Title pretty much says all. Any personal experience, suggestions of "pua's" who cover this well, or relevant "pickup material" written by introverts?
I've searched and read a bunch of other relevant posts, and many times you can tell from writing style etc whether a forum poster is more introverted or not. A lot of valuable info for example the "dance floor game" post, also some others with tips on pre going out routines (like working out and/or generally going out of the way during the day to be social, prior to going out)...but no posts covering night game & introverts specifically.
Interested in pushing myself to consistently get better at night game.
I have had times in my life when I've had pretty good luck pulling girls home from clubs and bars. Like 1 in every 5 times going out at times in my late 20's & early 30's. After college I never had/liked a large social group to go out with so I'm definitely to the point where I have no problem going out solo, at least 95% of the time I'll go out solo. I usually prefer the more crowded places, I'm not as comfortable in smaller bars (which is one thing I'd like to push myself to get over).
Often I find I'm in some small city that has 1-2 small clubs, and maybe 10-20 bars with some small-mid sized music venues and those smaller cities are where I struggle to have as much success (in the more "cliquey"/"college town" type social scenes) even if I'm having a good night and enjoying the music/scene etc.. In bigger cities I do a little better.
I usually only drink 1-2 drinks max and I feel comfortable enough going up to talk to/hit on girls at the bar or poking at girls on the edge of a dance floor, etc. I do feel like I stand out a bit as I've always felt/seen myself as awkward or socially un-calibrated, but I don't let that get to me. I generally have fun and try not to make "getting girls" the focus of my night.
I'm sure a lot of guys have had similar type experiences as introverts, and I'd really appreciate hearing tips, advice or perspectives!
I've searched and read a bunch of other relevant posts, and many times you can tell from writing style etc whether a forum poster is more introverted or not. A lot of valuable info for example the "dance floor game" post, also some others with tips on pre going out routines (like working out and/or generally going out of the way during the day to be social, prior to going out)...but no posts covering night game & introverts specifically.
Interested in pushing myself to consistently get better at night game.
I have had times in my life when I've had pretty good luck pulling girls home from clubs and bars. Like 1 in every 5 times going out at times in my late 20's & early 30's. After college I never had/liked a large social group to go out with so I'm definitely to the point where I have no problem going out solo, at least 95% of the time I'll go out solo. I usually prefer the more crowded places, I'm not as comfortable in smaller bars (which is one thing I'd like to push myself to get over).
Often I find I'm in some small city that has 1-2 small clubs, and maybe 10-20 bars with some small-mid sized music venues and those smaller cities are where I struggle to have as much success (in the more "cliquey"/"college town" type social scenes) even if I'm having a good night and enjoying the music/scene etc.. In bigger cities I do a little better.
I usually only drink 1-2 drinks max and I feel comfortable enough going up to talk to/hit on girls at the bar or poking at girls on the edge of a dance floor, etc. I do feel like I stand out a bit as I've always felt/seen myself as awkward or socially un-calibrated, but I don't let that get to me. I generally have fun and try not to make "getting girls" the focus of my night.
I'm sure a lot of guys have had similar type experiences as introverts, and I'd really appreciate hearing tips, advice or perspectives!