"Bad" Traits That Make A Man A Good Partner
03-24-2012, 11:32 PM
Weak men attempting to make themselves look better.
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“Bad” Trait #1: He’s nerdy
You barely notice him at a party, but that shy guy who loves to talk about programming could be your future husband. A new study published in the journal, Frontiers in Psychology, says that geeks make the best husbands. “We found that people who fit a nerdy profile — i.e., those who are socially awkward and feel most comfortable with consistent routines — make better long-term partners,” says evolutionary psychologist Marco Del Giudice, Ph.D., Professor of Cognitive Science at the University of Turin in Torino, Italy. “These men have a greater desire to settle down into family life and are more likely to be faithful because they lack the charm and social skills to attract another partner and lie about an indiscretion.” So if you’re looking for long-lasting love, bypass the bars and hit up a bookstore instead.
This is actually true, but the bolded portion is what will ensure that this message goes nowhere. Women prefer men that other women also prefer. This is female hypergamy-it is written into their genetic code. They want competent men they can look up to and respect. A man who is looked down upon by all of her peers (so much so that he cannot attract any of them) will never be appealing to her.
The best case scenario? She settles for such a guy and cheats on him profusely in a bid to find a man she can actually respect.
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“Bad” Trait #2: He’s carrying extra weight
You may want your guy to hit the gym more, but those bottles of beer and late-night snacks are doing you a favor in bed. According to a study conducted by Erciyes University of Kayseri, Turkey, men with excess body fat last an average of 7.3 minutes in bed, while their slimmer counterparts typically last less than two minutes. How do his love handles help your sex life? Heavier men have higher levels of the female hormone estradiol, which slows the progression of orgasm. So pass him the wings!
1. Neither sex finds high body fat appealing, nor is such a condition healthy. Encouraging it will never work-men are never going to run en masse to fat chicks, and women will never select Rick Ross over Trey Songz if given the choice.
2. They cite the presence of female hormones as a good thing. We all know that women are not fond of effeminate males.
3. Lasting forever =/= good sex.
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“Bad” Trait #3: His bedroom moves are predictable
Having a routine sex life is the kiss of death, right? Not so. Having regularly scheduled nookie is good for you, according to sex and relationship therapist Jane Greer, Ph.D., author of What About Me? Stop Selfishness from Ruining Your Relationship. “Women who have intercourse at least once a week tend to have more regular menstrual cycles, better immune systems, are more fertile, less likely to suffer from heart disease, and produce higher levels of estrogen than those who have sex more sporadically,” Greer says. So if your boudoir routine usually consists of dinner, Netflix, and a roll in the hay, you guys aren’t boring — you’re making your sexual health a priority.
Short sighted BS, as it does not account for quality. Predictability is a romance killer in relationships. The article ignores this, implying that "so long as you have sex, you're good!" It ignores the fact that the quality of this highly predictable routine will decline significantly, leading to relationship erosion over time.
One must alter the routine from time to time (preferably without announcing it or planning it extensively) in order to keep things going. Following this advice will send you to splitsville.
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“Bad” Trait #4: He’s got an “average” job
So your guy’s not CEO of a Fortune 500 company or a budding Mark Zuckerberg. That’s actually good news! Men with medium-status jobs are considered to be more desirable than high rollers, according to research conducted by the University of Central Lancashire in the UK. In this study, researchers showed a group of women a series of photos of men and asked them to rate them as potential husbands. When the women didn’t know the men’s occupations, they rated the handsomest men as the best potential partners. But when the women found out what the men did for a living, they ranked the men with lower-status jobs to be more attractive than their high-flying counterparts — regardless of their looks. “It’s possible that men with money and power have more romantic and sexual opportunities than those with more ‘average’ jobs, so women may see these successful guys as less desirable because they’re not a safe choice when it comes to choosing a potential life partner,” says Marshall.
This is actually just comical, since it contradicts itself.
It insists that men with money/power/status have more romantic/sexual opportunity. Obvious. This increased opportunity comes from the fact that women, in general, find these men more sexually appealing, and are more willing on average to become involved with them.
Then it insists that women see these same guys as "less desirable".
So much less desirable, in fact, that women are...more willing to sleep with them? Wait, what?
This is a great time to repeat a golden mantra: "Watch what women do, not what they say".
Women "say" they want less successful men, yet they "do" the more successful ones far more often. That should tell you all you need to know.
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“Bad” Trait #5: His place is a mess
Dishes stacked high in the sink, clothes strewn all over the floor and last week’s pizza box flung in the corner can seem gross, hygiene-wise, but it’s also a sign your guy is creative and relaxed, says David H. Freedman, coauthor of A Perfect Mess. “We have a tendency to think of messiness as a character flaw, but these people are generally more productive than neat people since they spend more time getting things done than they do straightening up,” Freedman explains. “Plus, they’re often more imaginative than neater folks, since creative people usually find a bit of clutter to be stimulating and expressive.”
I'm not even going to bother.
