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Cold Approach went well (any advice)
#1

Cold Approach went well (any advice)

Hello Fellas,

If you read my earlier posts, I was getting serious with this virgin girl. We started dating, but then things ended poorly. She just randomly broke up with me (it may have had to due with how religious she was). I was surprised how well I took the break-up, especially how I was caught off-guard. This forum has really opened my eyes to the true nature of women and have made it easier to deal with heartbreak like that, so I thank you all for that. Now anyway to the topic at hand.

I decided to not mope around and go find another chick right away. I got a tinder plus account set up and headed down south to my buddy's place in Jacksonville for a Jaguars game (Jags vs Titans: Awful game).

Nothing really eventful happened until during the game. I was getting some snacks at the concession with my buddy; while I was waiting for him to get out of the bathroom, I noticed this cute girl (about 7/10) standing by herself. Not to being too experienced with cold approaches, I said fuck it and went for it.
Approach:
Me: (I noticed that she wasn't wearing a Jags jersey): "No team spirit?" *pointing to my jags team*
Her: "Umm...I don't really support either team"
Me: "Aren't you from Jacksonville?"
Her: "No, I'm from (insert foreign country)"
Me: "So you're a tourist?"
Her: "No, I go to school here"
Me: "What school?"
Her: (*insert name of some random Jacksonville university*)
Me: "Cool I go to (xxx) university"
Her: "Cool"
Me: "So why are down here in concession, instead of out there watching the game."
Her: "It's so hot out there."
Me: "Yeah, you're telling me. I sweating like crazy there. But why are you out here alone?"
Her: "I'm not alone, I'm with my family. We're celebrating my birthday."
Me: "Happy Birthday!"
Her: "Thanks."
Me: "How old are you?"
Her: "20" (I was honestly scared she was like 16, prior to approach lol)
Me: "Darn. One year away from *points at concession stand selling beer* going there and ordering whatever you want."
Her: "How old are you?"
Me: "XX"
(*insert rest of convo here)
Me: "Well my friend it out of the bathroom, so I gotta go. What's your snapchat?"
*Get her snap and walks off*

How did I do overall? And what should I work on from my approaches. I'm not too experienced with cold approaches, so I was pretty nervous. Any thoughts?
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#2

Cold Approach went well (any advice)

Quote: (09-28-2018 08:02 PM)keithdabartender Wrote:  

Hello Fellas,

If you read my earlier posts, I was getting serious with this virgin girl. We started dating, but then things ended poorly. She just randomly broke up with me (it may have had to due with how religious she was). I was surprised how well I took the break-up, especially how I was caught off-guard. This forum has really opened my eyes to the true nature of women and have made it easier to deal with heartbreak like that, so I thank you all for that. Now anyway to the topic at hand.

I decided to not mope around and go find another chick right away. I got a tinder plus account set up and headed down south to my buddy's place in Jacksonville for a Jaguars game (Jags vs Titans: Awful game).

Nothing really eventful happened until during the game. I was getting some snacks at the concession with my buddy; while I was waiting for him to get out of the bathroom, I noticed this cute girl (about 7/10) standing by herself. Not to being too experienced with cold approaches, I said fuck it and went for it.
Approach:
Me: (I noticed that she wasn't wearing a Jags jersey): "No team spirit?" *pointing to my jags team*
Her: "Umm...I don't really support either team"
Me: "Aren't you from Jacksonville?"
Her: "No, I'm from (insert foreign country)"
Me: "So you're a tourist?"
Her: "No, I go to school here"
Me: "What school?"
Her: (*insert name of some random Jacksonville university*)
Me: "Cool I go to (xxx) university"
Her: "Cool"
Me: "So why are down here in concession, instead of out there watching the game."
Her: "It's so hot out there."
Me: "Yeah, you're telling me. I sweating like crazy there. But why are you out here alone?"
Her: "I'm not alone, I'm with my family. We're celebrating my birthday."
Me: "Happy Birthday!"
Her: "Thanks."
Me: "How old are you?"
Her: "20" (I was honestly scared she was like 16, prior to approach lol)
Me: "Darn. One year away from *points at concession stand selling beer* going there and ordering whatever you want."
Her: "How old are you?"
Me: "XX"
(*insert rest of convo here)
Me: "Well my friend it out of the bathroom, so I gotta go. What's your snapchat?"
*Get her snap and walks off*

How did I do overall? And what should I work on from my approaches. I'm not too experienced with cold approaches, so I was pretty nervous. Any thoughts?

