So I'm finding myself heading full steam into an LTR. I'll spare the details of where/how we met, escalation, etc, whatever, but basically I took my sweet ass time getting here (exclusive, ahem, somewhat) and hooked up with a few girls on the way during this courtship. I found myself thinking about this girl in a side by side comparison with a girlfriend I had 5 years ago, before I'd discovered game. I can honestly say the positive changes and the happiness level that I'm experiencing are 100% due to game.
2007 girl:
blow jobs were a random treat
2012 girl:
this girl whines that she doesn't get to blow me enough
2007:
nagging me about domestic issues, how I do my laundry, the cleanliness of my apt, etc
2012:
cleans my bathroom, does my laundry
2007:
nagging me about lack of romance and my input towards the relationship
2012:
appreciates what she gets and tells me so all the fuckin time
2007:
vanilla and unwilling to try new things in bed
2012:
goes out and buys slutty Hustler outfits and shows up at my apartment with them. Absolutely willing to do anything I want
2007:
not supportive, competitive, unpleasant, bitter, resentful
2012:
laid back, down to earth, fun to hang out with, relatively secure (as much as a girl could be)
Your first reaction might be 2012 girl sounds like a total submissive slut. 2007 girl is actually the bigger slut and has been with more guys. Both I'd say are a solid 7.5. The only real difference I can pinpoint all comes back to me: i'm simply unwilling to hang out with any girl that's not completely awesome to be with. For the past several years, as I've dated, the first sign of trouble and I bounce, which some relationship self-professed "guru" would probably label "commitment issues". I'd call it holding out for something worthwhile. Just offering my 2 cents here, as I know some dudes out there are less the International Playboy type and might actually be open to the idea of an LTR. Game is absolutely crucial in either scenario.
Back in 2007 I simply didn't have the balls to bail out asap. I was still stuck in that mindset of taking what I can get, instead of vice versa. It hasn't been an overnight change, and I'm by no means on the level as some of the PUAs here, but it's interesting that a few select profound inner changes have yielded profound outer changes as well.
2007 girl:
blow jobs were a random treat
2012 girl:
this girl whines that she doesn't get to blow me enough
2007:
nagging me about domestic issues, how I do my laundry, the cleanliness of my apt, etc
2012:
cleans my bathroom, does my laundry
2007:
nagging me about lack of romance and my input towards the relationship
2012:
appreciates what she gets and tells me so all the fuckin time
2007:
vanilla and unwilling to try new things in bed
2012:
goes out and buys slutty Hustler outfits and shows up at my apartment with them. Absolutely willing to do anything I want
2007:
not supportive, competitive, unpleasant, bitter, resentful
2012:
laid back, down to earth, fun to hang out with, relatively secure (as much as a girl could be)
Your first reaction might be 2012 girl sounds like a total submissive slut. 2007 girl is actually the bigger slut and has been with more guys. Both I'd say are a solid 7.5. The only real difference I can pinpoint all comes back to me: i'm simply unwilling to hang out with any girl that's not completely awesome to be with. For the past several years, as I've dated, the first sign of trouble and I bounce, which some relationship self-professed "guru" would probably label "commitment issues". I'd call it holding out for something worthwhile. Just offering my 2 cents here, as I know some dudes out there are less the International Playboy type and might actually be open to the idea of an LTR. Game is absolutely crucial in either scenario.
Back in 2007 I simply didn't have the balls to bail out asap. I was still stuck in that mindset of taking what I can get, instead of vice versa. It hasn't been an overnight change, and I'm by no means on the level as some of the PUAs here, but it's interesting that a few select profound inner changes have yielded profound outer changes as well.