[Rick91]

So recently I was suffering from a 4 month dry spell (getting 1 night out every 2 weeks certainly didnt help) after having had an epic month of pussy in poosy paradise.

I actually think that month did me just as much bad as it did to me good. But in the long run led me to this mindset which i will explain.


Enough is enough

Basically it got to the point where I knew something major had to be done. I had become lazy with my approaches and was getting butt-hurt when things didnt go my way. I found myself actually fantasizing about things i could have said to get my own back from a rejection. I had a mindset of it being all the womens fault, a mindset that i believe can lead men into some sort of "blackpill" type of existence (for those who dont know of the black pill i advise you google him and prepare to be disturbed and amused at the same time).


The solution

1- It's time for some self-refection. I started a habit which originated from the idea that tyler from rsd nation floated around of meditating. I personally can't stand the idea of sitting around thinking of nothing for 20 minutes. I dont care what the benefits are that shit just doesnt sit well with me. So what I did instead is take 60 mins an evening of putting thoughts to paper. Actually writing them down. Heres some things to do to kick start the process.

- Expand your gaming material. Find a source thats not connected to where your usually getting your info from. Someone from a different perspective from what your used to and thats generally recommended throughout the net. Someone thats got plenty of free material as well and that doesnt charge ridiculous amounts. (i won't name names as i dont want banned for spamming i will only say that theres a few other recent threads by different posters who's style of game looks a lot like the game i've started spitting)

- I did this it made me question my mindsets and beliefs, my approaches, what i wanted from the women, what I'am doing with my life and the most important of all it made me look into my weaknesses.

- Apply your hopefully recently gained knowledge to your situation. What is your best course of action? Mine was optimizing sprint game. I've got 1 night out in 14. I really need to kill it that very night. The fact my choices are go back to a chicks place and get laid or spend nearly 8 hours at the 24 hour casino until my bus arrives to take me back to the sticks. This fact doesnt half motivate me.


2- Consider laying off the masterbating and porn. I often mocked this on the no-fap thread and i still think trying to break world records for not fapping is a dangerous game. Yet the effects and edge it can give you against a dry spell cannot be ignored. Unfortunately i didnt actually manage to wait till the saturday night when i went out and ended up jacking it about 10 times beforehand. Thank fuck for my retardedly high sex drive or I may not have been able to perform for the chick.

That aside the effects i noticed were...

- I was productive as fuck. I usually jack it to porn all the time as its the easiest way to avoid reality and escape from boredom. When I denied myself that option it made me see that there is soo much i could get done in a day.
(NOTE- i really was jacking it far too much, iam talking double digits everyday so you might already just do productive things with your day)

- Throughout the week I found myself having surges of energy when coming across hot women. A brief flash of a chick in her underwear looked awesome to me. Usually she would have to be like having her asshole smashed for me to even notice.

- When I actually went on porn, I ended up jacking it to some softcore erotic pornstar called dominika c fingering herself. She was genuinely beutiful and feminine. Traits pornstars rarely keep a hold off. I actually found that more exciting.


The results

Basically my process and beliefs for approaching, screening and rejection were given an overhaul.

The style of game I've started using basically consists of finding girls that are already attracted or making neutral girls decide faster. I welcome rejection from unrecptive girls and thank them for not wasting my time. I then basically reveal who i'am to her. Real things, good things, embarrasing things but all honest things and at the same time i arouse her by esculating.

I will also give roosh props because if wasnt for him i wouldnt have gotten the bang. Thank fuck for the weasel toilet move.

Anyone else have anything they do for ending a formidable dry spell other than the obvious and moving to poosy paradise?


NOTE- If you end yours by method of whore then consider yourself still on one.

[scribblec]

not wanking ten times a day was the solution

[Rick91]

No man it wasn't but it would definitely have helped. I plan on forceing myself a 10 day building up period to prepare for my next night out. Probably a bit overkill but it would be interesting to see if it's possible to get boners from just seeing hot chicks walking past you.

[soup]

Go idea for a thread. I try to listen to the dry spell. What do you want, Dry Spell?

[Prophylaxis]

I usually get wasted and fuck a chubby chick. Dignity has no place in midst of a dry spell.

Also try day-gaming if you can only make it out 1 night every fortnight.

