We already discussed Hanna Rosin's "Boys on the Side" article (http://www.rooshvforum.network/thread-15386.html). It says college women today enjoy the freedom of the hookup culture because they don't want to devote time to a serious relationship, preferring to delay marriage and build academic and career success.
A fascinating related article was published in 1957! Sex and the College Girl 1957
Back then, guys locked up girlfriends in the first two weeks of the school year. Women appreciated the security, but quickly got bored and tired of their beta boyfriends. The women knew their market value and wanted to play the field! It resembles Hannah Rosin's positive attitude toward the hookup culture.
1) Criticisms of women have not changed.
The modern American female is one of the most discussed, written-about, sore subjects to come along in ages. She has been said to be domineering, frigid, neurotic, repressed, and unfeminine. She tries to do everything at once and doesn't succeed in doing anything very well. Her problems are familiar to everyone, and, naturally, her most articulate critics are men. ... what really irritates them about modern women is that they can't, or won't, give themselves completely to men the way women did in the old days.
2) Womens' attitudes toward sex are uchanged.
What or what not to do about sex is, these days, relative. It all depends. This is not to say that there are no longer any moral standards; certainly there are—the fact that sex still causes guilt and worry proves it. But moral generalizations seem remote and unreal, something our grandparents believed in.
girls are inconsistent in their attitude toward [a man]—sexual sirens at first (when they wanted to attract him), promising everything, then becoming more and more aloof and more and more anxious to discuss the relationship step by step, when logically their behavior should be quite reversed; he had thought that as they got to know and like him they would be more relaxed about sex.
girls ... rules ... contradict each other. One is that anything is all right if you're in love (romantic, from movies and certain fiction—the American dream of love) and the other is that a girl must be respected, particularly by the man she wants to marry (ethical, left over from grandma). Since these are extremely shaky and require the girl's knowing whether or not there is a chance of love in the relationship, sex, to her, requires constant corroborative discussion while she tries to plumb the depths of a man's intentions. Actions alone are not trustworthy. After all, a prostitute can arouse a man as well as (and probably better than) a "nice" girl. But if a man loves her for herself, and not just her body, he will augment his wandering hands with a few well-placed words of love. Clinging to her two contradictory principles, she tries to be a sexual demon and Miss Priss at tea at the same time; she tries not to see what strange companions love and propriety are.
3) The lying rationalization hamster has not changed.
Susie has, on the whole, kept her chastity ... and she wants to be reasonably intact on her wedding night. She had an unfortunate experience at Dartmouth, when she and her date were both in their cups, but she barely remembers anything about it and hasn't seen the boy since. She has also done some heavy petting with boys she didn't care about, because she reasoned that it wouldn't matter what they thought of her.
A fascinating related article was published in 1957! Sex and the College Girl 1957
Back then, guys locked up girlfriends in the first two weeks of the school year. Women appreciated the security, but quickly got bored and tired of their beta boyfriends. The women knew their market value and wanted to play the field! It resembles Hannah Rosin's positive attitude toward the hookup culture.
1) Criticisms of women have not changed.
The modern American female is one of the most discussed, written-about, sore subjects to come along in ages. She has been said to be domineering, frigid, neurotic, repressed, and unfeminine. She tries to do everything at once and doesn't succeed in doing anything very well. Her problems are familiar to everyone, and, naturally, her most articulate critics are men. ... what really irritates them about modern women is that they can't, or won't, give themselves completely to men the way women did in the old days.
2) Womens' attitudes toward sex are uchanged.
What or what not to do about sex is, these days, relative. It all depends. This is not to say that there are no longer any moral standards; certainly there are—the fact that sex still causes guilt and worry proves it. But moral generalizations seem remote and unreal, something our grandparents believed in.
girls are inconsistent in their attitude toward [a man]—sexual sirens at first (when they wanted to attract him), promising everything, then becoming more and more aloof and more and more anxious to discuss the relationship step by step, when logically their behavior should be quite reversed; he had thought that as they got to know and like him they would be more relaxed about sex.
girls ... rules ... contradict each other. One is that anything is all right if you're in love (romantic, from movies and certain fiction—the American dream of love) and the other is that a girl must be respected, particularly by the man she wants to marry (ethical, left over from grandma). Since these are extremely shaky and require the girl's knowing whether or not there is a chance of love in the relationship, sex, to her, requires constant corroborative discussion while she tries to plumb the depths of a man's intentions. Actions alone are not trustworthy. After all, a prostitute can arouse a man as well as (and probably better than) a "nice" girl. But if a man loves her for herself, and not just her body, he will augment his wandering hands with a few well-placed words of love. Clinging to her two contradictory principles, she tries to be a sexual demon and Miss Priss at tea at the same time; she tries not to see what strange companions love and propriety are.
3) The lying rationalization hamster has not changed.
Susie has, on the whole, kept her chastity ... and she wants to be reasonably intact on her wedding night. She had an unfortunate experience at Dartmouth, when she and her date were both in their cups, but she barely remembers anything about it and hasn't seen the boy since. She has also done some heavy petting with boys she didn't care about, because she reasoned that it wouldn't matter what they thought of her.