In my previous post I outlined four requirements of a player:
http://www.rooshvforum.network/thread-14263.html
If you don’t meet these requirements don’t feel bad. The guys that do are the exception, not the norm. What it does mean though is that very few of us really have what it takes to be a real player. The same way very few of us has what it takes to be an assassin. It doesn’t make you any less of a man and you shouldn’t beat yourself up over it. But just in case you feel that way, then these posts are for you.
The concept of a player or PUA has become idolized in our society the same way the spy or assassin has BUT before you decide you want to be one you should take a look at what it really entails. It is not as glamorous as many think and there are some very really drawbacks to the lifestyle.
If you have ever been in sales for a larger company you have probably heard of the concept of the sales cycle. The sales cycle in a minimum configuration consist of the following stages: prospecting, qualifying, presentation, objections, close. Each company customizes each stage for the product or service they are selling. The best sales people are people that become good at executing each of these stages for each sale and then do this day and day in out to rack up big numbers. A player job is no different. The only different is that the service a player is selling is himself.
So right away what does this tell you? If you hate selling, then becoming a player will be a lot harder because that is essentially what you are doing every night you step out: you are going out there to sell yourself! Also, some guys are going to have it lot easier than others because what they are selling is in higher demand. I have a friend who literally just goes somewhere and wait for women to approach him then say you want to go back to my place. A lot of women will turn him down but a quite a few also go. Now, I am in the same places with him, but how many women approach me? I would be lucky if one does. So how hard your job of selling will be is directly related to who you are – which is what you are selling.
Regardless of the demand for your service the sales cycle is still required to rack up high numbers. And it is absolutely required if you are just an average looking guy like me. If you read Roosh books careful, you will realize he is applying the sales cycle without realizing it. So let’s look at how the sales cycle becomes a player lifestyle and the consequences of that lifestyle in this and the next four post.
Prospecting: where to find the women you want to meet. There are women everywhere but it is to your benefit if you can go somewhere where there are more of the kind of the women you are interested in. For example, if you are really into blondes and you are in Africa you might find things a bit difficult. Prospecting is analyzing your local environment and attempting to find locations that will be most conducive to meeting and picking up the kind of women you like. In both of his Bang books Roosh talks about finding that favorite bar or club in each city that works for him. When he goes to a new city he scouts it out, check out the bars, and different social areas. He looks at the women that goes to them and the competition. This is prospecting. Personally, I take a different approach. Given that my attraction range is very narrow I know there is no single place that I can find that will have a lot of the women I find attractive. So I have to cast a much wider net. I don’t go out looking for women. I am always looking for THAT woman. Doesn’t matter where I am or what I am doing. If I see a woman I am attracted to I automatically go into game mode. I actively start analyzing the situation trying to work out what I call a firing solution – term from submarine warfare. If I come up with a firing solution, most of the time I will pull the trigger, but sometimes for whatever reason I will chicken out and hate myself after. I never feel bad pulling the trigger but I always feel bad not doing it. It is definitely worth trying and failing than not trying at all. The other avenues I use for prospecting are friends, online dating sites, my hobbies, work, facebook, everything. The more picky you are about who you are attracted to the more work it will take to find just one of them and I know this. Here are two recent examples of how I usually meet women:
I was getting a visa at an embassy and saw a woman with man also getting a visa. I wanted to meet the woman but she was sitting in the embassy waiting area with this guy. I realized that the only way it was going to happen was the guy would have to leave and go to the bathroom or she would have to do it and then I could pull what I call a bathroom interception. As luck would have it the guy did leave suddenly but she was still across the room from me. I would have had to get up and go over to her and come up with something to say. So while trying to figure out a possible opening line I heard her asking the security guard a question that I knew the answer to. I realize immediately that this was my firing solution and I had about 3 seconds to pull the trigger. I immediately interjected myself into the conversation by telling her what I knew and so we began talking. I then pretended I couldn’t hear her well and moved closer. Before she left I got her facebook and phone number. The guy was just a co-worker.
