I've been in Korea for a year now and banged more than girls in that one year than I did my entire life in the states. I thought something was wrong with me, then I thought something must be wrong with girls back home in the states. I think the US conditions you to think that when something goes bad, it's somehow your fault. Hence all the self-improvement bullshit out there when the truth is that most of are fine just the way we are.
So these are some things I learned about game that I wanted to run by you guys because these are things I've experienced and I'm trying to see if anybody else can confirm whether it's true or it's just in my head. Now that I'm seeing some level of success here I want to know how I can improve upon that to get with the 9's and 10's consistently.
1. Money/Lifestyle matters. Probably the most important when they size up a guy. I started off teaching English and making 2K/month, but I kept switching jobs until my current one as a consultant where I average 6K/month, sometimes more sometimes less. I buy better clothes, have several rides (car/motorcycle/bike), and my bachelor's pad is dang nice. Having all of this gives me more confidence when I meet girls not only because they're attracted to all of that stuff but more importantly, I feel ten times more confident talking to women knowing that I can back it all up. Women don't shit test me nearly as much and were very forgiving back when I first started out and fucked up a lot.
2. Threads matter. I dressed poorly even in the states, usually sticking to my tank top, shorts, and flip flop get-up. Now I see why I must've only attracted the 6's and 7's back home: they're the only ones who don't mind overlooking my crappy fashion sense cuz they don't get much male attention anyway. Because of my job, I wear a suit minus the jacket and tie and I'm in very good shape. I look good in a fitted dress shirt and so I wear that to clubs and bars almost exclusively and constantly get hit on. I hate tight clothes, but it makes such a big difference.
3. Being tall matters. I'm Korean-American so I blend in, but at 6'0 I'm taller than most guys here. It allows me to get away with some sloppiness in my game, since these girls were attracted to my physically anyway.
4. Don't always talk to the hottest girls. Talk to the ones who are sending you shit tons of IOIs and pass the boner test. They'll be extra nice to you because they're interested.
5. Then take that girl home and bang her even if she's a 7. My first 2 or 3 bangs sucked. Busted too soon, girl didn't get off, didn't know what I was doing. But after several more lays, I got really good. I learned some things, like how I can't get off very easily with a condom on, which was why I was able to give girls several orgasms before I finally busted. I also learned that I was licking the totally wrong parts when going down on a girl, though now I know where. None of this could have happened if I hadn't sucked up my pride and taken the 7's home. I think the huge reason I got really good was that I could experiment all I wanted with them and they weren't going to judge me. That's one thing I hate about American girls: they can completely suck in bed, but still be completely unforgiving towards the guy if he isn't amazing. How's anybody supposed to get better then?
6. Don't talk to girls you have no attraction to. I hated doing this back in the states, but felt that I had to just to be nice. What a mistake. Here, I'll take the occasional 7 home but I only talk to 8's and up. Eventually the 6's and below get the hint and even though they may look at me longingly, I ignore them. My parents raised me to be nice to everybody, and I still harbor some resentment towards them because of how unsuccessful this made me with women. It's almost like they don't want grandkids from me.
7. Bars and clubs are nowhere near as good as being part of a solid social circle. Not only are the girls of higher quality, but my game isn't good enough to pull back girls for one-night stands, at least not consistently. It's the girls I'll meet 3 or 4 times for group drinks and dinner who I'll bang for the next several weeks. Of the 20 or so girls I've banged here, maybe 2 or 3 were not from that social circle. Mine is excellent because all the logistics are right: my male friends are white dudes who've been here 5 to 7 years, have tons of connections and female co-workers and friends, live enviable lifestyles, and know how to speak Korean. They've banged plenty of girls from their social circle too, but the girls flock to me in droves because I look Korean so while I'm Western enough to be different from most guys here, they're thinking that I'm safe enough to bring home to mom and dad as a boyfriend if it came to that.
8. I don't bang after the first meeting anymore. I met a smoking hot girl from the social circle who I banged after a particularly drunk night out. We had instant chemistry from the moment we met. She was very wild in bed. But she's also insanely clingy, emotional, and jealous. She manipulated every emotion possible to make me feel guilty about everything and wouldn't stop bothering me by phone and facebook for nearly 2 months after I told her to get the fuck out of my life. Had I waited to get to know her better, it would not have happened as I think I'm a good judge of character. I came really close to repeating the mistake again with another girl in my social circle but something told me to be careful. I started banging her friend instead. Found out through her friend, just from shooting the shit, that the girl I almost banged was also kind of insane. So from that moment on, I promised to trust my instincts. But just to be safe, I don't bang right away. I have girls who I can bang if I don't pick up a girl that night and on top of that girls get to thinking I'm "different" from most guys just by waiting the extra day or two.