Looks like it went well. Always hard to tell from a post but maybe next time you should say something like, "let grab a beer sometime(or something else you want to do) and give me your number".

Maybe I'm just getting old or old school, but getting someone's Snapchat just seems a like harmless way to try to connect. Be bold brother!
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#3

Cold Approach went well (any advice)

This approach was just okay. Bravo, however, to you posting it. I'm glad people ask for help with game rather than the autistic screeching we hear these days.

Back to the approach.
-Work on your ramble. Have you read Roosh's Bang or Game?
-You were asking too many questions about her rather than getting her to ask questions. Again, ramble.
-How was her body language, leg position and eyes? Was she smiling?

Godzilla is also correct above. You weren't bold enough. Snapchat or any social media connection may be a great way to end up in the friendzone or become one of her orbiters. So don't be surprised when I say that she probably gives her snapchat out to many guys.

Being bold and asking her out for a drink will almost guarantee you don't end up in the friendzone at least initially.

What I used to say "I may be the only person on earth without social media. Give me your number and maybe I'll text you."
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#4

Cold Approach went well (any advice)

Quote: (09-29-2018 09:01 AM)godzilla Wrote:  

Quote: (09-28-2018 08:02 PM)keithdabartender Wrote:  

Hello Fellas,

If you read my earlier posts, I was getting serious with this virgin girl. We started dating, but then things ended poorly. She just randomly broke up with me (it may have had to due with how religious she was). I was surprised how well I took the break-up, especially how I was caught off-guard. This forum has really opened my eyes to the true nature of women and have made it easier to deal with heartbreak like that, so I thank you all for that. Now anyway to the topic at hand.

I decided to not mope around and go find another chick right away. I got a tinder plus account set up and headed down south to my buddy's place in Jacksonville for a Jaguars game (Jags vs Titans: Awful game).

Nothing really eventful happened until during the game. I was getting some snacks at the concession with my buddy; while I was waiting for him to get out of the bathroom, I noticed this cute girl (about 7/10) standing by herself. Not to being too experienced with cold approaches, I said fuck it and went for it.
Approach:
Me: (I noticed that she wasn't wearing a Jags jersey): "No team spirit?" *pointing to my jags team*
Her: "Umm...I don't really support either team"
Me: "Aren't you from Jacksonville?"
Her: "No, I'm from (insert foreign country)"
Me: "So you're a tourist?"
Her: "No, I go to school here"
Me: "What school?"
Her: (*insert name of some random Jacksonville university*)
Me: "Cool I go to (xxx) university"
Her: "Cool"
Me: "So why are down here in concession, instead of out there watching the game."
Her: "It's so hot out there."
Me: "Yeah, you're telling me. I sweating like crazy there. But why are you out here alone?"
Her: "I'm not alone, I'm with my family. We're celebrating my birthday."
Me: "Happy Birthday!"
Her: "Thanks."
Me: "How old are you?"
Her: "20" (I was honestly scared she was like 16, prior to approach lol)
Me: "Darn. One year away from *points at concession stand selling beer* going there and ordering whatever you want."
Her: "How old are you?"
Me: "XX"
(*insert rest of convo here)
Me: "Well my friend it out of the bathroom, so I gotta go. What's your snapchat?"
*Get her snap and walks off*

How did I do overall? And what should I work on from my approaches. I'm not too experienced with cold approaches, so I was pretty nervous. Any thoughts?

