinitiates contact, continue fading her. The best way you can "win" with an ex is to not be available at all. If you MUST respond, do it days or weeks later and then fade again.

[Christian McQueen]

(11-13-2012 09:46 PM)ABDada Wrote:  

Maybe I'll get called out as being uncaring, but I don't believe men should ever play games like that.

Fade her NOW, and if she reinitiates contact, continue fading her. The best way you can "win" with an ex is to not be available at all. If you MUST respond, do it days or weeks later and then fade again.

The whole family leaves this coming Monday for a week on a cruise so that'll be easy that week. IF she initiates contact THIS week just ignore or respond a couple days later? I always follow the rule of waiting twice the time or sometimes equal the time to respond to texts/calls.

[ABDada]

If she initiates a text, wait a week to respond. There's no harm in waiting, she's already gone. Every day that passes without her initiating, her family and friends are reminding her about the "deadbeat she wasted half a year on". That's what they're saying.

EXCEPT...

If you've initiated recently with no warm response, you have to bounce. There can be no replying to her if you've already approached and were shot down.

I can't understand anything you'd gain by being the one to dump her, she already took that stance. Hate fucks => win, re-dumping => lose.

[Christian McQueen]

(11-13-2012 09:56 PM)ABDada Wrote:  

If she initiates a text, wait a week to respond. There's no harm in waiting, she's already gone. Every day that passes without her initiating, her family and friends are reminding her about the "deadbeat she wasted half a year on". That's what they're saying.

EXCEPT...

If you've initiated recently with no warm response, you have to bounce. There can be no replying to her if you've already approached and were shot down.

I can't understand anything you'd gain by being the one to dump her, she already took that stance. Hate fucks => win, re-dumping => lose.

You're dead on about her family going on and on about me. I KNOW that's happening even though I funded her little brother's bday party, took her on trips etc. It's like how fucking illogical can you be? Stupid.

Got it

[el mechanico]

(11-13-2012 09:50 PM)McQueensPlayboyRules Wrote:  

(11-13-2012 09:46 PM)ABDada Wrote:  

Maybe I'll get called out as being uncaring, but I don't believe men should ever play games like that.

Fade her NOW, and if she reinitiates contact, continue fading her. The best way you can "win" with an ex is to not be available at all. If you MUST respond, do it days or weeks later and then fade again.

The whole family leaves this coming Monday for a week on a cruise so that'll be easy that week. IF she initiates contact THIS week just ignore or respond a couple days later? I always follow the rule of waiting twice the time or sometimes equal the time to respond to texts/calls.

This is not very Mcqueenish. Go get a dirt bike and tear up the dads lawn tonight.

[Christian McQueen]

(11-13-2012 09:59 PM)el mechanico Wrote:  

(11-13-2012 09:50 PM)McQueensPlayboyRules Wrote:  

(11-13-2012 09:46 PM)ABDada Wrote:  

Maybe I'll get called out as being uncaring, but I don't believe men should ever play games like that.

Fade her NOW, and if she reinitiates contact, continue fading her. The best way you can "win" with an ex is to not be available at all. If you MUST respond, do it days or weeks later and then fade again.

The whole family leaves this coming Monday for a week on a cruise so that'll be easy that week. IF she initiates contact THIS week just ignore or respond a couple days later? I always follow the rule of waiting twice the time or sometimes equal the time to respond to texts/calls.

This is not very Mcqueenish. Go get a dirt bike and tear up the dads lawn tonight.

Lmao. Touche

[teh_skeeze]

Here's how you get her hamster spinning...DIP THE FUCK OUT. Right now she thinks she has the upper hand, but if you refuse to play the game and don't chase, she will start wondering if she made a mistake. However, if you get back with her just to dump her back, she will say I was right the first time.

[ABDada]

(11-13-2012 09:59 PM)McQueensPlayboyRules Wrote:  

You're dead on about her family going on and on about me. I KNOW that's happening even though I funded her little brother's bday party, took her on trips etc. It's like how fucking illogical can you be? Stupid.