9. Don't waste time talking to dudes or trying to be "cool" with them. Most guys you meet out and about are not cool. Matter of fact, they're dicks who will hit on your girl when you go to the bathroom. Even the coolest guys are not going to want to share their hot girls with you. I mean, would you? So there's just nothing to gain from these interactions, far as I can tell. One of the girls I'm banging now is kind of on the conservative side, though I've opened her up a lot, but whenever we go clubbing, I make her wear the sluttiest outfit possible because that's what turns me on. She does, as long as she can make me wear what she wants (the dress shirt, pants, and dress shoes). Naturally, guys go nuts over her. Then, there are always a few of them who will come over to me, put their hands around my shoulders, compliment me, buy me drinks, and want to be buddies. Fuck that shit. I know why you're here. And I don't care if you think I'm an asshole, because we don't know each other like that. The only other people I'll talk to are girls, because my girl is really attracted to pretty girls. The only guys I want to get to know are ones who I meet outside of the clubs who I share an interest with (like bball).
10. Be honest to yourself, above all. This was the hardest concept for me to accept because I grew up with so much toxic shame about my sexuality. Dad caught me with Penthouse mags once and nearly tore my room apart when I was young looking for all other "immoral" stuff that would lead me off the path of a good Servant of God. Now, if I don't like someone, I let them know it. Not subtle, I know, but when they're out of my life, I feel much better. This bullshit we keep feeding each other in the US about how you shouldn't discriminate and be nice to others...well, maybe I just haven't found the perfect balance where I don't need to be mean about it but still make them go away. Maybe I'm deliberately pushing myself towards the opposite end of the spectrum where I act more dick-ish to people I don't like than I should. I'm sure this will get better as I acquire more tact. But this has brought more happiness to my life than anything else I've ever done. As I began to get more responsibilities at work, or more IOIs from girls, or more demands for my attention, it became more and more necessary to cut out all the shit I don't want from my life.
I really think number 10 changed my entire life the most. I became completely unafraid of just walking away if the situation didn't match what I wanted. I've walked away from jobs that didn't pay well, girls who didn't meet my standards, and people who didn't add anything to my life (especially people who love to talk when they don't really know what they are talking about...they just wanted someone to spill all their bullshit to about how much they know about politics, or the world, or women...) It also allowed me to straight up tell the girls I bang that I'm not committing to any of them and want to bang multiple girls at the same time. I've only lost 1 girl this way. Almost always, the reactions is: they get mad, don't call me for a day or two, cry, tell their friends I'm a jerk, get drunk, call me, and we're banging again. next morning, they tell me they understand my needs and though they're not excited about it, they'll go with it, as long as i act like they're the most special girl in the world when I'm with them (no problem). Just being honest changed up so many things in my game.
Have others here experienced any of these things? I'm really impressed with the quality of opinions here on this board. There's not a lot of BS, members are pretty straightforward, and I strongly subscribe to the idea that America is not the heaven we, along with the rest of the world, often think it is. Is there anything in my list you guys disagree with or think would improve my success rate? I am still not very good at one night stands from clubs and bars and would definitely like to increase those numbers.
So these are some things I learned about game that I wanted to run by you guys because these are things I've experienced and I'm trying to see if anybody else can confirm whether it's true or it's just in my head. Now that I'm seeing some level of success here I want to know how I can improve upon that to get with the 9's and 10's consistently.
1. Money/Lifestyle matters. Probably the most important when they size up a guy. I started off teaching English and making 2K/month, but I kept switching jobs until my current one as a consultant where I average 6K/month, sometimes more sometimes less. I buy better clothes, have several rides (car/motorcycle/bike), and my bachelor's pad is dang nice. Having all of this gives me more confidence when I meet girls not only because they're attracted to all of that stuff but more importantly, I feel ten times more confident talking to women knowing that I can back it all up. Women don't shit test me nearly as much and were very forgiving back when I first started out and fucked up a lot.
2. Threads matter. I dressed poorly even in the states, usually sticking to my tank top, shorts, and flip flop get-up. Now I see why I must've only attracted the 6's and 7's back home: they're the only ones who don't mind overlooking my crappy fashion sense cuz they don't get much male attention anyway. Because of my job, I wear a suit minus the jacket and tie and I'm in very good shape. I look good in a fitted dress shirt and so I wear that to clubs and bars almost exclusively and constantly get hit on. I hate tight clothes, but it makes such a big difference.
3. Being tall matters. I'm Korean-American so I blend in, but at 6'0 I'm taller than most guys here. It allows me to get away with some sloppiness in my game, since these girls were attracted to my physically anyway.
4. Don't always talk to the hottest girls. Talk to the ones who are sending you shit tons of IOIs and pass the boner test. They'll be extra nice to you because they're interested.
5. Then take that girl home and bang her even if she's a 7. My first 2 or 3 bangs sucked. Busted too soon, girl didn't get off, didn't know what I was doing. But after several more lays, I got really good. I learned some things, like how I can't get off very easily with a condom on, which was why I was able to give girls several orgasms before I finally busted. I also learned that I was licking the totally wrong parts when going down on a girl, though now I know where. None of this could have happened if I hadn't sucked up my pride and taken the 7's home. I think the huge reason I got really good was that I could experiment all I wanted with them and they weren't going to judge me. That's one thing I hate about American girls: they can completely suck in bed, but still be completely unforgiving towards the guy if he isn't amazing. How's anybody supposed to get better then?