Looks like it went well. Always hard to tell from a post but maybe next time you should say something like, "let grab a beer sometime(or something else you want to do) and give me your number".

Maybe I'm just getting old or old school, but getting someone's Snapchat just seems a like harmless way to try to connect. Be bold brother!

She wasn't a drinker nor old enough to go to a bar. Fair point on the number thing, recently I've been a little paranoid about handing my number out to strangers (almost got my paypal hacked). Maybe a burner phone would work for that?
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#5

Cold Approach went well (any advice)

Quote: (09-29-2018 09:19 AM)Cobra Wrote:  

This approach was just okay. Bravo, however, to you posting it. I'm glad people ask for help with game rather than the autistic screeching we hear these days.

Back to the approach.
-Work on your ramble. Have you read Roosh's Bang or Game?
-You were asking too many questions about her rather than getting her to ask questions. Again, ramble.
-How was her body language, leg position and eyes? Was she smiling?

Godzilla is also correct above. You weren't bold enough. Snapchat or any social media connection may be a great way to end up in the friendzone or become one of her orbiters. So don't be surprised when I say that she probably gives her snapchat out to many guys.

Being bold and asking her out for a drink will almost guarantee you don't end up in the friendzone at least initially.

What I used to say "I may be the only person on earth without social media. Give me your number and maybe I'll text you."

I've read both books and I agree with you completely on the too many questions remark. I didn't realize until after I started writing the thread on the sheer amount of questions I asked her.

As for body language she seemed pretty open and relaxed, her phone (which she was glued to prior to my approach) was down by her waist and she was facing me completely.

As for the number thing (aside from the reason I posted in my previous post), most of my previous notches, usually involved me messaging through social media (preferably snapchat, since I can easily delete them once I'm done with them). Should I just bite the bullet and pass around my number instead?
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#6

Cold Approach went well (any advice)

I'm going to show you how I would have gamed her so that you can use it as a reference.

My main principles in game is framing myself as the validator. The head honcho. The king, if you will. Women are slaves to frame. If you understand frame game, everything would be a lot easier and more effective.


Approach:
Me: (I noticed that she wasn't wearing a Jags jersey): "No team spirit?" *pointing to my jags team*
Her: "Umm...I don't really support either team"
Me: "Aren't you from Jacksonville?"
Her: "No, I'm from (insert foreign country)"
Me: "So you're a tourist?"
Her: "No, I go to school here"
Me: That's cool. A sexy woman who is smart as well. I like that. What school? (Framing myself as the approval giver)
Her: (*insert name of some random Jacksonville university*)
Me: "Cool I go to (xxx) university"
Her: "Cool"
Me: "So why are down here in concession, instead of out there watching the game."
Her: "It's so hot out there."
Me: "Yeah, you're telling me. I sweating like crazy there. But why are you out here alone?" You did good here. You figured out logistics.
Her: "I'm not alone, I'm with my family. We're celebrating my birthday."
Me: "Happy Birthday!" I would have went for a hug for some kino. Boost her buying temperature.
Her: "Thanks."
Me: "How old are you?"
Her: "20" (I was honestly scared she was like 16, prior to approach lol)
Me: "Darn. One year away from *points at concession stand selling beer* going there and ordering whatever you want."Good banter.
Her: "How old are you?"Window of escalation that you missed
Me: "XX"
(*insert rest of convo here)
Me: "Well my friend it out of the bathroom, so I gotta go. What's your snapchat?"
*Get her snap and walks off*

Overall, you did okay. I would have framed myself as validating her by using some quality she has and complimenting her for it. It's like a "you impress me" kind of frame instead of "I'm trying to impress you" frame that most guys have while cold approaching.

When she asked you personal questions, that was a window. I always escalate on windows. You escalated (or snap chat closed) near the window so that was good enough. But personally for me, as soon as she asked me my age, I would have made her guess and then tell her if she gets it right then we can hang out. I frame everything as me rewarding her.

