https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/c..._becoming/
Since Reddit is a major SJW crawl hole the topic was locked, there's the possibility of it being a troll job but the way the OP described of his life and former wife are very accurate descriptions of the progressist zealot behavior
Goes to shows how the gay memeplex is nothing more than toxic ideas and habits meant to corrupt the weaker minds like women and teenagers and destroy the family and society from within
the LGBT indoctrinated always prey on the meek and gentle, if this guy had more balls he would have recorded on video and audio all the craziness of his "wife" and how it threatened the well being of their kids
But now with the sudden increase of trans acceptante propaganda being shoved down our throats, i doubt he would have any sucess on a divorce where he keeps guard of the children.
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I am 37/M, we’ve been married for 12 years. My wife “Jason” transitioned FtM about three years ago. Jason is comfortable with calling him my “wife” and he has not undergone any genital reassignment surgery but has been taking testosterone for a little over three years now. We have two children, 13/M and 10/F.
Jason came out to me as transgender three years ago telling me right off of the bat that I could stay and respect his decision or leave but the decision to transition was non-negotiable. Through a little discussion, I informed him that I would accept the physical changes - the clothes, the hairstyles, the testosterone but would not feel comfortable with genital reassignment surgery because I still wanted to be intimate with my wife. Jason has begrudgingly accepted this. Our sex life is minimal at best, but alas this isn’t a /r/deadbedrooms post.
Initially everything was going great. I loved seeing the joy return to Jason that I haven’t seen since we were teenagers. I supported him while his wardrobe changed, he learned how to shave his face, and began trying to figure out the best male hairstyle to don. However, Jason has become increasingly more frustrating to be around and has made his trans-dom into what appears to be the only facet of his personality.
It’s all Jason talks about anymore. Literally no conversation can be had that isn’t circling back to something regarding gender or sex. He feels personally slighted at all times if someone does not get his gender right (he does not exactly “pass” all the time). His voice is still higher pitched. Jason meets a new person and after exchanging handshakes the first question out of his mouth is “What pronouns do you prefer we use?” no matter who it is - even when he met my new boss at a company Christmas party. Jason has “called out” random strangers in line at the grocery store for talking about Caitlyn Jenner “inappropriately.” He created a huge scene at a restaurant when he went to the men’s restroom when he perceived one of the other men in there making a comment about him. He regularly wears shirts with “Fuck the CIS-tem” no matter where we’re going. His facebook is nothing but trans, trans, trans. He has forbidden us from association with certain long time friends because he has deemed them to be “TERFs.” It’s to the point where I am humiliated to bring him around anyone or go out in public with him.
He has also become increasingly more political in other ways - his feminism is so extreme that he says things like “If you’re not pro-fat, you can’t be a feminist, you’re a misogynist.” If you question him and try to have a respectful conversation and you happen to disagree - you’re transphobic, homophobic, racist, misogynist, etc. If there’s an opportunity for an argument, he’ll jump on it. It’s exhausting to be around him. He declares disagreements a “violence” against him, posts dramatic posts on Facebook about how his people are getting murdered left and right and he’s scared to leave his home. Perhaps I am jaded, but I look at things that are happening elsewhere in the world and just can’t help myself from thinking less of my wife for acting like we live in a warzone.
Worse enough, I feel like he’s pressuring and trying to persuade our children into living the same or similar lifestyle that he’s chosen. Out of nowhere, our daughter has declared she is pansexual and our son has declared he is gay. Jason is encouraging our son to date a girl in his class to use as a “beard” to conceal his gayness even though it will clearly hurt her feelings. Jason’s rationale is that it’s fine if our son hurts her because “they’re in middle school and she’ll get over it, [son]’s safety is more important than a cis girl’s feelings.”
I miss the wife I married 12 years ago who was funny, articulate, charming and incredibly sharp. She is highly educated and I miss the woman who I could joke around with, have good spirited debates and discuss issues with calmly without it resorting to something related to gender/sex (even when it has nothing to do with it!). I was willing to accept the transition, I feel like I have done a very good job respecting the use of male pronouns and the name he chose for himself, and I have done everything I can to be supportive. However, even if I slip up I am chastised so heavily because he takes it as a personal attack against himself. I have tried to approach conversations with him but it often leaves me feeling shut down because I am “transphobic.”
So Reddit, is this a marriage that can be saved? Am I being insensitive? Has anyone else gone through a similar situation that they can share some perspective on? Are there support groups out there for spouses of transgender people?
TLDR - my wife has made his trans identity the forefront of his existence. He embarrasses me in public and is uncomfortable to be around. I don't know if I am being inconsiderate.
Since Reddit is a major SJW crawl hole the topic was locked, there's the possibility of it being a troll job but the way the OP described of his life and former wife are very accurate descriptions of the progressist zealot behavior
Goes to shows how the gay memeplex is nothing more than toxic ideas and habits meant to corrupt the weaker minds like women and teenagers and destroy the family and society from within
the LGBT indoctrinated always prey on the meek and gentle, if this guy had more balls he would have recorded on video and audio all the craziness of his "wife" and how it threatened the well being of their kids
But now with the sudden increase of trans acceptante propaganda being shoved down our throats, i doubt he would have any sucess on a divorce where he keeps guard of the children.