I've been thinking about this topic for a bit now, but my disaster of a date has pushed me to finally put my thoughts in writing.
Backstory: I met the girl off of OKC, pretty quickly I could tell there was something abnormal about her. I couldn't figure out if it was fat/ugly induced crazyness, stupidity, or a lack of social skills, but something was wrong; I soon figured out it was a combination of all three. The thing is, I went into this date to test out a few things I had been thinking of, and to hone my skills. Practice makes perfect right? However, I knew deep down I didn't actually want to fuck this girl as much as I wanted to use her to get better at fucking hotter girls. While there is nothing wrong with this in the earlier stages of game I have been advancing in my skills. I could have better spent my time day gaming way hotter girls or doing something productive at night. My skills have surpassed the quality of girls I should be getting, I am banging lower quality girls than I should be.
This brings up the importance of continually going after more and more attractive girls. Sure you can bang 100 girls with a physical rating of 5, but where does that get you? Would those gained skills translate into the ability to bang girls of a rating of 9? Sure they would to some extent, but not entirely. Hotter girls are harder to game, they are inundated with beta suitors, they are more selective. To fuck the hotter girls you must game hotter girls when possible and not settle for the uglier girls.
A video game analogy (games like WoW)
- you start off at level 1, you suck unreasonably bad at doing pretty much everything; you must kill monsters to level up. Initially you level up very quickly and are able to kill higher level monsters and explore new areas. Eventually you hit a certain point where killing the lower level monsters isn't netting you the large skill boosts you are used to. You fine tune your playing skill and aim to kill stronger enemies. You fail at first, but eventually these monsters will be easy to kill and you will be slaying them just as easily.
- an analogy could also be made using weightlifting as an example.
One can not continually game and bang lower quality girls in the hope of eventually banging dream girls. One must start by banging lower quality girls in order to practice basic game skills, but higher quality girls will only come if you approach them and further fine tune your abilities.
What determines the quality/attractiveness of girls?
- The boner test. This is good, but doesn't account for your ego or the pleasure of sex. Adriana Lima will give you the same (albeit slightly harder) boner as a relatively chubby girl at the bar when you're wasted and on a dry streak. Which girl will you enjoy fucking more? The choice is obvious.
- 1-10 scale: similar to the boner test, universal for the most part, but again is misused (guys saying they banged five 10s, or that a certain girl they have oneitis for is a 8). For this reason I don't trust the ratings a guy I don't know has given a girl.
- personal standards I'm going to call this the selector for non-physical attributes: does she have a weird tic/habit, does she do annoying things, does she smell funny, have bad skin. Basically anything you know is a deal breaker.
I fully agree that physical attractiveness is universal with slight variances in the higher ratings based on personal preferences (asians or redheads for example), but I believe that one of the most important exercises a guy can do is sit down and make a list of what he finds attractive in a girl. Then make a list of deal-breakers or turn-offs. It is the acknowledgement of these traits that will take one's skill to the next level of hot girls. If one does not know exactly what he wants then he will game girls for game's sake. He will bang girls based on the boner test. In the process he will be missing out on opportunities to bang girls that adhere more to his personal preference resulting in more enjoyable sex. I am not saying make a 367 point checklist, but have general requirements. For example: the girl I banged yesterday is slim, has full lips, clear skin, and a nice ass. The girl I made out with today was chubby, has bad skin and greasy hair. For arguments sake lets say I banged both of them. Which bang do you think I'll remember a week from now?
Backstory: I met the girl off of OKC, pretty quickly I could tell there was something abnormal about her. I couldn't figure out if it was fat/ugly induced crazyness, stupidity, or a lack of social skills, but something was wrong; I soon figured out it was a combination of all three. The thing is, I went into this date to test out a few things I had been thinking of, and to hone my skills. Practice makes perfect right? However, I knew deep down I didn't actually want to fuck this girl as much as I wanted to use her to get better at fucking hotter girls. While there is nothing wrong with this in the earlier stages of game I have been advancing in my skills. I could have better spent my time day gaming way hotter girls or doing something productive at night. My skills have surpassed the quality of girls I should be getting, I am banging lower quality girls than I should be.
This brings up the importance of continually going after more and more attractive girls. Sure you can bang 100 girls with a physical rating of 5, but where does that get you? Would those gained skills translate into the ability to bang girls of a rating of 9? Sure they would to some extent, but not entirely. Hotter girls are harder to game, they are inundated with beta suitors, they are more selective. To fuck the hotter girls you must game hotter girls when possible and not settle for the uglier girls.
A video game analogy (games like WoW)
- you start off at level 1, you suck unreasonably bad at doing pretty much everything; you must kill monsters to level up. Initially you level up very quickly and are able to kill higher level monsters and explore new areas. Eventually you hit a certain point where killing the lower level monsters isn't netting you the large skill boosts you are used to. You fine tune your playing skill and aim to kill stronger enemies. You fail at first, but eventually these monsters will be easy to kill and you will be slaying them just as easily.
- an analogy could also be made using weightlifting as an example.
One can not continually game and bang lower quality girls in the hope of eventually banging dream girls. One must start by banging lower quality girls in order to practice basic game skills, but higher quality girls will only come if you approach them and further fine tune your abilities.
What determines the quality/attractiveness of girls?
- The boner test. This is good, but doesn't account for your ego or the pleasure of sex. Adriana Lima will give you the same (albeit slightly harder) boner as a relatively chubby girl at the bar when you're wasted and on a dry streak. Which girl will you enjoy fucking more? The choice is obvious.
- 1-10 scale: similar to the boner test, universal for the most part, but again is misused (guys saying they banged five 10s, or that a certain girl they have oneitis for is a 8). For this reason I don't trust the ratings a guy I don't know has given a girl.
- personal standards I'm going to call this the selector for non-physical attributes: does she have a weird tic/habit, does she do annoying things, does she smell funny, have bad skin. Basically anything you know is a deal breaker.
I fully agree that physical attractiveness is universal with slight variances in the higher ratings based on personal preferences (asians or redheads for example), but I believe that one of the most important exercises a guy can do is sit down and make a list of what he finds attractive in a girl. Then make a list of deal-breakers or turn-offs. It is the acknowledgement of these traits that will take one's skill to the next level of hot girls. If one does not know exactly what he wants then he will game girls for game's sake. He will bang girls based on the boner test. In the process he will be missing out on opportunities to bang girls that adhere more to his personal preference resulting in more enjoyable sex. I am not saying make a 367 point checklist, but have general requirements. For example: the girl I banged yesterday is slim, has full lips, clear skin, and a nice ass. The girl I made out with today was chubby, has bad skin and greasy hair. For arguments sake lets say I banged both of them. Which bang do you think I'll remember a week from now?