Quote: (10-26-2012 01:20 PM)MSW2007 Wrote:
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I think a lot of the stigma concerning unmarried older men is simple jealousy. These are guys that didn't fuck up their lives by tying themselves down to a woman decreasing in attractiveness and value every year.
Maybe there's a little of that with married guys who hate their wives and are secretly jealous of their unmarried bachelor friends, but I think it's mostly just social and cultural attitudes and norms.
In our society, (especially mainstream "white suburban culture"), it's the norm for people to go to college in their early 20's, then find a "good job" in their mid-20's, and then "settle down" and get married in their late 20's-early 30's, then have kids in their early to mid 30's.
This is basically the progression or pattern that mainstream society aims to take, therefore if you are an unmarried man in the U.S. at the age of 35+, a lot of your square peers may look down on you or question why you aren't married.
Because you are outside the matrix of mainstream social norms, they assume something must be wrong with you, usually that you are gay, or that you are severely awkward, socially impaired, or have psychological issues.
We all know this is a crock of shit, but most of us on here have "taken the red pill" so to speak.
I do think there is a natural progression for a lot of men to want to slow down and focus more on long term relationships as they age and get older, but obviously that's not for everyone.
Personally, I wouldn't mind getting married if I met the right chick in my late 30's or 40's... But my experience with American women makes me very skeptical that this will ever happen, whether it be nasty attitudes, acting entitled, lying, being manipulative, cheating, etc., the list goes on. I just can't see myself finding a woman good enough here, that I'd want to devote myself to being with them for the rest of my life.