Quote: (05-09-2012 01:16 AM)Piffington Wrote:
have you ever been out running game so tight, so immaculate, so naturally that you start to get a little high feeling? your sense of humor is so on point the whole room is in stitches. girls are choosing you once you walk into the room. you can give a girl eye contact strong enough to get her panties wet. your body language is so alpha that normally cold bitchy girls are like flies to a lantern? i'm not big on drugs but i figure this is how you feel when you're rolling on ecstasy.
how do you get into this zen-like state consistently? times like this are generally the times i pull the easiest but it doesn't happen that often.
meditation? any suggestions?
I experience this "zen-like state" often. Being someone who loves trance-work, I've utilized NLP, Neuro-semantics, and self-hypnosis for a LONG time to program (metaprogram) myself with serious, serious, SERIOUS state control. Those are some suggestions.
There are these glorious aspects of the brain known in neurology as neuroplasticity (the brain's ability to change neural pathways as it learns) and neurogenesis (the brain's ability to grow entirely new neurons & neural pathways).
Neuroplasticity can be initiated via imagination. You can mentally rehearse exhibiting the behaviors that you would like to become habitual. How would your "in the zone" self be standing, sitting, walking, etc? How would that self be breathing? Voice tonality? Etc, etc, etc?
As you visualize this, physically rehearse these postures, breathing patterns, voice tones, etc.
Three factors of perceptual experience that encourage neuroplasticity & neurogenesis are:
intensity, duration, and novelty. If an experience is intense enough, we remember it; if it lasts long enough, we remember it; if it is new and different enough, we remember it. These should be factored into your daily rehearsal ritual(s)... and they should become a ritual, at least for 30 days.
Daily practice provides the duration. The state-change created by the practice can provide novelty. Continued improvement in concentration, technique, and REAL-WORLD APPLICATION(S) will provide increased intensity.
It has been shown repeatedly that on a neurological level, the brains treats the real-world action and the imagined action as the same, so a good, intense regimen of mental rehearsal,
plus getting your body into it, can change your neural connections in such a way that these states are automatic.
Of course, you have to get out there and put these things to work on real girls, which helps with a sort of "muscle memory," for lack of a better term. You have to know these states in your body, of which your brain is a part.
Meditation (Vipassana, specifically) has been
shown to encourage neuroplasticity and neurogenesis in parts of the cerebral cortex associated with the integration of emotions, attention, and memory.
So adding your own customized sights and sounds to a regular meditation practice can like rearrange your neuronal connections so that your chosen states can become habituated.
Meditation has also been shown activate your parasympathetic nervous system (PNS), which is responsible for sending calming, soothing, relaxing ripples throughout your body-mind complex. In other words, responsible for that "zen-like state." The key is to remember to remember to take that state with you once you go out to engage the world... and the chicks who inhabit it.
Meditation has been shown to:
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Increase activation of left frontal regions of the brain, which lift the mood
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Improve anxiety and phobia
If your meditation practice helps you with those two bullet points (more like asterisk points), you'll be well on your way to achieving that "zen like state" when engaging women.
Then of course, as Giovonny said,
you gotta keep approaching chicks... relentlessly. That can't be said enough. That will definitely qualify as meeting the three criteria for neuroplasticity & neurogenesis--intensity, duration, & novelty.
Also, I've found that cultivating some orgasmic mastery. My confidence often borders on megalomaniacally-deific when I approach chicks because I go in knowing, without a doubt, that I am
allowing her a chance to experience a guaranteed multi-orgasmic intensity beyond the scope of her imagination. This sense of sexual superiority is a factor that puts me into that "flow."
I've cultivated the psychotic pattern of
sincerely feeling sorry for a chick who foolishly misses the chance of submitting to me sexually.