[understandbpd]

Over the last 10 years I was with over 25 girls in Eastern Europe,
all of them being usually in the between HB 6 - 8 range, their age being being
usually early 20s,
met them from mostly from nightgame, but also from daygame and social events (no dating apps).

With basically all of them, the vicious circle that repeated over and over again
was the same:

As long as I didn't care, didn't give a fuck, and they were even seeing me with
other beautiful girls as well, they treated me as the prize, they wanted to committ
to me, they were fighting for my time and my attention.

The very moment that I was showing any affection, caring towards them,
made them any smallest compliments at all (like "you look joyful",
or "you are beautiful don't worry"), they usually turned cold,
and said some same hamster-like stuff
"I have been waiting for this too long, and now it is too late"
and then ghosted me.

This hapenned no matter if we were in relationship and having sex for
few weeks, few months or few years.

How to solve this vicious circle?

How to enter a mature LTR relationship in which I can be happy,
without losing the girls at the first display of me being happy,
being warm and loving towards them?

Thank you all for your ideas