Ok, so I banged a fattie and she got real clingy afterwards. Which would have been fine, because she had a good personality (ya really) and I'm open to LTRs and willing to play along (i.e. not bang other girls). Overall maybe a 3/10, and that's only because she is 17. If she weren't fat, she'd probably be a 6.
Worse, she said something about not changing herself for anyone, especially as far as weight goes, despite earlier having acknowledged it to be her problem.
As soon as she had brought up the idea of me meeting her parents and friends, I knew this was going too far. I wouldn't want to break her heart when she had already gotten attached.
Missed a golden opportunity: we talked a bit about exes before and she asked me if I still loved my ex-fiancee. I could have said "yes" to cool her off, but I didn't. Damn.
So later I had to sit her down for a talk, and used the words "you are a great,warm person but sorry, I am not physically attracted to you. I'm only telling you this because, if this continues without changes in the future it will be a serious problem for me. I wouldn't want to lead you on or tell you this after you're attached to me and expecting something."
There is no good way for any girl to hear that she is unattractive, but I have the feeling that this really hurt her, which I've wanted to avoid - not that I want to be friends with her or anything, but still I don't like hurting anyone. She said she was really disappointed that I was shallow, that she wouldn't change for anyone, and that Marilyn Monroe bullshit, that if someone can't handle her at her worst, he doesn't deserve her at her best. That was more or less my aim (getting rid of her in such a way that it made her feel like it was her decision), but it still felt lame to have to do it.
How do you let girls down gently?
Anyways, no more dumpster diving. Girl must pass both the ego and the boner test in the future, not just the boner. Otherwise it just gets awkward.
Worse, she said something about not changing herself for anyone, especially as far as weight goes, despite earlier having acknowledged it to be her problem.
As soon as she had brought up the idea of me meeting her parents and friends, I knew this was going too far. I wouldn't want to break her heart when she had already gotten attached.
Missed a golden opportunity: we talked a bit about exes before and she asked me if I still loved my ex-fiancee. I could have said "yes" to cool her off, but I didn't. Damn.
So later I had to sit her down for a talk, and used the words "you are a great,warm person but sorry, I am not physically attracted to you. I'm only telling you this because, if this continues without changes in the future it will be a serious problem for me. I wouldn't want to lead you on or tell you this after you're attached to me and expecting something."
There is no good way for any girl to hear that she is unattractive, but I have the feeling that this really hurt her, which I've wanted to avoid - not that I want to be friends with her or anything, but still I don't like hurting anyone. She said she was really disappointed that I was shallow, that she wouldn't change for anyone, and that Marilyn Monroe bullshit, that if someone can't handle her at her worst, he doesn't deserve her at her best. That was more or less my aim (getting rid of her in such a way that it made her feel like it was her decision), but it still felt lame to have to do it.
How do you let girls down gently?
Anyways, no more dumpster diving. Girl must pass both the ego and the boner test in the future, not just the boner. Otherwise it just gets awkward.
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