[blackglasses]

I am usually nervous to actually have sex since i have had sex only about 10 times(6 women) and all but 2 times i lasted only one minute.

would it help if i was the one controlling them in the bedroom? will confidence affect stamina?

Please help. it really hurts my confidence in approaching/escalating.

[DiogoFC]

Try to set a scenario in which you can bang four times in a row. Each next time you're gonna struggle more to come and will last longer.

If things don't work well, you can try "retardative" condoms; I guess they have xylocaine.

[BIGINJAPAN]

Ways of the superior man talks about a simple breathing technique that works. Essentially it is just relaxing and not tensing your muscles up and using deep breathing to keep the energy moving through out your body. I use it and can have sex for a hour sober no problem.

Other things you can do is starting and stopping. Try pulling out and eating her pussy and fingering her and then go back in for awhile.

But I suggest you buy the book first. I think Roosh did a review on it recently and it isn't very expensive. I think I paid 15 bucks for it

[HiFlo]

ManDelay is some novocaine-like gel.

Viagra.

[Kaizen]

use search function

[Pete]

If you use condoms, try Durex Performax.

[Giovonny]

If you want to last longer you have to train your dick. How do you train your dick?

You put on a condom and masturbate. Then, just before you cum, stop and focus on not cumming. Repeat this process a few times. Get yourself to the point where you can control your orgasm. Like anything it takes practice.

[blackglasses]

(10-02-2012 12:34 PM)Giovonny Wrote:  

If you want to last longer you have to train your dick. How do you train your dick?

You put on a condom and masturbate. Then, just before you cum, stop and focus on not cumming. Repeat this process a few times. Get yourself to the point where you can control your orgasm. Like anything it takes practice.

Thanks so basically edging

[Pappy]

(10-02-2012 01:00 PM)blackglasses Wrote:  

(10-02-2012 12:34 PM)Giovonny Wrote:  

If you want to last longer you have to train your dick. How do you train your dick?

You put on a condom and masturbate. Then, just before you cum, stop and focus on not cumming. Repeat this process a few times. Get yourself to the point where you can control your orgasm. Like anything it takes practice.

Thanks so basically edging

Giovanny is right. When you jerk off, focus on making the pleasure last as long as possible and coming as late as possible. You will find your breaking points and you will know how and when to slow down.

[seeker04542]

(10-01-2012 06:02 PM)blackglasses Wrote:  

I am usually nervous to actually have sex since i have had sex only about 10 times(6 women) and all but 2 times i lasted only one minute.

would it help if i was the one controlling them in the bedroom? will confidence affect stamina?

Please help. it really hurts my confidence in approaching/escalating.

Some things that can help (besides advice already given) is to get into shape (aerobic), it will make a big difference. Also depending on how open you are and where you're located there may be Tantra practitioners that can help you learn to channel/control your libidinal energy.

At a practical level you can do Kegel exercises and/or focus on your anus/sphincter when you feel you are approaching the point of "ejaculatory inevitability" (apparently it directs tension in the groin away from the genitals into a non-erotic part of your nearby anatomy).

P.S. Technically it's now called "rapid ejaculation" :-|

P.P.S. If you suffer from an underlying anxiety condition (as I do) that's more in the realm of straight psychology/psychotherapy.

[jammer]

keep banging her for a few minutes. girls cant tell that you cummed in the condom

[Bacchus]

Just do her again. You shouldn't have the same problem the second time.

[tiggaling]

Rhodiola Rosea did the trick for me ;-)

[Samseau]

One of the best tricks is to cum fast and early, so your second wind comes up again very soon. Every subsequent load takes long and longer to blow, so shooting the first one is usually a good strategy. If she can make you blow a load with a blow job or titty fuck before you actually fuck her, you'll be good.

While you wait for your refractory period to end, you can just keep her horny by making out or fingering her pussy a bit (don't let her cum with your fingers).

[jammer]

(10-06-2012 06:03 PM)Samseau Wrote:  

One of the best tricks is to cum fast and early, so your second wind comes up again very soon. Every subsequent load takes long and longer to blow, so shooting the first one is usually a good strategy. If she can make you blow a load with a blow job or titty fuck before you actually fuck her, you'll be good.

While you wait for your refractory period to end, you can just keep her horny by making out or fingering her pussy a bit (don't let her cum with your fingers).

Good trick. If you blow by a BJ, its not embarrassing and its a boost to a girls ego since she was able to get you off with a BJ.

Why not make her cum with your fingers?

[NoBalls]

I had this problem in my early 20s. Google the "stop start technique". You train yourself during masturbation and once you are fully trained you will be able to last as long as you want when you are having sex.

The technique involves this: There is a moment during sex when you are building up to a climax. Learn how to recognize when this is happening. When you identify this happening you slow down or even stop briefly if you have to and then the buildup stops and reverses. Then you can keep on going. After you do this a few times during sex it will be harder to cum.

The buildup is worst during the first couple of minutes but once you make it past the first few minutes it will be very easy to control ejaculation. If you do this technique too many times during sex the biggest problem is that when you are actually ready to cum, you might not be able to.