Quote: (04-20-2012 11:42 AM)Tuthmosis Wrote:
Keep in mind that pretty much any traditional, especially office, workplace nowadays will consider a confident, masculine man a threat. I had problems like this in the past, for doing nothing else than walking with my head high and speaking with authority.
I wouldn't go far as that. I would say that you have to look out for certain types, who WILL fire your ass when you show any balls. I've encountered two kinds:
1. The semi-hot chick who is pissed that you aren't kissing her ass, and that you just don't give a fuck about her. If you spit back a tenth of the shit she pulls on you, she will tell your boss in a heartbeat. And your boss is a white knight who secretly wants to fuck her, so the chances of him siding with you are approximately zero.
2. The insecure dude who wants you to actively assume the position of bitch at every opportunity. If you ever question him for something legitimate, eg he goes back on a promise he made you, he will be shaken and angry that you had the cojones to challenge him. His emotional hold on power is so weak that he flips when you aren't actively submissive. Anything short of that, and he will get angry and want to fire you. He views any guy with a pair as a threat, no matter how low on the totem pole he actually is. These kinds of guys may surround themselves with women, for that very reason - girls excel at putting on a show of deference and powerlessness while slyly scheming their way into power, if they so choose. This type can be a girl too, but they're more passive aggressive and coy about it.
My outlook towards my bosses is always "I'll do what you tell me to do, just treat me with respect."
A lot of the guys I work with are cool dudes, but they have their limits. I've realized 90%+ of guys are white knights, and will instinctively side with girls in any dispute. The remaining 9% are guys who just don't give a shit either way, and couldn't be bothered to show concern for anyone else. So you're left with the 1% who might be your ally.
And, plenty of people worship authority, to the point where they drop all standards of right and wrong when it involves a boss and a subordinate. They just become automatons, saying, "well he's the boss."