6. Don't talk to girls you have no attraction to. I hated doing this back in the states, but felt that I had to just to be nice. What a mistake. Here, I'll take the occasional 7 home but I only talk to 8's and up. Eventually the 6's and below get the hint and even though they may look at me longingly, I ignore them. My parents raised me to be nice to everybody, and I still harbor some resentment towards them because of how unsuccessful this made me with women. It's almost like they don't want grandkids from me.
7. Bars and clubs are nowhere near as good as being part of a solid social circle. Not only are the girls of higher quality, but my game isn't good enough to pull back girls for one-night stands, at least not consistently. It's the girls I'll meet 3 or 4 times for group drinks and dinner who I'll bang for the next several weeks. Of the 20 or so girls I've banged here, maybe 2 or 3 were not from that social circle. Mine is excellent because all the logistics are right: my male friends are white dudes who've been here 5 to 7 years, have tons of connections and female co-workers and friends, live enviable lifestyles, and know how to speak Korean. They've banged plenty of girls from their social circle too, but the girls flock to me in droves because I look Korean so while I'm Western enough to be different from most guys here, they're thinking that I'm safe enough to bring home to mom and dad as a boyfriend if it came to that.
8. I don't bang after the first meeting anymore. I met a smoking hot girl from the social circle who I banged after a particularly drunk night out. We had instant chemistry from the moment we met. She was very wild in bed. But she's also insanely clingy, emotional, and jealous. She manipulated every emotion possible to make me feel guilty about everything and wouldn't stop bothering me by phone and facebook for nearly 2 months after I told her to get the fuck out of my life. Had I waited to get to know her better, it would not have happened as I think I'm a good judge of character. I came really close to repeating the mistake again with another girl in my social circle but something told me to be careful. I started banging her friend instead. Found out through her friend, just from shooting the shit, that the girl I almost banged was also kind of insane. So from that moment on, I promised to trust my instincts. But just to be safe, I don't bang right away. I have girls who I can bang if I don't pick up a girl that night and on top of that girls get to thinking I'm "different" from most guys just by waiting the extra day or two.
9. Don't waste time talking to dudes or trying to be "cool" with them. Most guys you meet out and about are not cool. Matter of fact, they're dicks who will hit on your girl when you go to the bathroom. Even the coolest guys are not going to want to share their hot girls with you. I mean, would you? So there's just nothing to gain from these interactions, far as I can tell. One of the girls I'm banging now is kind of on the conservative side, though I've opened her up a lot, but whenever we go clubbing, I make her wear the sluttiest outfit possible because that's what turns me on. She does, as long as she can make me wear what she wants (the dress shirt, pants, and dress shoes). Naturally, guys go nuts over her. Then, there are always a few of them who will come over to me, put their hands around my shoulders, compliment me, buy me drinks, and want to be buddies. Fuck that shit. I know why you're here. And I don't care if you think I'm an asshole, because we don't know each other like that. The only other people I'll talk to are girls, because my girl is really attracted to pretty girls. The only guys I want to get to know are ones who I meet outside of the clubs who I share an interest with (like bball).
10. Be honest to yourself, above all. This was the hardest concept for me to accept because I grew up with so much toxic shame about my sexuality. Dad caught me with Penthouse mags once and nearly tore my room apart when I was young looking for all other "immoral" stuff that would lead me off the path of a good Servant of God. Now, if I don't like someone, I let them know it. Not subtle, I know, but when they're out of my life, I feel much better. This bullshit we keep feeding each other in the US about how you shouldn't discriminate and be nice to others...well, maybe I just haven't found the perfect balance where I don't need to be mean about it but still make them go away. Maybe I'm deliberately pushing myself towards the opposite end of the spectrum where I act more dick-ish to people I don't like than I should. I'm sure this will get better as I acquire more tact. But this has brought more happiness to my life than anything else I've ever done. As I began to get more responsibilities at work, or more IOIs from girls, or more demands for my attention, it became more and more necessary to cut out all the shit I don't want from my life.
I really think number 10 changed my entire life the most. I became completely unafraid of just walking away if the situation didn't match what I wanted. I've walked away from jobs that didn't pay well, girls who didn't meet my standards, and people who didn't add anything to my life (especially people who love to talk when they don't really know what they are talking about...they just wanted someone to spill all their bullshit to about how much they know about politics, or the world, or women...) It also allowed me to straight up tell the girls I bang that I'm not committing to any of them and want to bang multiple girls at the same time. I've only lost 1 girl this way. Almost always, the reactions is: they get mad, don't call me for a day or two, cry, tell their friends I'm a jerk, get drunk, call me, and we're banging again. next morning, they tell me they understand my needs and though they're not excited about it, they'll go with it, as long as i act like they're the most special girl in the world when I'm with them (no problem). Just being honest changed up so many things in my game.
Have others here experienced any of these things? I'm really impressed with the quality of opinions here on this board. There's not a lot of BS, members are pretty straightforward, and I strongly subscribe to the idea that America is not the heaven we, along with the rest of the world, often think it is. Is there anything in my list you guys disagree with or think would improve my success rate? I am still not very good at one night stands from clubs and bars and would definitely like to increase those numbers.
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