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10-28-2018, 10:06 AM
Guys,
I am not a good looking by any mean. Two years ago I went back to gym and took care of my skin and clothing .
1- I am 5'6"
2- Average face
3- Fit : I look like I go to gym but I am not muscular
4- For the style, I have outstanding style. I got compliments from women all the time and guys too.
Here my struggle, I had girls turn their heads to check me out multiple times when I dress well.Sometimes those girls/ women were with their boyfriends/ husbands who are way better looking than me an even taller.
Not just this , a coworker has big crush on me . She blushes when I talk to her , breathes fast, plays with her earlobe and touches me very often. When I saw her boyfriend, he is not handsome but he is better looking than me .
All this happens when I dress well.
Since I have low self-confidence when it comes to women due to past experiences , I still can't believe they are checking me out.
Away from assuming attraction mindset which I try to maintain .
Do you think making those stylish change increased my SMV?
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10-28-2018, 10:24 PM
Height isn't everything, and what us men think makes us attractive is not always what clicks with the hamsters chicks keep running in their heads.
Lean body composition + not gay + style = girl crack
More muscles can light up more animal attraction in a lot of girls, but low body fat starts the journey. You are roughly my height. Back in the US how I dressed and my level of fitness strongly influenced the baseline level of how much girls were attracted to me independent of what I was doing at the time.
It is hard for men to judge how attractive male faces are to women without consulting women.
Keep on the self improvement and consider opportunities to leverage this coworker's infatuation as social proof.
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10-29-2018, 09:43 AM
You can share some of your combinations in the fashion thread!
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10-29-2018, 11:32 AM
Style is a part of frame, and frame is damn near every thing.
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10-29-2018, 05:20 PM
Dude .
Thank you. But the whole point of my post was
Does the style have that much effect ?
You already answered it
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10-29-2018, 07:35 PM
My question was more like I can’t believe myself that girls with more handsome BF is giving me IOI
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10-30-2018, 12:09 AM
^^most bitches do that. IOIs is one thing, banging them is another.
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10-30-2018, 12:43 AM
Roosh actually pointed out in 'Game' that he doesn't think style matters that much. I admit it was an eye opener for me. There was a time in my early 20s when my style was a huge boon to my game. But looking back, it was a crutch. I'm not saying to dress like a slob but style honestly gets way to much scrutiny and air time these days.
Keep in mind, way more guys are style conscience these days. That means the value of a "stylish guy" goes down as it's more common.
Use force of personality to stand out and it won't ever go out of style.
"Does PUA say that I just need to get to f-close base first here and some weird chemicals will be released in her brain to make her a better person?"
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10-30-2018, 09:38 AM
Thank you all for the responses . Actually, the question is deeper than this ?
As I said before . The interest I am getting from the women recently has skyrocketed . I am not bragging . I just can't believe it.
Specially when I see those women with "hotter" guys. I am analytical guy so everything has to have reason .
So I was wondering if the style made that mush difference.
What really makes me think about this is the above-mentioned coworker . The way she threw herself at me made feel her boyfriend is way below me in look department, but he is not. Upon to this moment, this coworker checks me out overly . (DO not worry, I won't shit where I eat )
Another instance was last weekend, a woman was with two guys both are taller than me . She gave all the possible IOI. I didn't approach because in my mind why would she pick me over those tall guys. Finally she went out of her way to approach me.
It seems that I need to accept the fact some women find me attractive as I am . Or maybe what women find it hot different than what I see as hot. Or Maybe some women like my look plain and simple.
By the way, I do not lack in the other department . I am sociable, have a good job, very outgoing ,...ec.t
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10-30-2018, 12:07 PM
I feel the forum members have advices which I can relate to more than the advices published in some books.
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10-30-2018, 03:54 PM
Yes, it does make a difference. Women express attraction in subtle ways, so some may find you attractive without you noticing. Approaching is the only way to find out.
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11-01-2018, 09:33 AM
Depends on the environment and on the girl. My hot ex didn't like me wearing a shirt whereas a hot girl I know likes men in suits, James Bond style.
Overall, style definitely gets you noticed. Girls like window shopping, they like a stylish guy. It's something they don't have to worry about when going out with you. They look but they won't touch same as they would look at a stylish girl.
I think it opens more doors however you still need 'banter' to get through them. A guy who has much greater banter but wears for example shorts and sandals will be more attractive after a minute of conversation
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11-01-2018, 06:06 PM
Thank you , of course there is no substitute for a good game . But if style opens door, why not using it.
Update :
I work in large US corporate . I went today to work dressing my best.
1- Beige Linen Blazer (massimo dutti
2- Black shit ( banana republic )
3-Slim fit Blue jeans, fitted on my waist ( j crew )
4- Beige suede loafer (Cole Haan)
5- Colorful scarf ( Hugo Boss)
A lot of hot girls/ women couldn't help it but started conversation with me. I got also a lot of checking out and some of them gave me bottom to top look .
Definitely made me feel good.
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11-02-2018, 03:39 AM
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Do the style matter that much? or it is my illusion
Yes and no.
Having a good style can give you more attention. It does not neccesary make you more sexually attractive. For many guys style works against them that way. They dress like "provider nice guys" instead of "sexual adventure guy". Result be that most girls want to date you instead of fuck you.
I bet most of your problems with girls come from insecurity. Not your looks. Not your clothes.
Only three ways to do something: "The right way. The wrong way. Or my way. Obviously my way is best."