Quote: (03-26-2012 11:19 AM)Commander Shepard Wrote:
Thanks Babelfish. I like your approach, albeit an expensive one. After years of doing the psychoanalysis, I can honestly say the only solution is to take baby steps to overcome my anxiety rather than sitting on a chair and talking about it or playing tapes of meditations every morning for years. I mean, I don't know if the counseling and self help work I've already done made the fear any less severe. I think Casanova is right. I just have to learn to have the right attitude and embrace emotional pain, something I've avoided almost my whole life.
Yeah, don't spend money on strippers (ok, drinks + admission isn't "cheap".) Go on off days when things are really slow, Sunday, Monday, Tuesday, generally, and girls will talk even if they figure out you aren't going to spend.
When it comes to anything in life people struggle with -- girls, money, business -- there are armies of sales people making fortunes selling you baloney. I've noticed self help addicts can not separate the sales pitch from the "meat" of the product. People feel great when they go see Tony Robbins because he is selling them, not because he is giving them a new life.
Self help for self help is reality. You must combine what others say with your own experiences. If your advice comes from idiots and liars, unless your really sharp and completely ignore them, your going to be in trouble and you'll end up with no inner game. If you take good advice, and combine it with experience, your going to have strong inner game and be in pretty good shape.
In business I found things progressed this way:
100% reading - haven't done anything
90% reading 10% reality - newb, or whatever word you want to call it
50% reading 50% reality - making things happen
1% reading 99% reality - veteran
If your still at stage 1, you have have all this knowledge you've learned and absolutely no way to know whats real and whats bullshit. Once you hit the 50/50 range you have a good idea but it will be hit and miss. Once your at 99% there is little anyone else can teach you, you'll keep learning through observation. You'll see right through people "succeeding" for bullshit reasons.
The final stage isn't the end, but it gets you to the point where you can comfortably do the difficult stuff.