[scorpion]

Jerking off in the double digits every day?

God damn dude. Pretty sure my nut would be coming out in powdered form by the end of that.

[Catch 22]

I don't get it. Sometimes if I don't jack off for awhile, the cock gets used to not exploding and the sex drive goes down. But then when I fuck or jack off twice in a day, I want it really bad the next day and it feels better. I don't get it.

But to your point, I say the keys are trying something different - your style, venue, or both - and putting in more approaches.

[OGNorCal707]

I'm on a dry spell right now, going on about 6 weeks, it fucking sucks. It's interesting how momentum is such a intangible force, the same applies with the dry spell as sometimes they can be so brutal and seem to perpetuate themselves. When you are doing good, you can catch a roll where you just radiate the "vibe", your confidence is off the hook, and women seem to flock to you. Conversely, on the dry spell it can feel like the Sahara desert of pussy, and for whatever reason women don't give you the time of day.

The strange thing is sometimes you do the same exact thing, and get much different results, like for example I have a friend who went through a 8 month dry spell from the fall till early in the summer. Then some how this summer, he ended up stumbling into a bit of pussy with a few different chicks in a short period of time. The thing is, he didn't do anything differently that whole time, he didn't do a shit ton of approaches, get jacked at the gym, or seriously upgrade his wardrobe. He just managed to break his dry spell and some how the universe brought him new pussy.

I think there are a few factors that can contribute to and exacerbate the dry spell, to start with as the OP mentioned is masturbation. When you jerk off multiple times a day you get complacent, lazy, your motivation to hit on women drops. Your sex drive drops and you get used to the instant gratification that porn brings you. You also compare the chicks you are meeting in real life, and rating them subconciously against the chicks you jerk off to in porn.

I go through this problem as well as on a dry spell I will fall into the trap of jerking off a few times a day and not putting any effort into meeting chicks. I have resolved to not jerk off starting the day before I plan to go out, so at least I will have gone a couple days without jerking to boost up my horniness and motivation to approach.

The next factor in the dry spell which can be hard to wrap your head around and deal with, is the vibe you develop... That being that you haven't been getting pussy so some guys get a little depressed, down, or resentful and bitter, or maybe apathetic and feeling defeated. When you let your vibe fall into this dark territory, you start to telegraph it to chicks you meet, you seem less fun, confident, charismatic, etc., etc. There is not too much of a solution to this, other than try to stay upbeat, positive, and keep a fun attitude. I also find that keeping an outcome independent mindset as far as not giving a fuck about rejection helps, when you don't give a fuck about rejection it doesn't feed your downer vibe. When rejection gets to you it can only make your vibe worse.

Now the greatest factor to break the dry spell, one I need to face head on here soon and handle, is..... You got to APPROACH... like a fucking beast. So much of this shit breaks down to the number games, the more women you approach the greater chances for success you have, it's basic mathematics if you think about it objectively. That's been one of my biggest sticking points lately, I just haven't been approaching nearly enough... I have only been doing 1-3 approaches a night and going out one night a week. I may get one number a weekend, but I have a very high flake rate, where at least 50% of the girls I text won't even reply.

When you only have one prospect at a time, it turns the odd of ending the dry spell against you. The more chicks you approach the more phone numbers you get, the more chances you have that one of those girls won't flake, will go out on a date with you, and ultimately spread their legs for you. On top of approaching harder, you must push the interaction as far as possible. Recently I've just been getting numbers and haven't been getting make outs or SNL, mostly because I haven't been able to create enough attraction to really go for it. Still though there were a few occassions recently where I got the girls number, but should have just gone for the kiss when I got some signals, even though they weren't the strongest. If I had gotten the make out, that could have possibly lead to the same night lay, or if not, made it less likely theyd flake and not reply to my texts.

So to recap, if you want to end a dry spell you got to, stop jerking off, start approaching in high numbers, push the interaction and escalate as much as possible, and try to build on any momentum you can develop.

OG

[Rick91]

@ Scorpian, i generally fire blanks after the 4th to 6th orgasm.


If your going for the bang every night which i do due to my circumstances I think the most important factor is how you screen chicks.

Its the idea that you get receptive, neutral and unreceptive ones.

