[-abe-]

I don't know what I can do. The thought of conversing with a girl I find attractive is quite terrifying for me. I only had one girl interested in me, ever...back in 2005. She was a 6. I made out with her several times and felt her tits. That's as far as it got. That's as far as I got with a woman. I ended up weirding her out with beta behavior.

Though I lack the pretty boy face of my brothers (one older, one younger...both of whom get laid regularly), I am not ugly. I am average looking.

Thing is I find it very hard to get interested in what normal people find compelling. I've been enjoying Olympics, but in general I loathe American sports. I cannot at all bond with men my age, and when I do, it's with geeks over things like art-cinema/video-games (not the mainstream ones) /niche music. Yet even those geek friends of mine have had sex with multiple women.

Never getting laid has totally fucked me over. I failed out of college 60% of the way through out of depression/loneliness. Consequently, I am now stuck in a low status career (security guard.) I don't even have the "beta" positives (i.e provider.) It is not so much the sex I want but the acceptance by a woman I find attractive.

I also made a thread on Athol Kay's forums and revealed a few more details:

http://marriedmansexlife.vanillaforums.c...-at-age-26

please comment on my situation/give advice/ridicule etc.

[Hades]

Hell I dunno. As far as I'm concerned being a virgin at 26 is not exactly an object of shame. A lot of people die without ever hitting pink, and since people live well into their 70s it's never too late to get laid.

Unless this post is a troll you've come to the right place. Read this, put down the computer, and get your shit together.

http://www.rooshv.com/the-roosh-program

Also check out my blog and buy Convict Conditioning or Starting Strength from my second post down, so I get a sweet lil' commission.

[Iluminaughty]

Same here almost 27.

[Basil Ransom]

You can't rely on the forum to solve something you've had the resources to solve yourself. It's like a healthy dude telling a bunch of buff guys he can't bench even half his own weight despite years of trying. It's extreme enough that a guy would question the merit of helping you, and whether you were serious. You might just keyboard jockey yourself to death.

Set aside some money and literally pay a guy to coach you. If you can't set aside a few bones to make such a marked change to your life, you aren't serious.

[LowerCaseG]

bang hookers and get the monkey off your back.

[speakeasy]

There's always hope, man. Look at this link below. This game guru named 26 got his name because he lost his virginity at that age. People do it.

http://www.pualingo.com/pua-profiles/twe...ry-kirkey/

[OGNorCal707]

Things I'd recommend, read BANG and all of Roosh's game posts, stop jerking off to porn, go to a therapist, start approaching females, step up your fashion, hit the gym hard, stop giving a fuck and mind fucking yourself over it. The thing with virgins and guys with extremely limited sexual experiences is they dwell so much over it, that it becomes something like a self-fulfilling prophecy where they come to believe that they can't get laid, or never will.

Also, lower your standards and fuck a chubby chick or a quintessential "5", don't be so hung up on only wanting to fuck really hot chicks like you see in porn.

[Merenguero]

(08-06-2012 12:07 AM)Hades Wrote:  

Hell I dunno. As far as I'm concerned being a virgin at 26 is not exactly an object of shame. A lot of people die without ever hitting pink, and since people live well into their 70s it's never too late to get laid.

Unless this post is a troll you've come to the right place. Read this, put down the computer, and get your shit together.

http://www.rooshv.com/the-roosh-program

Also check out my blog and buy Convict Conditioning or Starting Strength from my second post down, so I get a sweet lil' commission.

Years ago, I knew a guy who was his mid twenties, fairly normal looking, and in shape who never had any physical contact with a female at all. This guy had an abrasive personality and a pretty negative attitude and I wouldn't be suprised if he still has not made any progress. A negative attitude will screw you. A positive attitude is one of the most important, if not the most important quality.

[Thomas the Rhymer]

(08-05-2012 11:45 PM)-abe- Wrote:  

I don't know what I can do. The thought of conversing with a girl I find attractive is quite terrifying for me. I only had one girl interested in me, ever...back in 2005. She was a 6. I made out with her several times and felt her tits. That's as far as it got. That's as far as I got with a woman. I ended up weirding her out with beta behavior.

Though I lack the pretty boy face of my brothers (one older, one younger...both of whom get laid regularly), I am not ugly. I am average looking.

Thing is I find it very hard to get interested in what normal people find compelling. I've been enjoying Olympics, but in general I loathe American sports. I cannot at all bond with men my age, and when I do, it's with geeks over things like art-cinema/video-games (not the mainstream ones) /niche music. Yet even those geek friends of mine have had sex with multiple women.

Never getting laid has totally fucked me over. I failed out of college 60% of the way through out of depression/loneliness. Consequently, I am now stuck in a low status career (security guard.) I don't even have the "beta" positives (i.e provider.) It is not so much the sex I want but the acceptance by a woman I find attractive.

I also made a thread on Athol Kay's forums and revealed a few more details:

http://marriedmansexlife.vanillaforums.c...-at-age-26

please comment on my situation/give advice/ridicule etc.

In other words, your problem list consists of:
- You don't know any girls
- You don't know any guys
- Your job sucks
- You're a virgin

None of these are insurmountable.

Decide which one you want to tackle first and go for it.

The Roosh programme, as mentioned by Hades, will improve your status with girls.

As for guy friends, the problem with most men is that they expect friends to just fall into their lap through circumstances. Then they complain about the quality of friends that they have around them. You have to look for friends the same way you have to chase tail: by actively going out to public places and meeting new people. Read Day Bang and then read my thread on my hack of GALNUC for networking purposes (find the thread in my signature below). You can easily use networking techniques to build a cool circle of friends. I did.