The other day I was in the checkout line at the supermarket when I saw the cashier: very cute girl. Of course, as I got to her and was ringing up my goods there was a bunch of people behind me – always happens. Not much time for a good conversation but I got it started and let her know I was interested. I then returned to the store and waited for her line to empty then walked up to her with some milk. She goes to me oh, you forget something? I look directly at her and said: no, I just wanted to talk to you.
http://www.rooshvforum.network/thread-14263.html
If you don’t meet these requirements don’t feel bad. The guys that do are the exception, not the norm. What it does mean though is that very few of us really have what it takes to be a real player. The same way very few of us has what it takes to be an assassin. It doesn’t make you any less of a man and you shouldn’t beat yourself up over it. But just in case you feel that way, then these posts are for you.
The concept of a player or PUA has become idolized in our society the same way the spy or assassin has BUT before you decide you want to be one you should take a look at what it really entails. It is not as glamorous as many think and there are some very really drawbacks to the lifestyle.
If you have ever been in sales for a larger company you have probably heard of the concept of the sales cycle. The sales cycle in a minimum configuration consist of the following stages: prospecting, qualifying, presentation, objections, close. Each company customizes each stage for the product or service they are selling. The best sales people are people that become good at executing each of these stages for each sale and then do this day and day in out to rack up big numbers. A player job is no different. The only different is that the service a player is selling is himself.
So right away what does this tell you? If you hate selling, then becoming a player will be a lot harder because that is essentially what you are doing every night you step out: you are going out there to sell yourself! Also, some guys are going to have it lot easier than others because what they are selling is in higher demand. I have a friend who literally just goes somewhere and wait for women to approach him then say you want to go back to my place. A lot of women will turn him down but a quite a few also go. Now, I am in the same places with him, but how many women approach me? I would be lucky if one does. So how hard your job of selling will be is directly related to who you are – which is what you are selling.
Regardless of the demand for your service the sales cycle is still required to rack up high numbers. And it is absolutely required if you are just an average looking guy like me. If you read Roosh books careful, you will realize he is applying the sales cycle without realizing it. So let’s look at how the sales cycle becomes a player lifestyle and the consequences of that lifestyle in this and the next four post.
Prospecting: where to find the women you want to meet. There are women everywhere but it is to your benefit if you can go somewhere where there are more of the kind of the women you are interested in. For example, if you are really into blondes and you are in Africa you might find things a bit difficult. Prospecting is analyzing your local environment and attempting to find locations that will be most conducive to meeting and picking up the kind of women you like. In both of his Bang books Roosh talks about finding that favorite bar or club in each city that works for him. When he goes to a new city he scouts it out, check out the bars, and different social areas. He looks at the women that goes to them and the competition. This is prospecting. Personally, I take a different approach. Given that my attraction range is very narrow I know there is no single place that I can find that will have a lot of the women I find attractive. So I have to cast a much wider net. I don’t go out looking for women. I am always looking for THAT woman. Doesn’t matter where I am or what I am doing. If I see a woman I am attracted to I automatically go into game mode. I actively start analyzing the situation trying to work out what I call a firing solution – term from submarine warfare. If I come up with a firing solution, most of the time I will pull the trigger, but sometimes for whatever reason I will chicken out and hate myself after. I never feel bad pulling the trigger but I always feel bad not doing it. It is definitely worth trying and failing than not trying at all. The other avenues I use for prospecting are friends, online dating sites, my hobbies, work, facebook, everything. The more picky you are about who you are attracted to the more work it will take to find just one of them and I know this. Here are two recent examples of how I usually meet women:
I was getting a visa at an embassy and saw a woman with man also getting a visa. I wanted to meet the woman but she was sitting in the embassy waiting area with this guy. I realized that the only way it was going to happen was the guy would have to leave and go to the bathroom or she would have to do it and then I could pull what I call a bathroom interception. As luck would have it the guy did leave suddenly but she was still across the room from me. I would have had to get up and go over to her and come up with something to say. So while trying to figure out a possible opening line I heard her asking the security guard a question that I knew the answer to. I realize immediately that this was my firing solution and I had about 3 seconds to pull the trigger. I immediately interjected myself into the conversation by telling her what I knew and so we began talking. I then pretended I couldn’t hear her well and moved closer. Before she left I got her facebook and phone number. The guy was just a co-worker.
The other day I was in the checkout line at the supermarket when I saw the cashier: very cute girl. Of course, as I got to her and was ringing up my goods there was a bunch of people behind me – always happens. Not much time for a good conversation but I got it started and let her know I was interested. I then returned to the store and waited for her line to empty then walked up to her with some milk. She goes to me oh, you forget something? I look directly at her and said: no, I just wanted to talk to you.
