[Spike]

I've found this draft of a blog post today on my laptop. I wrote it at a boring day in Sydney in January last year even before i had my website. I had never finished it. I only wrote the last part of the article today. I'm not a native English speaker so the grammar can be a bit off sometimes. Hope this helps some one.


One week of simple but effective social training.

This article is about turbo boosting your social life (anyone here remember 80’s tv series Knight rider ? Now that’s a turbo boost) The following week you will follow this schedule of 7 days of social upgrading. This will help you make new friends, having better contact with family, coworkers , complete strangers and of course picking up girls. You don't have to start on Monday exactly but it is the best way to start a new week of working, traveling or socializing by not complaining your listeners ear off about how boring your weekend was.

Monday – Not complaining day, Start off with not complaining about anything for a whole day, Not the weather, not the traffic, not about work , sickness, being tired or hung over etc etc . This will train you in having a positive attitude. At first people will see you as more positive and in a better mood , than they will feel more comfortable around you knowing you’re not a crybaby who complains a lot. This goes for guys and girls. Not complaining is also a leader indicator. Leaders are strong and don’t let other know their discomforts. This doesn’t mean you can’t seriously talk about problems with someone but just complaining about things you can’t change anyway like the weather or been tired after a 14 hour bumpy bus ride doesn’t help you. Just man up and deal with it. Seriously, I met a few losers along the way who complained all the time and brought every ones mood down.

Tuesday – No judging day. If you say something about someone, something mean or funny, the person you say it to will know you will do the same about him or her as soon as they leave. People don't like to be judged. Saying something like : She’s ugly, stupid or fat about someone to another girl will only make her feel uncomfortable, she might be insecure about her own body and really be offended by it. This one is hard to learn coz although we might not say it out loud, we constantly judge other people. Stereotyping is also a way of being judgmental and it might be the worst one out there. A lot of times people are very different from what you think of them. Same goes for any racism.

Wednesday – No gossip day. This is similar to No judging day. Sure it’s nice to gossip about people you know, its helps you sometimes to get more popular by telling a secret or hearsay about someone. This is only short term popularity though, and as you know we are aiming for long term changes. If people and especially girls know you’re not a gossiper its way better for you. They will feel more trust and comfort hanging around you because they know you’re lips are sealed if you have some details or stories about them. A girl who’s attracted and/or interested in you, will be way more willing to come home with you if she’s certain you won’t tell her friends about it , or if her friends know, the details of what happens between you and her. A nice bonus is that people will soon trust you and tell you their secrets. This way it’s easier to size them up and control/ manipulate them.

Thursday – No Boasting day. This day is easier because it’s similar to No gossip day. How great is to let the world know you just boned a hot young girl? Sometimes I couldn’t wait to tell my friends back home about my accomplishments abroad. Now, it isn’t so bad to tell your buddies back home but just don’t do it around the people your with. Some guys are just not interested in stories about boning 19year olds. It makes them feel insecure about themselves if there shy and/or not being capable of doing things like that. Also be very careful with updates on Facebook, I got shitloads of drama in return from girls who thought they were the only one or thought I was a big jerk. Having that said, I found out that a lot of girls like a guy who’s a player or a bad boy. Just don't boast about it. I will write a post about how to create a good Facebook profile some other day.

Friday – No negative thoughts day. If you’re working this might be easier for you, the Thank God its Friday feeling is already great and you should really try to ban all negative thoughts out of your head. Whatever happens, keep on smiling !Keep this up until you go out at night and you will see that its easier to connect to people.

Saturday – No Fear day
Its time to overcome your fears. Go out and talk to people if you are an introverted person. Force yourself to talk to strangers or better yet to girls. Do something you have always been a bit scared of. For example, I have never been a good climber, even when I was a child climbing gave me the chills a bit. Its weird because I’m not afraid of heights at all. I will go to a climbing wall and do some weekly climbing there, not only will this give you a power full feeling that you have overcome a thing you feared, its will also show you that you are sometimes scared of something for nearly half a life time while its something so easy to cure. You wonder what the big deal was all that time. A bonus would be that you meet new people from different backgrounds once join a club.

Sunday – The try to do this all at once day
Try to do everything you learned for one whole day and see how you like it. It means getting rid of a lot of bad habits all at once. You can do this every week or work out your own system. Maybe you are very judgmental and stereotype a person in one look. Like me. I still have some serious issues with that. It has become a bit worse since a learned about gaming and will immediately look if someone if a Alpha or a Beta.

I welcome feedback

[iknowexactly]

brilliant idea. One proviso should be "no beating yourself up for slipping"; it would be useful to do these things but impossible to do it perfect I think.

[CJ]

Positive living is the way to go. People will naturally be drawn to you. This is essentially the concepts learned in 'How to Win Friends & Influence People' applied into your weekly routine. Do it long enough and you'll be a happier person.

[Spike]

I wrote it a year ago and changed my mind on this just slightly. Sometimes judging,boasting or anything written above will help your game. That one is very hard to explain because its requires the right situation and precise timing.

Some times its good to boast a bit, i got my German flag because of it. A bit of gossip will help too from time to time. Its just that you shouldn't do all those things i've written about constantly. It will drive people away from you.

A positive person is liked by many, a negative person is avoided by many.

[Giovonny]

I like this alot. I try to live like this all day, everyday.

Your thoughts become your reality.

Gossiping is actually kind of fun and I think its a relatively healthy social exercise, as long as your just having fun with it and not trying to hurt innocent people. And, girls love to do it. I build alot of connection thru gossiping.

Boasting can be good or bad depending on how you use it. Use it selectively to display your alpha accomlishments but don't over do it. Pretend to be modest about it.

Judging everybody and everything is your own business but for me but I just don't have the time. The only thing I judge is the face and body on a young chick.

Complaining is for pussies.

Negative thoughts are for pussies.

Fear is for pussies.

I like this training exercise Neil. I think you can be more aggressive with it and combine them all into one basic everday mindset. Why only one a day? Why only one week? This should be a way of life.

And, I think you should add one exercise that feeds your confidence. Maybe, approach 10 girls day! Or fighting/sparring day (at a boxing/mma gym)

[Spike]

@Giovonny thanks.

I wrote this when i was bored and looked back at my life when i was working. I didn't really have a stress full job so i started noticing things about other people. One of my colleagues was a big time complainer, people started avoiding him more and more. It got me thinking because i actually liked the guy and he was someone who inspired me to go traveling.

I should give this some more thought and probably write it out better since i lack actual writing skills.

The confidence idea is a good one and i might something like that and drop something else. have to work it out some day.

Someone who has problems with one of the mentioned things can work on that several days a week. A big complainer can try to not complain for a whole week and try to do the other things to

[Giovonny]

Edit:

(02-16-2012 12:57 PM)Giovonny Wrote:  

Boasting can be good or bad depending on how you use it. Use it selectively to display your alpha accomlishments but don't over do it. Pretend to be modest about it. Unless you are dealing with a chick that loves an arrogant, bragadocious bastard. In that case, boast your ass off and thell her you are the baddest motherfucker in town!

[theoogabear]

awesome advice, applying now.

[Sphere]

This is cognitive behavioral therapy in a nutshell. Solid approach to tightening your inner game. Good advice.

[Deluge]

Solid stuff. I'm going to try this at school etc starting Monday.