Fellas,
I haven't seen a formal subcategory for introductions, so I thought I'd throw this up in the Newbie Forum. I tend to be a bit long-winded, so bear with me. Here goes...
(This post is partially inspired by Beyond Borders' thread)
Background
I spent the past 15 months trying to get a brutal drinking problem under control. I got myself into treatment, scored some prescription meds, and finally got my shit together to the point where I wasn't routinely waking up in the hospital or getting completely blacked-out and driving heroic distances across state lines (only to wake up in the back of my Jeep having pissed myself). It was a terrible existence, and at one point in 2011 I was literally trying to drink myself to death ala Nic Cage in Leaving Las Vegas (with no Elisabeth Shue to kick it with). I did some serious self-evaluation during this time, and found that one of the biggest triggers for why I was inhaling bourbon was because I had terrible anxiety when it came to approaching women. By improving this area of my life, I feel like I'll be able to get over this next hurdle and get myself further away from being a raging, self-destructive drunk.
Overall, I've had middling success with girls (typical ectomorph). I strung together 12 straight years of long-term relationships during my formative years, which completely stunted any sort of game development I would've had in college/my early 20's. After the last one mercifully ended, I went through the first extended period of my life where I was dating casually, but due to the aformentioned battle with the bottle, I woke up next to some unsavory specimens - usually having no idea what I said or did to make this magical interaction happen. This has gotten somewhat better since I've started to straighten myself out, but I still have the occasional slip-ups. Every now and then I will get lucky with a solid takedown. I would like this to become the norm.
Plus (and this is important to me) it can be an incredibly enjoyable experience to push a girl's buttons and get her going. If you're kicking A+ game at her, you're happy AND you're making her happy. Everyone wins. Everyone feels good.
How Did I Find Out About the Forum?
I was researching spots to check out in Copenhagen* and looking for some info on Danish chicks when I stumbled across "Don't Bang Denmark." I read the book, enjoyed it, and picked up some more of Roosh's work. A lot of it made sense...and I could see where I was fucking up during many of my interactions with women. The algorithmic approach that Roosh laid out greatly appealed to me, as I am a Comp Sci dude by trade. In my mind's eye I could see the whole process unfolding as some sort of flow chart - a sexy set of conditionals and loops. I even envisioned Roosh's process of breaking through LMR as a form of recursion. NERDERY.
Eventually, I started reading his blog regularly and by the magic of the interwebs I was soon spending lots of time getting my lurk on in the forum.
*I actually had a great fucking time in Copenhagen during the two nights I was there. As the book makes clear, having underdeveloped game worked out perfectly for me...although I did get burned badly by the fucking bicycle logistics.
Why Did I Join This Forum?
There is a lot of great info here (game-related and in general), and the quality of the content is excellent - sharp, funny, insightful. I'd like to be a part of it. Another important reason is the following: I'm moving to my favorite city in the US in mid-November, and I am fucking excited about this opportunity. I'm looking at the move like a completely fresh start - a reboot of my existence. I only have a few acquaintances out there, so I can be anyone I want to be. Instead of being the apprehensive, skinny guy that gets black-out drunk and occasionally gets lucky, I can be the lean, smooth cat that sips his whiskey slowly and spits sneaky game. I'm going to need some serious solo skills out there, since that is how I'll have to do most of my damage. I'm looking forward to the challenge. I also find that sharing my progress here would add some public accountability to improving myself while getting some good feedback.
The song that I've taken my handle from sums it up nicely...
Do you want me to tell it like boy meets girl and the rest is history?
Or do you want it like a murder mystery?
I'm gonna tell it like a comeback story.
'Cause we when we left we were defeated and depressed.
And when we arrived we were ripping high.
Thanks for reading.
-CIS
I haven't seen a formal subcategory for introductions, so I thought I'd throw this up in the Newbie Forum. I tend to be a bit long-winded, so bear with me. Here goes...
(This post is partially inspired by Beyond Borders' thread)
Background
I spent the past 15 months trying to get a brutal drinking problem under control. I got myself into treatment, scored some prescription meds, and finally got my shit together to the point where I wasn't routinely waking up in the hospital or getting completely blacked-out and driving heroic distances across state lines (only to wake up in the back of my Jeep having pissed myself). It was a terrible existence, and at one point in 2011 I was literally trying to drink myself to death ala Nic Cage in Leaving Las Vegas (with no Elisabeth Shue to kick it with). I did some serious self-evaluation during this time, and found that one of the biggest triggers for why I was inhaling bourbon was because I had terrible anxiety when it came to approaching women. By improving this area of my life, I feel like I'll be able to get over this next hurdle and get myself further away from being a raging, self-destructive drunk.
Overall, I've had middling success with girls (typical ectomorph). I strung together 12 straight years of long-term relationships during my formative years, which completely stunted any sort of game development I would've had in college/my early 20's. After the last one mercifully ended, I went through the first extended period of my life where I was dating casually, but due to the aformentioned battle with the bottle, I woke up next to some unsavory specimens - usually having no idea what I said or did to make this magical interaction happen. This has gotten somewhat better since I've started to straighten myself out, but I still have the occasional slip-ups. Every now and then I will get lucky with a solid takedown. I would like this to become the norm.
Plus (and this is important to me) it can be an incredibly enjoyable experience to push a girl's buttons and get her going. If you're kicking A+ game at her, you're happy AND you're making her happy. Everyone wins. Everyone feels good.
How Did I Find Out About the Forum?
I was researching spots to check out in Copenhagen* and looking for some info on Danish chicks when I stumbled across "Don't Bang Denmark." I read the book, enjoyed it, and picked up some more of Roosh's work. A lot of it made sense...and I could see where I was fucking up during many of my interactions with women. The algorithmic approach that Roosh laid out greatly appealed to me, as I am a Comp Sci dude by trade. In my mind's eye I could see the whole process unfolding as some sort of flow chart - a sexy set of conditionals and loops. I even envisioned Roosh's process of breaking through LMR as a form of recursion. NERDERY.
Eventually, I started reading his blog regularly and by the magic of the interwebs I was soon spending lots of time getting my lurk on in the forum.
*I actually had a great fucking time in Copenhagen during the two nights I was there. As the book makes clear, having underdeveloped game worked out perfectly for me...although I did get burned badly by the fucking bicycle logistics.
Why Did I Join This Forum?
There is a lot of great info here (game-related and in general), and the quality of the content is excellent - sharp, funny, insightful. I'd like to be a part of it. Another important reason is the following: I'm moving to my favorite city in the US in mid-November, and I am fucking excited about this opportunity. I'm looking at the move like a completely fresh start - a reboot of my existence. I only have a few acquaintances out there, so I can be anyone I want to be. Instead of being the apprehensive, skinny guy that gets black-out drunk and occasionally gets lucky, I can be the lean, smooth cat that sips his whiskey slowly and spits sneaky game. I'm going to need some serious solo skills out there, since that is how I'll have to do most of my damage. I'm looking forward to the challenge. I also find that sharing my progress here would add some public accountability to improving myself while getting some good feedback.
The song that I've taken my handle from sums it up nicely...
Do you want me to tell it like boy meets girl and the rest is history?
Or do you want it like a murder mystery?
I'm gonna tell it like a comeback story.
'Cause we when we left we were defeated and depressed.
And when we arrived we were ripping high.
Thanks for reading.
-CIS