Unreceptive chicks are basically ones that arn't into you, if she makes the interaction difficult for you consider her unreceptive. You want to get rid of these chicks asap.

Receptive chicks are the rarest unless your in a poosy paradise or you really have your shit together. These girls are already attracted to you once eye contact has been made or within the first 5 mins of the interaction.

The most commen girl you will find in a nightclub assuming your not properly unattractive will be neutral girls. They dont feel particuarly one way or the other about you. What you want to do with these girls is make them decide quickly. Generally doing things that are more bold will get yoy results fast. Chicks will either dig you or reject you.

Iv only used this approach to screening once so far and i got the bang capturing my italian flag in the process. If I sense the level of attraction a girl has for me isnt above a certain level early in the interaction then i just move on.

NOTE- You appreciate a 7 so much more than you appreciate like a 9 in poosy paradise if your under going the effects of scarcity. Probably explains a lot about falling in love or at least what most men think love is.

What I aim to do for my next night out is see if i can withhold from wanking for maybe 10 to 5 days before.

[soup]

Wow, it seems like one of the "Godwin's law"s of this forum is that sooner or later, everything becomes a discussion about whether or not to jerk-off.

[kerouac]

Sometimes dry spells mean something greater, like your subconscious is telling you you need to change something great in your life.

I just got off a major dry spell, and it was a result of changing my life fairly drastically. It wasn't so much about doing things with the expectation of getting something out of it (like going to the gym to look better *for girls*, or doing anything for girls). The biggest change was understanding what I like, and pursuing it for that sole goal of feeling good. Once I got into that ego-promoting state of doing what I wanted, saying/thinking what I wanted, purely for myself, I was able to get out of the dry-spell.

When you start wanting to do things solely for yourself, you start taking everything else less seriously, and that builds your attractiveness.

[rationalize_this]

(10-16-2012 01:15 PM)kerouac Wrote:  

Sometimes dry spells mean something greater, like your subconscious is telling you you need to change something great in your life.

I just got off a major dry spell, and it was a result of changing my life fairly drastically. It wasn't so much about doing things with the expectation of getting something out of it (like going to the gym to look better *for girls*, or doing anything for girls). The biggest change was understanding what I like, and pursuing it for that sole goal of feeling good. Once I got into that ego-promoting state of doing what I wanted, saying/thinking what I wanted, purely for myself, I was able to get out of the dry-spell.

When you start wanting to do things solely for yourself, you start taking everything else less seriously, and that builds your attractiveness.

This sums it up perfectly. Women can sense men who are selfish, go after what they want, and happy in their own skin. Its a vibe you radiate. Go after what fulfills you, that which makes you successful, that which makes you happy to wake up every day.

I read somewhere here about an "inner smile". If you can master this state of mind, the women will take care of themselves. We all know hot streaks are momentum based. Same goes to dry spells. Don't get sucked down further and further into IRT territory. Change something up. Mix up your gym routine, do something with your career, start learning an instrument.

Soon you'll find yourself walking around with a semi-grin on your face, not giving a fuck whether the cute peruvian walking by responds well to your approach or not. And we all know how well not giving a fuck works for us

[Rick91]

I have also found i seem to score after i come across something new and unbelievable. I think this is because I really put effort into actually tyring it out.

1- I read the game and actually took notes and organised a routine, spent a week organizing it and scored the very next night i went out.

2- I found out about rsd nation theorys of building momentum and getting into state, i watched like everyone of tyler durdens videos and got the bang next time i went out.

These 2 things failed me in the long run. The first one is just retarded and you'd turn into a robot doing shit like that all the time. The 2nd one is better but it doesnt focus at all on you and you may also come across as a retard if you just rely on those 2 things. However there definitley is truth behind those concepts.

The latest one has been mark mansons models book. It was what ended the latest dry spell. I actually have strong hopes for what it says and the fact is its always a work in progress.

I'am seeking to increase my knowledge on the subject further. I think i'll read "The way of the superior man" as well as continue to check out blogs who are the leading voices on it. Ive started taking notes of anything that comes across as a new insight that i think holds value. I just remember shit soo much better when i write it down. Sounds nerdy but if it tightens my game and gets me the bang i will happily do it. Also keeps me from jerking it 10 times a day.