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Quote: (07-24-2018 05:05 AM)Skank_Hunt Wrote:
I do find the younger 18-22 demographic being suspicious of me when I say I don't have facebook. I tell them I prefer to communicate in real life. If this is a day game approach, I'm not sure but I think their perception of my value and trust in me may actually go down compared to a situation where I had a strong virtual presence. The irony of it all is that with a smooth approach and good social skills that very few men perform nowadays in a day game cold approach, you are displaying your social savvy right in front of her eyes, but when the "FB / IG Check" comes along, she may perceive the approaching random girls in the day as the act of a desperate man who has no friends. Compare this to having FB, a social circle on FB, pictures of your life, and comments from friends, it adds a sense of "normalcy" for the younger generation, because they are all doing the same thing. FB profiles are almost all the same: main profile picture of some highlight of life e.g. wedding, child, profession, identity, and other pictures of friends, family, travel, but nothing about the majority banal life that is in between that. For example girls I knew from highschool have children and post pics proudly, often taken professionally, but they don't show the baby screaming in the middle of the night, no makeup pics, or the baby shitting itself and shit everywhere. In the young generation there is far less mention of the banality of studying, more pictures of partying or funny antics. Girls of this demographic want to see that you are "normal". Because they can detect discrepancy as follows: charming, good looking guy approaches me smoothly and confidently, makes me nervous, I'm attracted, what, he doesn't have any social media? He might still be an awesome guy but I can't risk it, because he could be a total weirdo with no friends so that's why he's approaching random people on the streets like a beggar.
Skank Hunt, I think you're too harsh on the daygamer's credo, which may, implicitly, induce self-sabotaging thoughts and actions. You should absolutely
not care what a girl thinks of you as long as you know you're leading a good life. The core of the inner game should be an unshakeable confidence (admittedly, achieved trough living a good live, broadly understood) without pandering to the whims of females. Let's have an example - today, every time I go to the gym I see more and more men who act like girls - they don't want to be strong but just look big - they shave their chests off, wear vests exposing muscles and trendy tatoos, and every other second look in a mirror to self-admire their pump and fresh haircuts. They don't even realise they've sold off their masculinity and, inside, are becoming like women obsessed with their looks. I'm guilty to a certain extent of that too but try to keep it in check as much as I can to avoid the attitude that a male's looks is the only commodity in play.
Such is social media angle. It's looks plus popularity. Facebook and Instagram drive it to insane levels, where people post pictures making up life which is not there. A carefully curated social media profile is, almost always a Potemkin Village. A
truly successful person wouldn't have time to spend hours each day on that stuff because they have to take care of important stuff.
Us, humans, are social creatures who, because of a need to survive in harsh environment, benefited from exhibiting conformist behaviours. Young girls are especially prone to that and follow (for evolutionary reasons, too, but this for another debate) "majority rule" like little lemmings. It is very clearly noticeable with their coiffures and outfits - whatever the mainstream or counter-mainstream fashion creates any given season, we can see females adopting such coiffures and outfits in droves each season, in and out.
Analogically, with attitudes to social media - Instagram is "a big thing" today and many females see it as a key way of siphoning off the attention from males. Tomorrow, it will be a new trending medium - life's too short for a man aspiring for big achievements to get distracted with that and jump from one platform to another every few months or a year.
Having said that, there will be a proportion of females inquiring about a man's social media profile. I think the best way to defend against it is to attack and put an inquisitive girl on a backfoot. Perhaps, a few exemplary rebuffs will illustrate better my line of thought:
Girl: Do you have Instagram?
TrueAndOnlyAlphaMan: Me? I don't have time for little things.
Girl: Do you have Instagram?
TrueAndOnlyAlphaMan: Instagram? I heard of that, some website for preening girls.
Girl: Do you have Instagram?
TrueAndOnlyAlphaMan: I do, but I won't share it with a girl I just met.
Girl: Do you have Instagram?
TrueAndOnlyAlphaMan: Are you that kind of girl?
Girl: Do you have Instagram?
TrueAndOnlyAlphaMan: Are you one of those girls who likes to stalk people?
Hopefully, you got the picture
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