Got it

Wtf?

You paid for her little brother's birthday trip? After just 5 months? Less than a year is Skittles, dude. Shelling out cash for her family is a bad, bad idea.

And you took HER on trips? Don't you mean you let her join you on trips?

I'm seeing red flags more and more. I can not pull away from the mandate to bounce permanently, fade permanently, block her texts and calls and emails.

[Christian McQueen]

GManifesto where are you lol? You have alot of experience with the crazyass women of SoCal. Thoughts?

[Christian McQueen]

(11-13-2012 10:01 PM)ABDada Wrote:  

(11-13-2012 09:59 PM)McQueensPlayboyRules Wrote:  

You're dead on about her family going on and on about me. I KNOW that's happening even though I funded her little brother's bday party, took her on trips etc. It's like how fucking illogical can you be? Stupid.

Got it

Wtf?

You paid for her little brother's birthday trip? After just 5 months? Less than a year is Skittles, dude. Shelling out cash for her family is a bad, bad idea.

And you took HER on trips? Don't you mean you let her join you on trips?

I'm seeing red flags more and more. I can not pull away from the mandate to bounce permanently, fade permanently, block her texts and calls and emails.

Funded her lil bro's bday party: meaning helped with $, presents etc; not a trip.

As far as trips with her I ALWAYS say "I want to do this etc, join me". My girls always join MY lifestyle, but this chick was so glued to her family it became inevitable for me to spend time with them at some point.

[Christian McQueen]

(11-13-2012 10:00 PM)teh_skeeze Wrote:  

Here's how you get her hamster spinning...DIP THE FUCK OUT. Right now she thinks she has the upper hand, but if you refuse to play the game and don't chase, she will start wondering if she made a mistake. However, if you get back with her just to dump her back, she will say I was right the first time.

Good point on her wondering if she made a mistake. She's hot BUT I was her first real 'love', man who knew how to rock her world. Her self esteem isn't the best.

[ABDada]

Too much drama for only knowing her 5 months.

Let it be a huge lesson to you: spin plates until you're ready to actually settle. Monogamy is for (some) marriages, not for some gal who is attached to other people that strongly.

All men in monogamy WILL become oxytocin bonded in time. It's how our bodies operate. It's part of the biological imperative for "weaker" men to be part of the tribe and listen to the "stronger" men leaders. If you do the monogamy thing, your frame forces you into the weaker group of the tribe males.

[Christian McQueen]

(11-13-2012 10:08 PM)ABDada Wrote:  

Too much drama for only knowing her 5 months.

Let it be a huge lesson to you: spin plates until you're ready to actually settle. Monogamy is for (some) marriages, not for some gal who is attached to other people that strongly.

All men in monogamy WILL become oxytocin bonded in time. It's how our bodies operate. It's part of the biological imperative for "weaker" men to be part of the tribe and listen to the "stronger" men leaders. If you do the monogamy thing, your frame forces you into the weaker group of the tribe males.

Golden. The fucking irony of it is I always have side ass and didn't with her. Dumb dumb dumb. I believe it sends off an energy for sure with girls they can sense you have options a mile away.

[ABDada]

The crazy thing is that you don't actually have to be having sex with your side pieces, or even making out with them.

Just having women throw themselves at you bodily is usually enough to increase your testosterone and lower the oxytocin build-up that creates one-itis. Girls forcing themselves onto your lap can be enough, if you don't want to be dipping into multiple lakes.

[Christian McQueen]

My self control is so low though if a hot girl gets in my lap she's getting banged lol. I get your point though.

[Veloce]

Assuming your entire story is true then I have this to offer:

Don't get blackout drunk in front of your gf's dad. In fact, don't get blackout drunk.

[Christian McQueen]

(11-13-2012 10:32 PM)thedude3737 Wrote:  

Assuming your entire story is true then I have this to offer:

Don't get blackout drunk in front of your gf's dad. In fact, don't get blackout drunk.

Story is true no reason to lie to anonymous internet forum. Agreed on the drinking completely