Quote: (04-08-2012 10:25 AM)Kitsune Wrote:
Pretty sure it all amounts to the same thing. He gets with super easy girls because they are super easy. He can't keep them for the same reason. There are 'good girls' (Whatever that means) out there, but it is easier to go for the low-hanging fruit, and that is why a lot of 'beta's' (I hate that word) get with the same girls, and can't keep the girls.
These girls weren't necessarily 'easy' at the beginning - he still went through a courtship phase and all.
I get the feeling that these chicks have a ton of self-created drama in their lives, and then they meet this guy, and see him as their ticket out, to a life where they're no longer a whore and fucking random dudes like it's going out of style. These hoes clearly still do want the Dream, of a husband, house and kids.
Then the hoes start dating him, he starts getting comittal if only at her insistence, and she starts to wonder about boning other guys. She goes out one night, and she gets the chance to act out every girl's Disney princess dream of getting gangbanged by BBC, and she's helpless to say no.
It sounds like he is *always* dating the dysfunctional girl within a group of girls. Not all women are like these girls he's dated, but it's practically a given to have at least one of them in any given social circle. Ask around in almost *any* group of girls, and you'll start hearing a stream of stories about "Becky" or "Sarah..." *That* is the girl he dates. And girls don't make any effort to shut these girls out of their circle, so they may have a very normal group of friends, though invariably still party types.
Maybe he's good looking (haven't looked at his pics), so he can attract hot girls, but he comes off as a pussy in personality, so the normal hot chicks lose interest, while the slutty crazy ones see him as their 'stop being a hoe and turn over a new leaf' card.
I've never dated this type of girl, but I'm guessing that if you wanted to prevent her from cheating, you'd have to constantly be creating drama, fights, jealousy, etc., putting her through the roller coaster of emotions, to maintain her interest. Betas tend to be totally incapable at this, because they are agreeable, compliant people, and will try and ameliorate any issues that come up. A beta won't just do whatever the fuck he wants, nor play mind games with her to keep her interest. And even then, she'd probably bang some other dude when she's 'mad' at you. There's really no way to win with them, except not to get attached.
Quote: (04-08-2012 09:54 AM)joehoya Wrote:
That was an AWESOME thread.
One thing I will say is that while the guy (by his own admission) displays beta/white knight behavior, I do not believe this alone to be the cause of his predicament. To put it simply, this guy is absolutely drawn to sluts/whores. Think about it for a second. If the most beta guy on the planet dated a random selection of women, sure some of them would cheat on him, BUT ALL OF THEM? No way. Many would just dump him for being a beta pussy.
Furthermore, these women didn't just cheat on him, HALF of the women cheated on him by having a gangbang/train pulled on them at random parties. I know that women can be whorish, but there is no way in the world that half of all college girls would be willing to get gangbanged at a random party EVEN if they were going out with a beta/white knight. If anything, they wouldn't do it out of fear for destroying their reputation.
Quote:ABDada Wrote:
Ever have a woman cheat on you for a reason other than hypergamy and you let your status fall?
I can't imagine it happening -- any gal who cheated on me in my life was doing so in response to me losing hand, lowering my status or forgetting to keep her hamster spinning. My fault, not hers.
Environment is easy to change, biology isn't.
The whole mindset of 'she cheated because he wasn't doing it right' is just reverse white knighting. It has a grain of truth some of the time, but even if it does - you're excusing a ho for being a ho.
It's like saying a girl morally deserved to get raped for walking around late at night alone, that the rapist did a morally neutral or even good deed by raping a girl. After all, he can't be blamed given her course of action. Or that a carjacker did a good thing by stealing an unlocked car. You're conflating cause with culpability. You shouldn't put yourself at risk, by being a girl and wearing skimpy clothes and walking alone in a dangerous neighborhood, but you're not morally at fault for getting raped.
And all that aside, his main mistake was in getting involved with these girls, not in what he did with them. Personally, if I started getting involved with a chick like this, I'd never see any relationship potential for these chicks, I'd just be too anxious about shit happening.