If she had guess wrong, I would have said "Sorry, even though you seem cool, we can't be friends." This is just banter to spike her emotions. Then I would have said "But you know what, maybe I can make an exception for you. Here put your number in my phone."

It's not a guarantee that it would work. But what it does is it makes sure that the number isn't flakey. When a woman jumps through YOUR hoops, the likelyhood of her following up goes up like 500% (don't quote me on that).

The goal is not to get a number. The goal is to get a number from a woman who actually likes you.
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#7

Cold Approach went well (any advice)

Quote: (09-29-2018 03:43 PM)keithdabartender Wrote:  

Quote: (09-29-2018 09:01 AM)godzilla Wrote:  

Quote: (09-28-2018 08:02 PM)keithdabartender Wrote:  

Hello Fellas,

If you read my earlier posts, I was getting serious with this virgin girl. We started dating, but then things ended poorly. She just randomly broke up with me (it may have had to due with how religious she was). I was surprised how well I took the break-up, especially how I was caught off-guard. This forum has really opened my eyes to the true nature of women and have made it easier to deal with heartbreak like that, so I thank you all for that. Now anyway to the topic at hand.

I decided to not mope around and go find another chick right away. I got a tinder plus account set up and headed down south to my buddy's place in Jacksonville for a Jaguars game (Jags vs Titans: Awful game).

Nothing really eventful happened until during the game. I was getting some snacks at the concession with my buddy; while I was waiting for him to get out of the bathroom, I noticed this cute girl (about 7/10) standing by herself. Not to being too experienced with cold approaches, I said fuck it and went for it.
Approach:
Me: (I noticed that she wasn't wearing a Jags jersey): "No team spirit?" *pointing to my jags team*
Her: "Umm...I don't really support either team"
Me: "Aren't you from Jacksonville?"
Her: "No, I'm from (insert foreign country)"
Me: "So you're a tourist?"
Her: "No, I go to school here"
Me: "What school?"
Her: (*insert name of some random Jacksonville university*)
Me: "Cool I go to (xxx) university"
Her: "Cool"
Me: "So why are down here in concession, instead of out there watching the game."
Her: "It's so hot out there."
Me: "Yeah, you're telling me. I sweating like crazy there. But why are you out here alone?"
Her: "I'm not alone, I'm with my family. We're celebrating my birthday."
Me: "Happy Birthday!"
Her: "Thanks."
Me: "How old are you?"
Her: "20" (I was honestly scared she was like 16, prior to approach lol)
Me: "Darn. One year away from *points at concession stand selling beer* going there and ordering whatever you want."
Her: "How old are you?"
Me: "XX"
(*insert rest of convo here)
Me: "Well my friend it out of the bathroom, so I gotta go. What's your snapchat?"
*Get her snap and walks off*

How did I do overall? And what should I work on from my approaches. I'm not too experienced with cold approaches, so I was pretty nervous. Any thoughts?

Looks like it went well. Always hard to tell from a post but maybe next time you should say something like, "let grab a beer sometime(or something else you want to do) and give me your number".

Maybe I'm just getting old or old school, but getting someone's Snapchat just seems a like harmless way to try to connect. Be bold brother!

She wasn't a drinker nor old enough to go to a bar. Fair point on the number thing, recently I've been a little paranoid about handing my number out to strangers (almost got my paypal hacked). Maybe a burner phone would work for that?

Your missing part of the point. It doesn't matter what you want to do with her, just pick something and I phrased it so you would ask in a commanding way.

Your paranoia isn't rational. What 20 year old girl is going to hack your cell phone? Were talking one in a million. Just give out the digits.
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Cold Approach went well (any advice)

With cold approaches, it is always a good tip to use the environment around both of you to come up with good openers. Example: girl in the line touching her hair constantly then I would make a remark “ looks like you need to visit the barber to fix the problem” . Going for the number sounds more bold and personal. Keep on approaching my brother

I live for my self and answer to nobody- the great Steve McQueen’s
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