Quote: (12-03-2015 05:16 AM)boets Wrote:
http://www.rooshv.com/how-to-tell-a-girl-what-you-do
I try to figure out what would be a good answer for this question which I've been asked almost every time and I have a simple IT job.
There are a lot of ways to handle this.
But you need some nuance. Just rattling off a stock reply isn't right for every situation.
Ask yourself
1) What kind of player do I want to be?
2) What kind of image do I want to have?
and on a more practical side,
3) When does this question come up during the first meeting?
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Let's just deal with #3 before we get to 1 and 2
1) She asks you immediately what you do
- she's a gold digger or she's just mean
Tell her that you're in "Private Equity", and then turn around and next her.
If she tries to re-open you after you've dismissed her, the balance of power has changed. She may have follow up questions, but be dismissive of her and don't answer.
You could replace PE with, "I was engineer #13 @ Instagram" and then turn around.
You want to act like you're offended at the question, and she's rude to ask. (which she is).
Once you have her trying to seek rapport, go into qualification.
"Can you cook"
"Can you clean"
"How big are your hands" - and then put your hands up so that she can measure them. *touch barrier broken!*
2) She asks you what you do in the first few minutes of the chat
- It could just be a polite "making conversation" sort of question.
- She could also be digging for gold
- Your answer is a good way for her to disqualify you in her mind
This is the danger zone as you don't really know what she wants to do with the information. ....
So let's just assume the positive. As wrong as it may be. Assuming the negative will make you stop chatting.
3) You've been chatting a while and she *seems* in to you
So the chick is open, you've made her laugh.
Maybe you've done some people watching.
A) Soft pedal and run game
You - "I'm in tech, and you?"
Her - Marine Biologist
You - "Oh you're a marine biologist, so like Jacques Cousteau...what'd you think of Sea World..."
However she felt about your disclosure is quickly swept away by you riffing on what she says.
B) Play the game of "guess" - dudes above have described it
c) Turn the tables -
You - "I love this question, because it always tells me what kind of girl I'm dealing with..."
And from there you can start on chicks who have no imagination, and then broadcast your imagination, and then challenge her to have some.
There are tons of ways to turn it around, if this is the strategy you like, you can come up with others.
d) Neg/Insult/Tease
"Seems work is never over, I tell dumb people how to fix their problems"
*then look at her with a smirk*
e) Roll up your sleeves, make a muscle, and look her dead in the eye,
"Tech support baby"
There are millions of ways to answer this question - but the main thing you have to understand is that you don't need to answer the question the way and manner that she is accustomed to.
Indeed, the whole point of being a player is that you're constantly running the show.
f) Are you asking me where I work, what pays the bills, what I am about, or who I am?
And just go existential.
4) The chick is definitely in to you, and now she's seeking rapport.
GIVE IT TO HER. Denying rapport to a chick that's seeking it is a sure way of talking yourself out of the pussy.
"I've got the best job ever..." and then
excitedly describe your job.
And from there you can easily lead into, "You're really smart, you should totally get into IT, IT'S AMAZING. We could start a company together. I get to be Steve Jobs you can be the Woz...wait how do you look in a turtleneck..."
There are tons and tons of ways to deal with this question (and any "test')
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Now back to 1 and 2
In pick up, the answers themselves aren't particularly important - it's the power play and the back and forth. Super crisp answers are nice to have, but you won't always have them.
That's okay though.
Keep in mind that chicks don't really listen to everything word for word. They just get the vibe that you give and go with it. So give them a vibe that you want to give them.
If you want to be a straight up player, it's all about figuring out how to push her buttons. So you use the conversation is a springboard for anything. Make her laugh, sad, jealous, angry, happy.
If you want to be more of an "alpha" style player, you don't really care what she thinks of what you do. And by not caring about her reaction, many chicks are intrigued by a man who cannot be swayed by a woman.
WIA