Hi guys. Thanks for the website. I discovered this website along with Heartiste's blog about 5-6 months ago. I have read most of the contents. Before that I was a classic beta. I had never cold approached. To this day, I have never had one night stand.
I thought I was all alpha after reading these sites, but I found out today that reading is not enough, you have to get out in the field.
This afternoon, I decided to go to downtown (walking distance) and my goal was to ask 3 girls for their numbers.
The first girl, we were walking in the same direction, I started commenting on the box that she was carrying, and she told me her family had sent her blah blah. I talked to her for about 2 minutes and I could tell at the end that she was not that into me (I was nervous, and I was probably showing beta body language) at the stop light I asked her for her number. She said, she had boyfriend. In a regular conversation, I could have said so many things, but like I said I was nervous, and I said "Ok", I felt uneasy during this whole thing and even for about 5-10 minutes after it. But I am stubborn, and I wanted to accomplish my mission (which was to make 3 cold approaches)
After that I walked by a cafe. A girl was sitting by herself in the sun reading a book. I chickened out initially. Walked straight ahead for about 2 blocks. Turned around, took a few deep breaths. Came back to the cafe. I went straight to the girl and said " Excuse me, sorry to bother you. My name is ------, I was wondering if you would like to go on a date with me". She looked at me, laughed, and then said "I am sorry, no". I took this rejection much better. I said "Oh, you broke my heart, just joking". She smiled, and I left.
I didn't approach a third girl. I had to be somewhere. The whole thing took me about 2.5 hours. There were many instances of me chickening out (girl texting so I didn't bother her etc.). But I am determined to improve. This site is great but it has to be supplemented with field action.
I am planning on buying day bang. But in the meantime, should I concentrate on the second style of approaching ( don't not chit chat just asked for their numbers)? That way, I can take baby steps toward reducing my approach anxiety.
I thought I was all alpha after reading these sites, but I found out today that reading is not enough, you have to get out in the field.
This afternoon, I decided to go to downtown (walking distance) and my goal was to ask 3 girls for their numbers.
The first girl, we were walking in the same direction, I started commenting on the box that she was carrying, and she told me her family had sent her blah blah. I talked to her for about 2 minutes and I could tell at the end that she was not that into me (I was nervous, and I was probably showing beta body language) at the stop light I asked her for her number. She said, she had boyfriend. In a regular conversation, I could have said so many things, but like I said I was nervous, and I said "Ok", I felt uneasy during this whole thing and even for about 5-10 minutes after it. But I am stubborn, and I wanted to accomplish my mission (which was to make 3 cold approaches)
After that I walked by a cafe. A girl was sitting by herself in the sun reading a book. I chickened out initially. Walked straight ahead for about 2 blocks. Turned around, took a few deep breaths. Came back to the cafe. I went straight to the girl and said " Excuse me, sorry to bother you. My name is ------, I was wondering if you would like to go on a date with me". She looked at me, laughed, and then said "I am sorry, no". I took this rejection much better. I said "Oh, you broke my heart, just joking". She smiled, and I left.
I didn't approach a third girl. I had to be somewhere. The whole thing took me about 2.5 hours. There were many instances of me chickening out (girl texting so I didn't bother her etc.). But I am determined to improve. This site is great but it has to be supplemented with field action.
I am planning on buying day bang. But in the meantime, should I concentrate on the second style of approaching ( don't not chit chat just asked for their numbers)? That way, I can take baby steps toward reducing my approach anxiety.