As everyone knows here, I am a noobie. I can count the number of partners I've hand on both hands.
Before I launch into the game I've been spending time laying a solid foundation. I've been working out a lot, eating right, and enjoying hobbies.
The big hurdle I have is mental/emotional. I notice I have a lot of sexual shame, approach anxiety, sexual anxiety, etc, due to my upbringing and unfortunate events in my childhood. The degree of my anxiety is moderately high. I noticed when it is time for me to escalate with a girl or when I start talking about my sexual desires for a girl my body starts shaking, my hands start trembling, and my heart rate jumps up. My big concern is my body having a physical response to this. It is weird. I didn't know something that is essentially thoughts in my head can have such a powerful response physically.
Anyway, luckily, I've been getting counseling and doing some NLP work. The results are coming in but I am starting to wonder if I am better off just meeting this head on, approaching, getting blown out, just going balls to the wall.
The fear is there though. When I see a girl it is like I am stuck in a cage with a tiger in the corner. My current technique for handling my anxiety is to breath deep and just think about what is the worst that can happen? It helps to do that but it doesn't launch me into action.
As I mentioned earlier, I will be moving to Tampa, Florida in May of this year. I am spending the rest of the time before that date getting in shape, doing mental exercises, pursing hobbies, and finishing up my English studies in college. I figure to hit the ground running once I land by finding a place to stay and landing a full time job. I'd like to have a large portion of my inner game issues handled before I land in Florida.
How important is inner game? Is the mental gymnastics the way to go or should I take baby steps and do real life application of game? I am not sure if anyone is as "fucked up" with anxiety as much as I am, but those who have suffered and overcome this I'd love to hear some feedback.
I read Bang and Roosh mentioned just going out and approaching. I've used some of his lines and have got good responses. I did go through a bit of a break down when a girl called me out on using a pick up line in front of everyone at the bar and had got this shaming and embarrassment feeling like I was on a tight rope walking across the Grand Canyon naked in front of my mother.
Thanks.
Commander Shepard.
Before I launch into the game I've been spending time laying a solid foundation. I've been working out a lot, eating right, and enjoying hobbies.
The big hurdle I have is mental/emotional. I notice I have a lot of sexual shame, approach anxiety, sexual anxiety, etc, due to my upbringing and unfortunate events in my childhood. The degree of my anxiety is moderately high. I noticed when it is time for me to escalate with a girl or when I start talking about my sexual desires for a girl my body starts shaking, my hands start trembling, and my heart rate jumps up. My big concern is my body having a physical response to this. It is weird. I didn't know something that is essentially thoughts in my head can have such a powerful response physically.
Anyway, luckily, I've been getting counseling and doing some NLP work. The results are coming in but I am starting to wonder if I am better off just meeting this head on, approaching, getting blown out, just going balls to the wall.
The fear is there though. When I see a girl it is like I am stuck in a cage with a tiger in the corner. My current technique for handling my anxiety is to breath deep and just think about what is the worst that can happen? It helps to do that but it doesn't launch me into action.
As I mentioned earlier, I will be moving to Tampa, Florida in May of this year. I am spending the rest of the time before that date getting in shape, doing mental exercises, pursing hobbies, and finishing up my English studies in college. I figure to hit the ground running once I land by finding a place to stay and landing a full time job. I'd like to have a large portion of my inner game issues handled before I land in Florida.
How important is inner game? Is the mental gymnastics the way to go or should I take baby steps and do real life application of game? I am not sure if anyone is as "fucked up" with anxiety as much as I am, but those who have suffered and overcome this I'd love to hear some feedback.
I read Bang and Roosh mentioned just going out and approaching. I've used some of his lines and have got good responses. I did go through a bit of a break down when a girl called me out on using a pick up line in front of everyone at the bar and had got this shaming and embarrassment feeling like I was on a tight rope walking across the Grand Canyon naked in front of my mother.
Thanks.
Commander Shepard.