All skilled players know how important it is to have the upper hand in any type of ongoing relationship with a girl. When you begin to lose hand, her attraction to you will diminish and her behavior will worsen. She will become less pliable, less agreeable and more demanding.
Power in a relationship is is what theorists call a "zero sum game" ,meaning when one side has more power, the other side must necessarily have less power and to the same degree. When you lose power, she gains power. Despite what women say, they secretly hate this (at least the normal feminine ones).
Therefore, it's critically important for you to have strong hand in all relationships, regardless of whether its a marriage, an LTR, a regular, a casual dater, or an FB. Failure to do so will usually result in the relationship souring and ending prematurely and not on your terms.
One of the best methods to keep the hand is what i refer to as the "timeout." By this, I mean temporarily cutting off all communication with the girl. This is done without warning and without explanation. It may be done at any time, although it is most called for when she has done something that displeased you.
Not only do you not initiate contact, it is important that you do not respond to her calls, texts or emails. The length of the timeout depends on your judgment of her personality, her reaction to the timeout, and how much correction you feel her behavior needs. Only when you feel that she has been sufficiently chastened do you reestablish contact.
Here's a recent example of how a timeout worked for me. One of my regulars who I have been seeing was getting on my nerves with some annoying attitude on a Sunday after i had spent Saturday and Sunday morning banging her. On our last few times together she had become increasing critical of me on some minor points. In retrospect I think I was spending too much time with her-as everyone knows, once a girl believes she has you locked down, her behavior always deteriorates.
This is how it went down:
Sunday- there was no blow up or arguing, just some tension between us. Banged her a last time and left with usual goodbye( don't warn her about the timeout or act all pissy- this makes it far less effective)
Monday-Me-nothing, although I normally texted her the day after i saw her.
Her: Nothing
Tuesday- Me: Nothing
Her-short text saying she's sorry about the way she acted
Wednesday-Me:Nothing
Her- Leaves me a voice mail, saying she's sorry and wants to talk to me
Thursday: Me-Nothing
Her: Long text apologizing again
Friday: Me:Nothing
Her:Nothing
Saturday-Me: Nothing
Her: Even longer text even more apologetic saying she misses me
Saturday-Me: I call her
Her: She answers on the second ring.
She apologized immediately. I graciously accepted her apology and told her I was ready to just move on. It's important to point out that she really had not done any seriously bad in a specific way- but I believe women know when they are just being bitchy and actually like it when a man is willing to call them on it. A girl I once used the timeout on told me later that she knew that I was "punishing " her but that she didn't mind because she liked me!
It's also important that I didn't rub the current girl's face in it and try to humiliate her-this would only have caused resentment. The result of the timeout- she promised to buy us tickets to an event, to cook me dinner and to give me a blowjob. heh
Why does the timeout work so well? I think it has to do with a concept that has been often discussed by Roissy- male aloofness. When you timeout a girl you are showing her that you don't need her. That you are a man with social and sexual options Her hamster will spin wildly, conjuring up visions of you with other girls (cue preselection). In my experience, if you have gamed a girl well, once you put her on timeout she cannot help but fantasize about you with other girls. After all, if she thinks you are hot, other girls must want you as well, right? When I finally did talk to the current girl she asked me what i had been doing and when I was jokingly evasive she laughed and and said that I must have been "partying" ( banging other girls).
One caution- this only works with girls that you have banged a few times and have established a connection with. She must feel an emotional and sexual bond to you to the degree that she has an investment in the relationship. Only then can you instill the dread of loss that is so effective in correcting female behavior
Happy gaming
Power in a relationship is is what theorists call a "zero sum game" ,meaning when one side has more power, the other side must necessarily have less power and to the same degree. When you lose power, she gains power. Despite what women say, they secretly hate this (at least the normal feminine ones).
Therefore, it's critically important for you to have strong hand in all relationships, regardless of whether its a marriage, an LTR, a regular, a casual dater, or an FB. Failure to do so will usually result in the relationship souring and ending prematurely and not on your terms.
One of the best methods to keep the hand is what i refer to as the "timeout." By this, I mean temporarily cutting off all communication with the girl. This is done without warning and without explanation. It may be done at any time, although it is most called for when she has done something that displeased you.
Not only do you not initiate contact, it is important that you do not respond to her calls, texts or emails. The length of the timeout depends on your judgment of her personality, her reaction to the timeout, and how much correction you feel her behavior needs. Only when you feel that she has been sufficiently chastened do you reestablish contact.
Here's a recent example of how a timeout worked for me. One of my regulars who I have been seeing was getting on my nerves with some annoying attitude on a Sunday after i had spent Saturday and Sunday morning banging her. On our last few times together she had become increasing critical of me on some minor points. In retrospect I think I was spending too much time with her-as everyone knows, once a girl believes she has you locked down, her behavior always deteriorates.
This is how it went down:
Sunday- there was no blow up or arguing, just some tension between us. Banged her a last time and left with usual goodbye( don't warn her about the timeout or act all pissy- this makes it far less effective)
Monday-Me-nothing, although I normally texted her the day after i saw her.
Her: Nothing
Tuesday- Me: Nothing
Her-short text saying she's sorry about the way she acted
Wednesday-Me:Nothing
Her- Leaves me a voice mail, saying she's sorry and wants to talk to me
Thursday: Me-Nothing
Her: Long text apologizing again
Friday: Me:Nothing
Her:Nothing
Saturday-Me: Nothing
Her: Even longer text even more apologetic saying she misses me
Saturday-Me: I call her
Her: She answers on the second ring.
She apologized immediately. I graciously accepted her apology and told her I was ready to just move on. It's important to point out that she really had not done any seriously bad in a specific way- but I believe women know when they are just being bitchy and actually like it when a man is willing to call them on it. A girl I once used the timeout on told me later that she knew that I was "punishing " her but that she didn't mind because she liked me!
It's also important that I didn't rub the current girl's face in it and try to humiliate her-this would only have caused resentment. The result of the timeout- she promised to buy us tickets to an event, to cook me dinner and to give me a blowjob. heh
Why does the timeout work so well? I think it has to do with a concept that has been often discussed by Roissy- male aloofness. When you timeout a girl you are showing her that you don't need her. That you are a man with social and sexual options Her hamster will spin wildly, conjuring up visions of you with other girls (cue preselection). In my experience, if you have gamed a girl well, once you put her on timeout she cannot help but fantasize about you with other girls. After all, if she thinks you are hot, other girls must want you as well, right? When I finally did talk to the current girl she asked me what i had been doing and when I was jokingly evasive she laughed and and said that I must have been "partying" ( banging other girls).
One caution- this only works with girls that you have banged a few times and have established a connection with. She must feel an emotional and sexual bond to you to the degree that she has an investment in the relationship. Only then can you instill the dread of loss that is so effective in correcting female behavior
Happy gaming
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