As for the job, I have asked a lot of people about how they get their jobs and a recurring theme is that it's not what you know, it's who you know. A lot of people are in fields of work that they never really were qualified to go into in the first place, but they got in through a friend. While there seem to be plenty of networking denialists on this forum (and everywhere else) who sincerely believe that a good resume is how you get a job, the truth in real life is that many people will be willing to hire you for a job you are only barely qualified for as long as they like you. To meet these people who are willing to hire you, you have to network. Read my thread on jobhunting and diligently study all the networking resources I list therein. If you're not happy with your low status job, then network and eventually you'll get a better one (you can find the jobhunting thread in my signature below).

As for being a virgin, I also lost my virginity in my late 20's. Just don't bring it up, and bluff your way with the chicks. The chick I lost my virginity to doesn't know it and never will. It's only a big deal if you insist on making it a big deal.

[Merenguero]

(08-05-2012 11:45 PM)-abe- Wrote:  

Never getting laid has totally fucked me over. I failed out of college 60% of the way through out of depression/loneliness. Consequently, I am now stuck in a low status career (security guard.)

Don't women approach you as a security guard? I know it does not have the DHV that being a police officer can have in some cases, but I can see that there would be many instances where women would be forced to talk to you.

[Hannibal]

(08-06-2012 02:01 AM)Thomas the Rhymer Wrote:  

As for being a virgin, I also lost my virginity in my late 20's. Just don't bring it up, and bluff your way with the chicks. The chick I lost my virginity to doesn't know it and never will. It's only a big deal if you insist on making it a big deal.

I wholeheartedly agree with this. Your first time is basically there to get it out of the way, so don't excuse your perceived lackluster performance on the fact that it's your first time. When the time comes, just bust a nut and don't give a shit what she thinks about it. If she asks how many people you slept with, lie and say a number between 3 and 7. It does you no good to dwell in despair. You'll feel like a new man when you start working out and hitting on women on the regular.

[michelin]

No need for gurus. Some members like myself started that age. once in to the Game, your # of bangs will increase dramatically. Get ready: fun starts today.

As OgnOrCal707 says, to start fucking it is key to "stop giving a fuck". Don't overanalyse people. Don't give a shit. Just concentrate on your target, nothing else matters.

good luck

[w00t]

for late bloomers its best to bang a hooker.
seriously jsut get it out the way.

i was terrified of sex, then banged a thai hooker on my 20th birthday. that unleashed my inner animal and shortly after i had my first gf.

seriously man just get it out of the way, you will realize
a) its no big deal
b) its AWESOME and you want more hehe

[xsplat]

Move to Thailand for a year.

[alphaspiraton]

I think hitting the gym will be a huge step in the right direction. At least it was for me.

I was kind of skinny but have since put on quite a few pounds of muscle.

Secondly, just hang out with other guys who are banging multiple girls. I'm sure you know someone. Don't hang out with guys who have long term relationships with girls for the purposes of learning from them; their game muscles have atrophied.

[michelin]

don't worry about not finding a female virgin...never too late

http://tucsoncitizen.com/usa-today-news/...-a-virgin/

[Ramon Zarate]

Hit it HARD. Devote a year to the game and make up for lost time. Get more bangs than most average dudes get in their entire lives. Shed the ego and just get out there for the new experiences. One-night stands might be a good idea since if you don't have a clue what you're doing your first time(s) it doesn't really matter anyway.

[mental]

You think 26 is too late to start practicing the Game? If your dick can get hard, you CAN learn to be a amazing player! Don't believe me? Just look at tenderman100! He's in late 50's and still pulls girls that are in their 40's and younger!

[Thomas the Rhymer]

Thanks for the advice guys. I was honestly pretty nonchalant about my v card for a long time but it has massively started to bother me in the last couple of weeks to the point of despair.

I've already been attending the gym regularly since late June.

I plan to learn/do things that can make me more interesting/sociable. And most importantly, I'm going to try get out there every meaning. I'll have to first ditch my weekend evening job and replace my weekdays second shift job so I can have free evenings.

[NewGamer]

Okay guys, this is what I'm going to do soon.In line with MrXY's 100 approach study thread, I'm going to start a new thread next week documenting my 100 approaches.However, I am a NEWBIE so it will be in the newbie section. Be ready for an entertaining read.

[Runnin]

Agreed with most of the advice on the thread but OP, lose it to a girl you are attracted to, do not lose it to a woman you have no attraction for.

[durangotang]

Take a trip to Thailand or the Philippines - which is probably even easier. Just do it. Even if it is for 2 weeks. Western culture has become pretty toxic. I doubt you'll come back a virgin. That trip should also give you the needed energy to continue doing the things you need to back home like hitting the gym and improving yourself (and most likely planning for future travel).

[GameOver]

I have the same problem and I'm afraid if I do get the chance to have sex with someone, my fantasies and fetishes will be too kinky or off-putting to the girl. I've always been into the idea of video taping it just so I can watch it and I don't think I've ever met a woman who would be into or okay with this.

[WestCoast]

You spent 26 years of your life alive. 1/3 of that was spent sleeping. You have lived for call it 18 years being generous. Of that time a good 1/3 of it was spent dicking around in class/school extra curricular activities... You're now 9 years of productivity. In those 9 year subtract all the time you spent looking at online forums, internet "porn", sports "scores", video games... etc etc.

You're going to physically live another 60 years.. 40 of which can be productive.

How many approaches can you do in FORTY years?

See you when you've lost the v-card.

[alecks]

i would suggest to bang a hooker to get it out of the way.that'l give you confidence to game.its not the best option but itl get your foot in the door