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So here's my deal, after years of bitching out on chasing women, hoping that they would come one to me, I'm finally trying to get my head out of my ass and take a more proactive approach to meeting women. I should also say that unfortunately I've got major issues with being shy and social anxiety, etc., it sucks, but I'm trying to overcome that shit. So here my main question, I know that I need to suck it up and start approaching women like crazy, but I live in a pretty small town (pop. 17,000) and everyone kind of knows everyone, so you're not as anonymous as you would be in a bigger town/city. I know I need to just say "fuck it", because that's the best attitude, but I just feel like if most of my approaches come off as awkward or unconfident in the beginning, I'm making a bad first impression on girls I'm bound to see again and again. Should I mostly approach less attractive girls that I'm not as into at first, kind of like for practice, so that when I get to ones I like I won't be quite as nervous? How about being more calculating and just going for ones that show me more interest (eye contact, body language, etc.) And if I do make some less than stellar first impressions should I keep trying to talk to the same girls when I see them at the same bars every weekend, or should I just kind of say fuck it if they blow me off?
Sorry for coming with such a weak newbie question, but I'm kind of working from the bottom right now, trying to dig myself out of the ditch that I've been in for a while now. Anyone else on here living in a small town that can relate or offer some advice? I know I;m probably tripping on this too much, but trying to get my head straight before I go at it full force...
So here's my deal, after years of bitching out on chasing women, hoping that they would come one to me, I'm finally trying to get my head out of my ass and take a more proactive approach to meeting women. I should also say that unfortunately I've got major issues with being shy and social anxiety, etc., it sucks, but I'm trying to overcome that shit. So here my main question, I know that I need to suck it up and start approaching women like crazy, but I live in a pretty small town (pop. 17,000) and everyone kind of knows everyone, so you're not as anonymous as you would be in a bigger town/city. I know I need to just say "fuck it", because that's the best attitude, but I just feel like if most of my approaches come off as awkward or unconfident in the beginning, I'm making a bad first impression on girls I'm bound to see again and again. Should I mostly approach less attractive girls that I'm not as into at first, kind of like for practice, so that when I get to ones I like I won't be quite as nervous? How about being more calculating and just going for ones that show me more interest (eye contact, body language, etc.) And if I do make some less than stellar first impressions should I keep trying to talk to the same girls when I see them at the same bars every weekend, or should I just kind of say fuck it if they blow me off?
Sorry for coming with such a weak newbie question, but I'm kind of working from the bottom right now, trying to dig myself out of the ditch that I've been in for a while now. Anyone else on here living in a small town that can relate or offer some advice? I know I;m probably tripping on this too much, but trying to get my head straight before I go at it full force...